feel like a bad mummy today

[elisesmum]

My first is 4 years old and goes to nursery daily i have been that ill with morning sickness that i have had to get someone to take her to nursery everyday but today i have no one to take her so i've had to let her have the day off, i had to lie to my ex partner that she has fell asleep because i can't be doing with the stress of him having a go, now i feel awful as i know my daughter loves nursery but i cant be away from the toilet, my daughter is suffering bacause of this because its only once in a blue moon that i can go out and thats usy to work where lately i have got sent home for. All i keep hearing is that it will go soon but i cant cope much longer its making me depressed, my poor 4 year old is suffering and i just feel like a complete and utter failure as a parent i would love to talk to someone but no one around me apart from my partner ( who witnessed how bad it is this morning) understands. i've lost weight im pale my hair is falling out in clumps and just look and feel like death, sorry for this moan but your the only people that probably know how bad it can be xx

 

[Jessywoohoo]

You sound very poorly and I feel for you, have been through the same thing and and to be admitted to hosp as so was dehydrated, but unlike you I didn't have the extra worry of looking after another little one, it must be very difficult but can completely understand you feeling too ill to take her to nursery. Don't worry one day will not matter and no way are you a bad mum!! Don't even think that. Are you managing to keep any fluids down? or are you taking any anti sickness medication? Xx

 

[elisesmum]

Sorry i just realised how bad some of my spelling is..stupid phone, i was on anti-sickness tablets but they did bugger all and made me throw up most of my food and mostly water which is what i needed because doctor said i was very dehydrated, i was ment to be admitted to hospital but refused because of my daughter and gave me two days to improve but i never went back as i new i would go into hosp but did try and get more fluids down me, im probably managing to keep a 500ml bottle down without being sick afterwards, and finally managing a few bites of a meal a day but im too scared to go back to doctors as i really do not want to be admitted to hospital, how long was it before yours improved if you dont mind me asking xx

 

[So_hopeful81]

To make you feel better - I have done the exact same thing for different reasons! I am so tired and am struggling to sleep at night!
Usually my fiancé takes my daughter to Pre school in the morning. Unfortunately, this morning he had to leave home 2 hrs earlier than usual as he is on a training course. As a result, I was supposed to take her. But I just couldn't. I'm still laying in bed right now! I did try to get up, but couldn't manage it and had to come back to bed!

My 4 year old is very happy and watching mamma Mia in my room. I know that I would never usually do this with her- but I haven't even got the energy to beat myself up about it!

Don't feel bad! Your 4 year old would definitely argue with you and tell you that you are a great mummy! Sometimes you just have to give yourself a break!
Xxxx

 

[elisesmum]

Thank you so much for that so hopeful you have just made me feel so much better knowing that im the only one, never knew pregnancy was such hard work my first pregnancy was perfect think im nieve by thinking this one would be, im the same some days im just too exhausted to even get out of bed. I think its my hormones that are making me beat myself up about it, deep down i know she is more than happy to sit and watch cbeebies but for some reason can't stop feeling bad, think i need a good talking to by the hubby when he gets home so he can tell me to stop beating myself up over nothing lol xx

 

[Jessywoohoo]

Oh you poor poor thing, well I'm eleven and half weeks now and only just starting to feel alot better. The past couple of weeks have been better as been eating and drinking more than I have been able to. Not being sick anymore (touch wood) which feels like heaven. So there is light at the end of tunnel. At times I felt so so low and didn't know how I could cope any longer but honestly it will get better. It's hard regarding the anti sickness tablets, I had a tablet called ondansetron from an obstetric consultant and it helped loads. I didn't want to take tablet in first tri but I couldn't cope any longer. Honestly I really commend that you are still battling through at home and admire you, but make sure you are well enough to be at home cause extreme hyperemesis can sometimes lead to problems. Have a little look at forums for people with hyperemesis. Its good to hear from other people going through it to know your not alone, but if you are really struggling please please please go to gp/ hospital ( I know easier said than done with other commitments) but you need to keep yourself healthy for yourself, your little ones xx

 

[Water_Melon]

You're definitely not a failure!
But if this bad sicknesses carries on, I would really recommend taking a trip to the doctors again. Even if you are taken into hospital, it'll be for the best for your unborn baby.
I hope it gets better soon! Goodluck xx

 

[So_hopeful81]

Thank you so much for that so hopeful you have just made me feel so much better knowing that im the only one, never knew pregnancy was such hard work my first pregnancy was perfect think im nieve by thinking this one would be, im the same some days im just too exhausted to even get out of bed. I think its my hormones that are making me beat myself up about it, deep down i know she is more than happy to sit and watch cbeebies but for some reason can't stop feeling bad, think i need a good talking to by the hubby when he gets home so he can tell me to stop beating myself up over nothing lol xx

Honestly! It's fine!

Don't forget that the first time around, you weren't responsible for another little person. I know that I have found this pregnancy harder at times, because the ability to rest when you need isn't always easy to do anymore!

I am feeling a bit better today - so my daughter is up and dressed (by my fiancé) and I am just about to go and make her breakfast! I dont feel guilty about yesterday at all - because I know how much I needed it!

I hope that you are feeling a bit better today too!!!

 

[elisesmum]

Thank you so much every one you all made me feel so much better i am feeling alot better today, my daughters father came round last night and wasnt even bothered about her being off and was even stood chatting with me so wasnt bothered at all, i think i was just so emotional yesterday, i was feeling very sorry for myself but today my mood is alot better.. Sickness still bad but sat and listened to babys heart beat last night which put a little smile on my face knowing all this is worth it in the end... Thank you so much i think it helps knowing that i'm not the only one going through this xxx