i lost my baby girl at 14 weeks and 5 days, last august. my moods have been up and down but the last few days i made the mistake of wondering how old she should have been right now and i really wish i hadn't.
also everywhere i look i'm seeing my friends family and neighbours giving birth or announcing their pregnancies. i feel bitter and resentful and then i feel ashamed of myself for those feelings. i cant stop crying.
i have been told by my diabetes team that i cant try again until after february, they want my blood sugars to be excellent but the waiting is killing me! it took us nearly 4 years to conceive my baby girl and i want to be a mummy so bad.
my family were really supportive of me when i told them, my mum and older sister had both been through it. my mum went on to have 3 children and my sister has 2 beautiful children. this was my first pregnancy and i thought because i was into my second trimester it was going to be ok and that i wouldn't loose her like my mom and sister did with their first.
i don't know what i would have done without my partner, he's been rock. even he was weepy eyed when i mentioned how old she should have been, and that just made me feel worse because he never has a cry where i can see him. i feel like such a failure. everyone tells me it wasn't my fault but i feel so guilty. i've been diabetic 6 years now and blood sugars spiralled out of control, all i can think is that if i had kept my blood sugars under control she would be here right now and i wouldn't be writing this.
thanks for listening.
also everywhere i look i'm seeing my friends family and neighbours giving birth or announcing their pregnancies. i feel bitter and resentful and then i feel ashamed of myself for those feelings. i cant stop crying.
i have been told by my diabetes team that i cant try again until after february, they want my blood sugars to be excellent but the waiting is killing me! it took us nearly 4 years to conceive my baby girl and i want to be a mummy so bad.
my family were really supportive of me when i told them, my mum and older sister had both been through it. my mum went on to have 3 children and my sister has 2 beautiful children. this was my first pregnancy and i thought because i was into my second trimester it was going to be ok and that i wouldn't loose her like my mom and sister did with their first.
i don't know what i would have done without my partner, he's been rock. even he was weepy eyed when i mentioned how old she should have been, and that just made me feel worse because he never has a cry where i can see him. i feel like such a failure. everyone tells me it wasn't my fault but i feel so guilty. i've been diabetic 6 years now and blood sugars spiralled out of control, all i can think is that if i had kept my blood sugars under control she would be here right now and i wouldn't be writing this.
thanks for listening.