Feeling a bit neglected

[Fly]

I am sure this is all just because I am hormonally challenged at the minute but am feelin a bit miffed with one of my mates.
She had a baby last year and i made sure to send her little texts now n then and find out how she was gettin on...went to see her loads after the baby was born n my mate gave me a lovely christmas card that said Sister on it.. She had a really shitty time in the relationship so i was kinda there for her loads...
But now I am pregnant i might aswell not exist at the minute I feel like she's distancing herself from me loads and i not sure if its intentional or if its just cos she's got loads of fun stuff goin on for her at the minute and muggins here is out of sight out of mind Thing is.. I know as soon as her head wobbles it'll be me that listens to it all and gives out the advice.. but am startin to feel that is all i am to her Few people think she is a selfish woman and am startin to think they are right but i don't wanna be feeling like this.. it wouldn't have hurt her to text at some point over this last month just to say hiya am thinkin of ya.. which means that she blatantly aint thinkin about me eh? n that kinda hurts

 

[NickyB]

Aw, I don't know what to say. That would drive me nuts.

Some 'mates' are just like that

 

[Fly]

I've just messaged a mutual friend of ours to find out if i ave done sommat to upset her at all - am sure its just me bein uberly oversensitive at the minute Thanks though Nicky tis nice to know that someone else woudl feel a bit weird about that situation x x x

 

[Hazel]

People drift apart as they get older and have less in common. I would text her a couple of times, she if she makes an effort, if not then move on.

 

[Chrissy1]

I'm having a similar thing with one of my friends at the moment. Last year she was pregnant with her little girl and even though I was moving house and planning a wedding (which she was a bridesmaid too!!) I still made sure I at least text or called her at least once a week to ask how she was and how the pregnancy was going.

The other day I text her to ask if I could pop round and see her because I'd not heard from her in a couple of weeks and it took her 4 days to reply to me!!!! I know she's busy because her daughter is nearly one now but a text takes about a minute to type!!

Oh well..... ask me again in a years time how much time I've got to mail my mates and I'm sure i'll feel different

 

[Mildly]

Aww It is hard when friends back off a bit. I feel a bit guilty because I'm the opposite way - I just want to be left alone and have my last few weeks in peace without being bothered

Maybe your friend is probably quite busy with her LO. Perhaps she wants to keep her distance as maybe she felt that people were hounding/bothering her towards the end of her pregnancy I would text her and let her know you're feeling a bit lonely, I'm sure she'll be round to help cheer you up in a flash!

 

[dannii87]

Hugs for you Fly Sometimes in life we are just a pair of ears to someone.

I really hope your friend realises what she's missing out on and contacts you xx

 

[Fly]

Well I heard back from my other friend who said that the neglectful friend is very much wrapped up in her own little world at the minute to the exclusion of everyone else unfortunatley...she does this from time to time so now I know its not just me gettin the silent treatment there is quite a few of us...thanks for the kind words ladies xxxx

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

I understand how your feeling hun I've found certain "friends" don't seem to want to know anymore. Unfortunatly thats life. Try not to worry about it too much and concentrate on you and your LO