Fed up. Rant.

[violet13]

My oh keeps snapping at me when he's tired or has a headache he suffers with them so god help him when the baby is here I know all he wants to do when he's home is chill out but things need to be done and he's not getting it. He moaned because we had people
Collecting old packing boxes which they need and because I offered to look after a friends per when she is away and honestly it's too much I'm tired too and id love to just sit about and play Xbox but things need to be kept tidy and clean not just for baby but in general the toilets are disgusting he never cleans them with the brush I always do it and I've left it for 3 weeks it's vile. If was gonna be like this when the baby is here I am so done. Xx just needed to get that off my chest.

 

[Sugar10]

Oh no , men can be such lazy pigs! they really don't get it. Hope things get better soon x x

 

[H16]

Sorry to hear you are still having issues with him hun, thought he would of got it after your last conversation with him x

 

[violet13]

I'm just sick of being spoken to in a nasty way just because he's tired it's gonna get worse when the baby's here. Also just got a txt from a friend who hasn't bothered with me and doesn't want kids saying she thinks she's pregnant utghh had this txt so many times even before I got my bfp as a way to rub it in my face when we thought we couldn't have kids. Don't even know if I should reply. Xxx

 

[xjdx]

I think it's just men in general hun. Since I've started my maternity leave I think my OH thinks that I'm just here to clean and he doesn't have to lift a finger. He's been helping his brother set up his new business. Which is nice of him, but when you have a pregnant wife and three kids at home and hes doing 10-12 hours a day for free it really annoys me. My wooden flooring has still not been finished in the hallway so I can put the pram in there.

Oh and today he decided to tell me the company who have made and are going to fit my blinds rung two days ago wanting to know what day they can't fit them. FML!!!

I also told him that he can't go and help out next Wednesday on my due date because i am getting a sweep.
Obviously it's the school holidays and the kids can't be there. Plus my mum is on holiday so I've nobody to watch them.
He's moaned like a bitch ever since.

Your not the only one with a pain in the bum husband at the moment. I keep asking him why he comes home at night what's the point xx

 

[violet13]

Oh Hun, that's really awful. I hope he pulls his finger out. Just because you have 3 kids and another on the way doesn't mean you don't need the help! Hope things sort themselves out. What do you think I should do over this friend? I've kinda lost my temper a bit as it seems like she just needs the attention and it's beyond irritating me it's like she has to have that attention. Also her boyfriend is still in college and has no job and she really
Doesn't want kids xxx

 

[MrsS143]

People change
If you want her as a friend then reply...if not then ignore her x

 

[violet13]

Well I txt back and she's freaking out, but won't test as she's scared. She said she couldn't abort and couldn't give it up for adoption but she's scared of how her boyfriend will react. I know she's not pregnant as she's got very iffy cycles and she's not learnt her lesson after maybe 5 scares now as in she keeps having unprotected sex and claims the birth control is making her ill. I know damn well the boyfriend will either leave or ask her to get rid of it he's too young as in 19 and she's 26 soon and she said she couldn't handle being a single parent so honestly as someone who was v careful up until I wanted a baby I have no sympathy she could of prevented it and yet chose not to and now could possibly end up with a baby which she doesn't want which isn't fair to the baby at all. I wasn't raised old fashioned but my mum and dad taught me if you want a baby and love it it'll know that and I've seen kids who weren't wanted by their parents they aren't happy kids but not all kids in loving families feel loved either in some cases. I just don't understand why she wasn't careful. Xxx

 

[H16]

If someone really doesn't want a baby and can't use the pill etc they will use condoms. I would be inclined to think that as this has happened multiple times now that she probably secretly wants a baby and is just saying she doesn't etc as a defense mechanism as she knows her boyfriend doesn't want one. Just a hunch x

 

[violet13]

I think so too. I think she just doesn't want to be alone she ended up hoarding animals at one point which died due to neglect also her dogs pretty nasty as in it goes for people and other dogs so if she is its her own fault it's an excuse xxx

 

[Bubbles22]

We both used to be really lazy in the house violet but now we have got into a routine that we both spend 20 mins in the evening doing a general tidy up and on a Saturday we spend 2 hours doing a deep clean. It's all about routine and a bit of give and take on his side. Hope u get sorted x

 

[kumber]

I can understand why you're getting frustrated hun, I've had to work out a system with hubby where he will ask what jobs need doing and if there's nothing, he is free to game. I'm trying to strike a fair balance with him as he does a lot with LO and I am more able to do things now baby has shifted position.

Conversely, when you have bubs you ain't gonna give a hoot over the state of the house so I would start practicing now! I am driven insane by the constant state of things but on the other hand, I really don't care. I'd rather be crawling around on the floor with my lb than going through the literally enormous box of washing I need to get through. We are messy people by nature and I have become worse since having Riley. Mess is no biggie now, as long as things are clean.

Personally, I would take a step back and chill out. He's probably massively overwhelmed with everything and is using the xbox to escape.