feel like everything is piling up on top of me :(

[prettypenguin]

I don't know if it's just the hormones or something but today I just can't stop crying! I don't even know what has triggered it off really...today me my OH and Charlie were supposed to be going for a walk to the shops just to get out as we've not been out since he was born on weds except for coming home from the hospital on thurs. To me it felt like a really big deal I don't even know why, I didn't want to go out at all and today I just felt ready for it, plus I need to go to the chemist to get some stuff for colic and I'm in quite a lot of pain as I had stitches and paracetamol seems to be doing nothing.

Anyway, we got ready to go out and just as we were about to go out my OH auntie and uncle turned up, which I didn't really mind as I knew they were coming, but I told them late afternoon and they turned up at 1, but I still didn't mind as they didn't stay for long, and then we got ready to go out again and then his brother decides he wants to come right this minute so we're waiting in, and I'm getting frustrated because all I want is to just go for a bloody walk with my baby, and I don't like or get on with his brother anyway as he's too hyper and loud for my liking.

So now my OHs brother, sister and mum are round being all loud and I'm sat upstairs crying like I've been doing all day. I was worried about taking Charlie out in case he gets too cold, I was worried about him when I sat in the garden with him, and now I'm worrying something will happen to him downstairs because his brother is like a bull in a china shop, and I've developed this obsession with people passing germs onto him and making him ill, whenever anyone has a cold and is holding him I sit there stressing out in my head and my OHs mums house is really dirty and scruffy and now she'll have brought all her germs

And now I'm annoyed because if they stay here for ages it will get too dark/cold/late to go out and get the stuff from the chemist or go for a walk, I know it's not the end of the world but I was so built up and excited just to go out with him and now we can't go out.

I feel really mean for being like this, I guess I'm just stressed out with the amount of people coming round and wanting to hold him and arguing over who's turn it is, wanting to feed him and constantly touching him and poking his face and messing about I just feel like saying he's my baby leave him alone.

I really don't want to be one of those overprotective mums who stress over every little thing, early hours of this morning I couldn't sleep as I'd had 2 really bad nightmares and was scared of going back to sleep and something happening to him in the night

What the fudge is wrong with me at all? I was not maternal or worried before he was born now I can't leave him alone, it's hurting me to be sat upstairs without him even though I know my OH wouldn't let anything bad ever happen to him.

 

[karenandbump]

Hey hon, first of all big hugs cos u sound like u need them. If bubs is five days old I'd say ur on the middle of baby blues and the crying is a part of that. Tell oh it's all just too much today and tomorrow and to tell visitors to bog off to give u a break x x x

 

[lisey27]

Awww pretty penguin. I feel for you
I think all of what you are feeling is perfectly natural. I remember my mum saying to me that 3 days after baby is born you get the 'blues'. This could be one of those old wives tales but I am guessing there is some truth in it, due to hormone changes.
I was the same as you a few days after being home with my son, didnt feel like having loads of people around, had awfully painful stitches...People just get wrapped up in the excitement of LO arrival but don't really think about how exhausting and overwhelming it is for you.
I remember sitting in my room, crying cos my brother had come round with his son and they were being loud. I just wanted it to be quiet. I was ok after a day or so. I am sure so many new mums feel the same.

Don't feel mean or guilty in any way, you have a new baby and your body has been through alot physically and emotionally, don't be too hard on yourself xxx

 

[Sarah13]

Don't worry it's totally normal to feel like you do. I've cried loads over nothing last few weeks, it's hard being so hormonal. I think you need a little break from visitors for a couple of days, it can get too much, just put people off for a day or two now to rest and get to know your LO. Oh I've also become the same about germs, makes me feel quite tense esp when you hear scary stories. I tend to hog him so people can't pass him about if I don't want them too! Hope you get out for your walk, the fresh air will do you good x

 

[ZMD]

totally normall how your feeling Hun, i remember spending days crying over nothing once your hormones settle down you'll be ok. hope you get out for the walk it'll help being just the 3 of you, visitors drove me crazy after a few days xx

 

[BabysMomma]

Visitors can be so annoying, overwhelming and stressful. Especially when you're feeling sore and tired. See if youbor your hubby can explain to people that you both need a few days without visitors to be able to catch up on some sleep and get into some sort of routine with bubba. I'm sure they'll understand if put into that context.

Awk massive for you hunni. Hope you feel better soon. x

 

[littlemiss83]

If it happens again I would just go & take the baby & go for your walk, just say sorry I have to take him, we've arranged to go out, put him in his buggy & go. It will do him no harm to be out in the cold, at all, as long as he has a hat & jacket & blankets he'll be fine. It doesn't matter if you OH goes with you or not, you can still go out yourself!!

Try not to worry about germs ect either, I think most new mums are like this, he'll be fine. Its normal to be a bit over-cautious.

Maybe if your still feeling really down, go to the doctors & see if all is ok, its normal to be teary but to spend all day crying it sounds like something might not be quite right. Just tell yourself its been a bad day & see how you are tomorrow!!

 

[meggymum]

dont worry hun, you see visitors when YOU want and not when they decide they want to come round! take care of yourself and you will soon be feeling better. xx

 

[Binzy]

Visitors can also be dying to help in some way, think of tasks to actually give them when they say 'if you need anything'. That helped me a bit but I also found/find it all overwhelming.

 

[Franna75]

You poor thing - i know exactly how you feel...it does get better. If you haven't had chance to go for your walk make sure you do it tomorrow. I cried for so many reasons in the first few weeks - just seeing my beautiful baby made me sob and I couldn't work out why! Its all very overwhelming. I was paranoid something would happen to him, me, him, me....but you'll be fine. Have a NO visitor policy until the weekend, then you'll be looking forward to it....x

 

[pinkymum]

Awwww it sounds quite natural at this stage as some of the others have said. The first week I had Emily home I obsessed about SIDs. And then colic started etc and I was Knackered etc. But it did pass. I don't have much more to add but if you carry on feeling like this for a while talk to your HV or doc

 

[riotfox]

I got overwhelmed by visitors and just wanted to cry so I spoke to OH and we decided on a no visitor day. We made sure we told everybody and they all understood. You need your time as a family. Also if you don't want anybody else to feed him say so. From the start I made it clear it was only me and OH to give him his bottles. That way you always get them back for a little bit when visitors are over. xx

 

[Bunnykins]

Big hugs, don't worry it will soon pass, I was the same I cried all the time first 2 weeks, I was either totally overwhelmed with how much I loved him, or crying cos I was worried about him, I'd have random worries about him, and first time we took him out in the pram I felt sick. I am not an emotional person or a worrier it was all just hormones, what helped me was a ban on visitors and when I felt wobbly I told myself it was hormones and talked over my feelings with hubby then allowed myself to cry and be paranoid but knowing it was harmless hormones and me just being silly, that way I felt much better afterward as it wasn't bottled up but I had some perspective too and hubby knew how to handle me as id talked it through with him. After 2 weeks I'm fine, much more 'stable' and enjoying everything now, I take bubs everywhere now we go for lunch, cinema, on the bus etc!!! It will pass hon but talk to your oh don't bottle it up no matter how crazy you think you sound!! Limit it to one set of visitors a day and have a days break of no visitors in-between. It's all new and overwhelming so just don't put any pressure on yourself hon xxx

 

[prettypenguin]

Thank you all so much I spoke to OH and we've had no visitors for most of this last week and we haven't been out apart from Charlies heel prick test but Im planning on walking round the town centre with the pram- I need to get used to pushing it as I can't even steer Asda trollies lol! X