Feeling stupid and naive......

[Amelie30]

Well, I came off the pill in October and just thought that me and hubby would make love as usual and it would just happen - I know everyone says it can take up to a year, but I think a small part of me secretly thought it might happen straight away......I really dont want to get into charting, temps etc as I am a manic planner and dont want to take the fun out of it BUT am I just being stupidly naive to think it will just happen magically???

The last 2 months my cycle has settled into 31days (was irregular before that after the pill) so I have worked out my most fertile 4-5 days and we have BD every other day but is this enough? I should ovulate about today, so we have BD Sunday night and last night but working late tonight and tomorrow (I work nights) so wont have any opportunity to now until Friday and presume thats too late........ So that means I have only had 2 chances this month?? It just seems impossible and although I promised I would never be one of those people, its all I can think about every single minute of the day!
Sorry for the ramble

 

[SpaceAngel]

I have 3 children but have had 4 pregnanices, and I didn't chart with any of them. The only thing I did was roughly check when my most fertile days would be and made sure we made love on those days. This is the first time I have bought OPK's and thats just because I want to know when I ovulate out of curiosity. I think charting my temp etc would drive me nuts! The only thing I would do is check on fertility friend when your most fertile days will be and make love on those days, or just BD every other day through the whole month!

 

[HannahD]

I can't be doing with charting either as it made me slightly neurotic about it all last year!! I do use the ov kits just because I find it helpful to know my fertile times and we bd as and when over that time. I had no idea about my cycle so they were great in figuring out what was going on with my body.

I thought it would be easy too to get pregnant but it took us 20 months from me having the implant out to actually getting pregnant but sadly it didn't work out for us.

I think the best thing to do is stay as relaxed about it as possible because the stress of ttc can sometimes be a hinderance.

Good luck and I hope you get your bfp soon

 

[sam27]

dont feel stupid hun, i think we all secretly hope that we would be one of the lucky ones that it happens to straight away

i know what you mean about the charting i am driving myself mad with it all

 

[Rock-Angel]

you have no reason to feel stupid or naive, like others have said, we to also thought it would `(should!) happen to us straight away! I have been trying now about 4 months and apart from watching when I am OV I havent charted or anything (personally cant be botherd!) for some people charting works others it doesnt, everyones different
just relax and enjoy yourselfs

 

[BabyTime!]

Hey,
Completely agree I think you are doing enough. I am doing exactly the same and just watching when Im supposed to ov and keeping fingers crossed etc.
In a years time or so if nothing happens I might start looking at other things but for now I want to stay as calm (im not very) about everything, you can't help but feel the chances are still so small anyway!

Stay positive!

xx

 

[CalicoBec]

Hey,

I don't want to get into charting of any kind, I'm not even sure I can as my periods are so irregular? My partner really wants a baby but he doesn't want a crazy girlfriend either haha I told him that I will stay calm (when I tend to want something or plan to do something, i always tend to go a little over the top to get what I want, done my way). I can see charting driving me and him nuts, so, for now at least, i'm not doing it.

Good Luck

Becca

 

[puds]

welcome!!

i, like u came off the pill and secretly hoped i would be 1 of the lucky ones that got pregnant straight away- unfortunately i didn't!! i came off pill last june and after 1 really long cycle i had 2 regular ones but now i am back to square 1!!
there are things other than charting u can do, but as u realise making sure u have sex at ur fertile time is really important. to find ur fertile time u can either work out ur average cycle length then count back approx 14 days from the 1st day of ur period, use opks to detect when u are going to ovulate or u can check ur cervical mucus each day- it should be watery leading up to ov and resemble egg white when u are most fertile.

make sure u have sex every 2 or 3 days througout ur cycle so that u don't miss out. u are right not to get too technical or stressed about it at first but if u don't have any progress after a year or so u may find charting helps u understand what is going on.

1 more quick thing charting is probably more useful if ur cycles are irregular as u ovulate at different times each cycle. if u are regular u will have a general idea of when u are fertile.

Good luck, hopefully some of this waffle is useful!!!

xx