Emotional

[nikkif]

I am not sure if this is the right place for this but here goes-

I am loving my baby but feeling quite emotional, i feel a bit traumatised about the birth and the way things went etc. My DH is also great with Charlotte and i am worried about missing having him around when he is back at work next week. I think i almost feel bit clongy really. I know i can cope but i am finding it hard when Charlotte cries and there is no obvious reason and the feeding hasnt settled down so i can be up for 2 hours or more with each feed.

Sorry if this doesnt make sense and please do not think i am not delighted with my baby i am

x

 

[krystal&jack]

aww nikki

I totally understand how you feel. I felt exactly the same when Jack was that age. sometimes he would just cry and cry and i'd done everything to soothe him but nothing seemed to work

I felt overwhelmed with the birth as well, it wasn't really that traumatic but i still went over it in my head a million times.


I was also worried about simon going back to work but believe me once they do it's good in some ways cos you get yourself into a little routine.

Have you tried giving her more milk if it's formula? just I know Jack stopped crying so much when i did that, it seemed he needed that bit extra and he's a lot more content now.

Its natural for you to feel this way but trust me little by little it gets so much easier

 

[nikkif]

Thanks for your reply

i am breastfeeding but finding it difficult as she stops and starts feeding so it can take ages and she doesnt settle after feeding straight away it can take a couple of hours sometimes

 

[valentine]

Oh nikki - I so feel for you, I had so so many weepy days - just a bad dose of baby blues really and also was so worried about my OH not being around. I used to cry and cry because I loved my daughter so much, cry and cry because I wanted her to stay tiny and cry and cry because I was so happy! Bonkers!

I also relived my birth thousands of times in my head, I had a good birth but still relived it a million times. I think that must be normal as the whole experience is so overwhelming.

to you. Believe me, you won't feel like this forever. I know the feeding is really tough just now but I promise that won't be forever either, it will settle down. It's so important for you to feed on demand to regulate your milk supply - I know its tying but you just need to concentrate on your daughter just now, visitors, housework etc (what I got myself stressed about) - can all wait.

Let us know how you are in a couple of days.

Love

Valentine xxx

 

[MissThing]

Hey Nikki

I am all emotional as well. We had the babies the same day so Im at the same stage as you are.

I have been crying all afternoon. And when Im in a state even a little thing can set me off

I also have problems with brestfeeding (i dont have enought milk) so I have started to bottle feed, which was never my choise

The only thing what I can do, is send you a big and hope that things will be better soon

 

[nikkif]

to you too

Thanks everyone. I feel silly being upset but it is a mixture of being happy and overwhelmed and many other reasons.

I just sometimes feel like i cannot ever imagine we will be able to get into a routine, or things get easier and i know its daft feeling like that as it is very early days.

xx

 

[LucyBee]

Nikki, that could've been me typing when Tom was born. I felt EXACTLY the same. I think it's normal and baby blues but do keep an eye on things and if you're not feeling any better in a few days, talk to your HV as I ended up with PND.

I had terrible anxiety every time Tom cried. I felt like I loved him to bits and I wanted to love him and cuddle him but I wanted someone else to look after him when he cried. It was a very strange feeling but the anxiety was unbearable.

I also felt the same about my DH going back to work. Have you got friends/family around who could help and give you a break or a hand when he goes back to work? My Mum was a lifesaver for me.

Keep an eye on things. Keep talking on here, to your DH and to your HV. Look after yourself and don't beat yourself up for feeling this way. Your body has been through the most enormously stressful experience ever and now your brain is having to cope with one of the biggest changes you'll ever have in your life. Things will settle down soon.

Lucyxx

 

[Redshoes]

nikkif you're doing great talking about it, don't ever stop, you are not alone and it's completely normal
In hospital I was told when your LO cries go through the list;

feed
wind
nappy
too hot/cold
cuddle
and repeat

If it's not one of those then she could be just tired but unable to switch off, or even that there's nothing wrong, sometimes LO will cry for no reason, so don't be upset if you can't find a reason, if that makes sense, you will know better than anyone what your LO needs, even if you don't know it yet If she's crying when you're trying to put her to bed, then it could be because she wants you, and there's no substitute for that.
This link may help too:
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/newborn/babycrying/