feeling lonely - bit of a moan

[Ginnymarie]

Hi guys

most of my maternity I have been ok, with the help of my mother-in-law and the forum I have not been too lonely but over the last few days with a bad cold and relentless nausea I have felt really lonely.

There is a lovely cafe in my town where mums take their babies, I have been once on my own but it made me feel worse sitting there with hello for company and women chatting around me.

I used my initiative by joining an 'expectant parent and baby group' which is on in our local leisure centre on a wed am and went along x2, everyone is really nice but I am the only pregnant lady and the other girls have babies from 8 weeks to 6months, they are already in wee groups and I don't feel part of the baby club just yet, I tried to initate going for coffee with a few girls and they took my number but have not been in touch.

I am starting to loose my confidence being away from work I think.

I have joined netmums but have not initiated anything yet.

anyone else feeling a bit in er limbo land

Nevermind, there are always cupboards to clean, this should keep my mind of being lonely

xx

So, I won't despair, determined to enjoy my maternity and get out and about but may have to do it alone for the time being, I do miss my friends at work.

 

[Jade&Evie]

 

[Bloom]

It sounds to me like you have already made the right steps to meeting some new people, dont give up with the groups as next week there could be someone new there and im sure once baby is here you will feel you fit in more. The hardest bit is going for the first week and breaking the ice it can only get better from here.

I too have spent some time looking at baby clubs i could go to around my local area but i havent found anything for pregnant people so im having to wait till baby is here before i will join any.

 

[tots hope]

 

[clarey]

I know how you feel, all my family and friends are in the south and since I finished work I can go all day without speaking to anyone other than the cats till OH gets home! I feel like a sad old lady!
I am hoping that once the baby is here I will probably bump into some other Mums that I did my antenatal classes with and make some new friends.

It is hard though, I am sure our LOs will be a great icebreaker!

 

[Happybunny]

Sorry you're feeling this way, well done you on being proactive though!!

Are you going to any ante-natal classes or breast feeding workshops?

I made friends with a lovely group of women through my NCT classess and we do a few things together like go for coffee and lunch etc.

It wont be too long and you will have your little one here and that might make integrating into the toddler groups a bit easier.

 

[muppetmummy]

I agree that it will be easier to socialise once babys here. There will probably be baby massage groups and things you can take baby to. Your health visitor will probably know whats available in your area, they are normally keen to get new mums out of the house

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Ah sweet heart
i know of some of what your going through
i havnt seen my friends since i became preggers
and with james a way a lot im stuck in the house on my own

i feel for you hunny and has been said try and join clubs that have expectent mums .

big hugs from me and you can pm me any time for a girly chat
sarah

 

[Kimbo]