feeling crap today

[Rubys mummy]

2 days since biirth, been ok until an hour ago....in hozzie and Ruby wouldnt settle. breastfeeding and she was rooting every hour since 10am...she latches on for 20 mins, then feeds..nods off and is swalkig again in another hour.my nipples are red raw and iam so weepy.

midwife just took her, and cup feed her 15ml at my request and she has settled for now

i hate seing her cry and cant help her, i feel useless

does it get easier??? anyone wth BFing probs like this??

 

[budge]

breastfeeding is hard work first time round zoe! persevere chick and it will all turn out good in the end. the first 5 days are vile becasue you are learning and so is bubba!

get alll the help you can from your midwife and just concentrate on ruby for a while and fook everything else.

 

[Jaidy]

Ahhhhh Zoe sorry to hear your feeling crud, your doing so good for peservering though! Zac was having none of it!!!!

When will you be able to come home? You might start to feel a bit 'bluey' in a couple days but dont worry its totally normal.

All these changes eh? Takes a bit of getting used to but I bet your doing great twinny

 

[Alfiesmummy]

ah Zoe hun its normal to feel down just keep at it, I didnt BF but even so I know you must be feeling down so just keep at it, a few days youll have the hang of it ask for help when you need it they are there to help you

 

[Tasha20]

Awww hunny your doing really well, persivere and like Budge said, fook all the house work and anything else just concentrate on Ruby, it is so worth it in the end hun and it does get easier I promice!!

I felt like you and it was hard for the first 2 half weeks but it did get easier, my milk supply is great and me and Olivia are doing well with it, it takes practice with both of you.

Read my signature hun, it says it all

 

[EllieG]

Hiya Zoe. try and get the midwives to watch you positioning her, I breastfed the girls and had the same problems, once you get the positioning sorted it should be easier, Good luck x

 

[Rubys mummy]

blues kicked in this afternoon when i felt i couldnt cope with her not settling after every feed..she is screaming on the hour every hour and i feel such a failure

going to see what happens and try to carry on till milk kicks in...its so hard

i am missing lee tonight too, and want to go home

sorry for moaning xxxx

 

[Vicki83]

Aw Zoe

 

[sarah113]

aww hun

 

[budge]

blues kicked in this afternoon when i felt i couldnt cope with her not settling after every feed..she is screaming on the hour every hour and i feel such a failure

going to see what happens and try to carry on till milk kicks in...its so hard

i am missing lee tonight too, and want to go home

sorry for moaning xxxx

once that milk comes in baby will be soooooooo happy!
tomorrow you'll notice a difference zoe!
keep it up you're doing great!

 

[rusks]

just wanted to send you big hugs zoe i hope you are feeling better today

 

[LucyBee]

Hi Zoe,
I'm not breastfeeding at the moment - having big troubles in that department - but am trying to express now.
I'm really weepy and emotional too. It's completely normal. I started crying one night in hospital for the same reason - I just couldn't get Tom to settle and I felt like a complete failure. The midwife took him for a couple of hours so I could sleep but I just cried because I felt so bad and like I'd let him down. I talked to the midwife about it and she said it's normal. Hormones plus life changing experience!
You'll be ok Zoe. You're doing a brilliant job. All your little girl needs is grub, sleep and LOVE and I'm sure you giving her plenty of all of those.
Lucyx

 

[Strangeness]

I was the same hun! Once I got to day 3 I was an emotional wreck! Aaron was also screaming all the time and it was so hard! It feels like everything is on top of you and you can't cope. It's totally normal though and it does get a lot better I promise. Once you're home and a bit more settled you'll feel a lot better. I felt awful because I couldn't sleep in the hospital and I missed my husband so much and with the baby crying non stop it didn't help. Seriously you're doing a brilliant job and it'll get better I promise you. It's hard especially when you're trying to recover from a c section too.

 

[Urchin]

Aw sorry to hear this.

Its all very normal, soon you will both get a bit more used to it, you're doing great. Hope you're feeling better soon.

 

[Mrs_Jay]

awww zoe hope you're feeling better and can come home soon xx

 

[Duds]

hey Zoe,

Reading your message sent me down memory lane! I know everyone is different & every baby is different at feeding but it does get easier than this - believe me.
I never really had much prob with aimee latching on but she used to have a bit, sleep, bit more, sleep, cry, cry & they seem to give up quickly if it doesnt come straight away.
Stick with it if you can but do what you feel is right, if its making you misrable then stop, its not worth you being unhappy.

I found the baby blues lasted for about a week where i cried every day over nothing at all & generally feeling guilty all the time which i still dont know why but it does go.

take care
x

 

[Rubys mummy]

After a bad few days and nights in hospital, I switched to bottle feeding..she was so hungry she screamed morning, noon and night. we were both so distressed and my boobs were so sore.

She is like a different baby now, so content and feeding really really well. I am so relaxed and happy now that I know I have made the right decision for us both

Thanks for all your support girls xxx

 

[EllieG]

So pleased things have gotten better for you, it'd obviously the right decsision, you sound like the weight of the world has been lifted!!!
Take care and enjoy her!

 

[Gemma & Jake]

I had to stay in hospital for 6 days with Jake because he had jaundice and wouldn't feed. It was so upsetting as he got dehydrated and I felt like a failure. I had to hand express and got really tiny amounts for the first four days but then it became easier o express once my milk came in and eventually he took to the breast on day five. I found it difficult because although most of the staff were lovely one would tell you to express one way and then another one would say you were doing it wrong and to do it another way. I really missed my O/H when he had to go home aswell especially when I was exhausted and Jake was crying all night. To be honest I didn't really enjoy the first couple of days and felt guilty for feeling like that but it does get better and give it a week or two and you should be fine. I love being a mum now and wouldn't change it for the world. Remember what you have been through.

 

[mummykay]

Ruby will b fine on formula, so long as she is feeding and sleeping little madam will b dandy!
congrats again zoe!!