Enforced break from TTC - I am so sad

[CARNAT22]

So after spending the past 6 months either TTC, being preggers or going through a miscarriage I have finally got an appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

However it means that I am now on a break from TTC, which is depressing me

We are NTNP as I couldn't face going back to condoms and of course we really shouldn't get pregnant until I know what is wrong?? I don't want M/c number 4. So we've avoided my fertile times and to be honest we've had very little sex this month !!

I just feel so sad today - I have to wait at least another 2 periods and quite frankly I am not getting any younger.

I saw a friend last night who is heavily pregnant [and she is so miserable, she has had a horrible pregnancy bless her] but I think it's just hit home how far away I am from having a baby??

TTC is hard going, not being able to TTC is awful.

I know I need to be patient BUT I am so frustrated.

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[BabyBrain]

This wait will be more than worth it once you get to cuddle your LO hunny. You need to know what's going wrong and what you can do to stop it next time.

It seems a long way away now but it will happen soon enough and next time you will have a healthy and happy pregnancy. Wishing you all the best love xxxxxxxxx

 

[PINK BUTTERFLY]

I wish you luck in your future hun! x

 

[Karate Kid]

Big hugs to you, I can only imagine what it is like but as BabyBrain said you need to know what is going wrong.

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[Sophie Johnson]

 

[CARNAT22]

Thanks ladies - I know I need to find out why I am unable to stay pregnant and I will try to get the appointment moved forward LOL!

I don't want another M/c, I've had enough M/c's to last me a lifetime.

I just feel so very far away from having a healthy pregnacy let alone ever having a baby

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[Jayjay027]

I know it seems like a massive step backwards, but its actually a big step forwards. You're taking these steps to ensure that your next pregnancy goes full term, 2 months will seem like no time when you have your LO xx

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[BabyBrain]

Ring the clinic and tell them you are available to go on the cancellation list. Chances are with Christmas, illnesses and the crappy weather that some women will have to cancel and you can jump in.

Try to keep your chin up hun, this is a really positive step and as much a part of your baby's journey as the pregnancy will be.

I'm writing a little ttc book (if I can remember it all ) for Bertie's memory box so when he's older and I am gone he'll remember just how desperately his mummy and daddy wanted and prayed for him. Maybe you could do the same, writing things down is great therapy as we all know and your LO will know forever how hard you had to try and how much you wanted them too xxxxxxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Ring the clinic and tell them you are available to go on the cancellation list. Chances are with Christmas, illnesses and the crappy weather that some women will have to cancel and you can jump in.

Try to keep your chin up hun, this is a really positive step and as much a part of your baby's journey as the pregnancy will be.

I'm writing a little ttc book (if I can remember it all ) for Bertie's memory box so when he's older and I am gone he'll remember just how desperately his mummy and daddy wanted and prayed for him. Maybe you could do the same, writing things down is great therapy as we all know and your LO will know forever how hard you had to try and how much you wanted them too xxxxxxx

I will give the clinic a call tomorrow - I have been meaning to do that all week actually...

The TTC memoir sounds like a fab idea and I thoroughly agree that writing things down is wonderful therapy, especially as my OH has very little patience when I talk about this part of our lives... he just see's it as going over old ground, looking back as opposed to looking forward etc - and he has a point I guess. It's just when I have days like this I need his support not his "positivity". I'd prefer him not to say anything to be honest!

xxxxxx

 

[TORino]

Aw sorry to read this hun, for what it's worth I reckon it's the lesser of the two evils putting the TTC on hold for a little while. It wouldn't be very nice if you had another mc.

Can you focus on xmas and all of the lovely things associated with it that you can enjoy?

I hope the time passes quickly hun and you get some answers at your appointment xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Aw sorry to read this hun, for what it's worth I reckon it's the lesser of the two evils putting the TTC on hold for a little while. It wouldn't be very nice if you had another mc.

Can you focus on xmas and all of the lovely things associated with it that you can enjoy?

I hope the time passes quickly hun and you get some answers at your appointment xx

Well I do have two massive bottles of Bailey's with my name on them

I am not usually this downbeat, I guess spending the evening with a heavily pregnant friend really bought it home.

I hope my time will come (in fact I know it will) but I just need a little bit of help getting there.

xxxxx

 

[TORino]

Your time will come I'm sure. You just need to find out what needs to be tweaked to make sure the next little bean sticks. As soon as that is worked out you can go at it all guns blazing. And let's face it, it probably won't take you long to create a little bean?!!

Baileys sounds good, sure you'll enjoy a few of them over the next few weeks

 

[Sunbeam638]

Hi CARNAT, ah I am sorry to hear your frustration in waiting, I really feel for you the days drag enough when you are TTC but waiting to try is really disheartening....BUT...luckily this month should fly by for you with Christmas approaching and hopefully then waiting for the 2nd cycle to come and go wont be such a long wait.

Its good that you are getting checked out and 2012 will be your year xx

 

[All crossed]

Really feel for you but hope this is the beginning of he end for you xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Hey ladies,

No chance of an earlier appointment, in fact the only other appointments they can offer is the end of Jan This place do not do cancellations.

So Jan the 6th it will be - a month today

Have decided that we'll NTNP this month as if we were to get preggers we would find out just before the appointment.

OH is away in Japan for my whole fertile period though so I doubt we'll be fruitful.

I think we'll just see what occurs.

In the meantime I am seeing my dentist, have booked my smear for just before Ov and am cracking on with all my Christmas bits.

Jan 6th will be here in no time