Fertility clinic refersl letter ? Confused

[millielaura]

Oh gosh see she said shed re refer to fertility and if they wouldnt take me shed refer to gynae. Will ring docs and find out. Appt booked for 17th May xxx

 

[millielaura]

Secretaty said they got the referral letter sent to fertilityand they didnt send back saying gynae so must be them? Xx

 

[snowbee]

I've heard some people get better results going through gyn rather than fert as you actually get treatment that helps you at gyn, they are out to solve your issues rather than just get you pg like fert so better for you in the long run.

 

[millielaura]

It confuses me so much lol. If its to do with cycle irregularity wont their automatic answer be the pill or could they give clomid too? Xx

 

[Trivita]

And just reading the nice guidlines again and if bmi is such a big thing why isnt the mans bmi taken into account ?

 

[millielaura]

Thats what I don't get.. surely the mans should count too.

I'm sooo near our bmi cut off point now lol I genuinly don't understand as been doing more excersize and using my fitness pall and eating around 1200 calories a day. Yet ive put on weight this week? Lol what. will end up so frustrated when im there if im too heavy haha im sorry but bmi cant make that much difference because theres people bigger than me having easy conception and healthy pregnancies. Just glad I have the private consultation as think they are a bit more lenient although was wanting to donate eggs at some point and bmi has to be 28 or under then and I'm literally under by a pound or two. Xx

 

[MrsS143]

And just reading the nice guidlines again and if bmi is such a big thing why isnt the mans bmi taken into account ?

I suppose they only need to produce decent sperm once
She needs to be healthy enough to carry a baby to term x

 

[millielaura]

True lol. They can be so strict though. I'm so much healthier now I have a bmi of 27.6 than I was when my bmi was 19 lol I used to eat ready meals, no fruit and veg and drink often. Now I always get my fruit and veg, have whole grains and never drink etc and whereas I always used to be ill I barely ever am now. Until I started ttc I was a cheerleader and had done karate most of my life. Yet theres slim people who eat rubbish and have never excersized lol surely someone bigger but healthier and fitter is more able to carry a baby? Xx

 

[MrsS143]

I think increased weight is statistically linked to higher risks of certain medical conditions maybe?

 

[millielaura]

These are my pics in relation to bmi lol

This was me recently. Bmi of 27.6 and almost too big for fertility treatment in my area! I'm not happy with my weight and do feel I need to lose weight but I don't feel as if I am too fat for treatment lol.

Haha excuse my sunglasses wearing dad in one of these pics :L . But this is me when I was 18/19 and bmi of 20 which is normal range.

In my opinion my normal was really quite slim?

I just don't know how to get to that normal range lol. My boobs in normal range where a size 32 B and now they are 36D lol. I dont want the number 36 in front of my size and I would be happy with a 32 again but surely 32B is small not the norm lol.
I am only 5 foot 1 and my frame is smallish so any fat on me and I look huge lol I've always had naturally big hips though bone wise and I'm sure they don't help lol.

Whilst I'm not happy with my weight now I don't think I should be encouraged to be the weight I was when I was 18/19... I hardly had a figure lol. I would maybe like to be in the middle of the two with a bmi of 23 ish? I am fatter than I would like but I definitely don't feel fat enough to be excluded from treatment lol I'l say so too if they start haha. Xx

 

[MrsS143]

These women all weigh exactly the same
Shows you how much it varies !!

And think of someone who's flat chested to someone who has big massive boobs that are like 2 bowling balls!

It should be measured on fat percentage
But that probably takes too long for them!

 

[millielaura]

I think your right I think increased weight is related to higher risk of GD and pre-eclampsia etc.
I'm just not sure whether bmi is the right way to measure it lol maybe waist size or something would be more reliable? Haha i'd probably fail on that as my waist atm is terrible but feel it gives a better indication than bmi. Im now too scared to excersize in case I put on muscle weight between now and consultation as that will make my bmi higher even though my waist line would be getting smaller lol. My appt next week is right before af due so i know il be bloated and I can add a few pounds on before af. Almost feel like I dont want to eat this week until the appointment just so on record I'm under bmi of 28 lol! Xx

 

[MrsS143]

Drink loads of water up til then itll flush out any retained water xx

 

[millielaura]

Thats crazy they all weigh the same lol! Thats so true lol what if someones had surgery and has huge boobs but everywhere else skinny.. theyre gonna weight more than someone average all over surely. Defo think it should be fat percentage haha! Xx

 

[millielaura]

Ooh good idea. Might have some of my detox tea also haha it has senna leaves in :L xxx

 

[MrsS143]

Holland and Barrett do slimatee
Its meant to help you 'go' lol
Drink them at bedtime x

 

[millielaura]

Just been on a 1 and a half hour walk haha hoping it helps.
Def going to be having the detox tea I think. LOL for some reason (this is tmi haha) if I give OH a BJ and swallow I get real bad diarrhea so he said all I need to do is to do that nightly to act as a laxative then I'l have lost water weight for Friday lmao cheeky bugger.
If I am only justtt over I will be telling them to reweigh me with no clothes on lmao. Thinking of wearing just a light cotton dress or something no jewellery etc haha. Anything to be under 28 :L xxx

 

[MrsS143]

Wear your lightest clothing definitely lol

 

[millielaura]

Will prob just wear a dress and cardi haha! No jewellery ha! I'm gonna be so nervous getting weighed. My docs notes says a bmi of 27.6 so I realllyy hope hes fine with that and doesn't reweigh haha! Xx