My 12 week scan is coming up next week. Very few people know I'm pregnant, and I am stressing out about the thought of telling other people, especially my parents. I have to ask myself why? What am I worried about?
Well. So far, I've had mixed wierd reactions. One friend's very first reaction was to repeatedly ask when and how my other friend found out before her. Another friend got the hint that I might be pregnant and explicitly told me not to tell her via txt, saying "at least give me a call".
So, I don't want to deal with any more 'wierd reactions' from people.
I don't want a load of fuss.
I don't want to be asked a string of questions.
I don't want other people's concern to heighten my pregnancy anxieties and fears.
I don't want unsolicited advice.
I don't want our news to be shared by anybody else until we choose to share it ourselves.
I don't want people to start making plans on behalf of me, my partner or my future child.
I don't want people to push their own selfish ideas and expectations onto me.
I don't want anybody to make it 'all about them'.
I also know for a fact that my dad will be guilty on all counts. Because that's just what he's like.
All I want is for our close friends and family to share our happiness, congratulate us, and respect our wishes. Is that too much to ask?
I'm thinking of not telling my parents until 20 weeks (or whenever I see them face to face after lockdown). But they will have to find out at some point, so maybe putting it off that long will just prolong my anxiety!
Has anybody else been this worried about telling people? If so, how did you handle it?
Well. So far, I've had mixed wierd reactions. One friend's very first reaction was to repeatedly ask when and how my other friend found out before her. Another friend got the hint that I might be pregnant and explicitly told me not to tell her via txt, saying "at least give me a call".
So, I don't want to deal with any more 'wierd reactions' from people.
I don't want a load of fuss.
I don't want to be asked a string of questions.
I don't want other people's concern to heighten my pregnancy anxieties and fears.
I don't want unsolicited advice.
I don't want our news to be shared by anybody else until we choose to share it ourselves.
I don't want people to start making plans on behalf of me, my partner or my future child.
I don't want people to push their own selfish ideas and expectations onto me.
I don't want anybody to make it 'all about them'.
I also know for a fact that my dad will be guilty on all counts. Because that's just what he's like.
All I want is for our close friends and family to share our happiness, congratulate us, and respect our wishes. Is that too much to ask?
I'm thinking of not telling my parents until 20 weeks (or whenever I see them face to face after lockdown). But they will have to find out at some point, so maybe putting it off that long will just prolong my anxiety!
Has anybody else been this worried about telling people? If so, how did you handle it?
Last edited: