Down in the dumps!

[xx emma xx]

Im having such a crappy week, i was due in at work today but just cant face it. Im struggling to cope, i struggled with anxiety at work before i was pregnant and was off work so now no longer get sick pay. Ive been off a few times this month but as its pregnancy related they just mark me down sick and dont get disciplined which is fine. I called my boss today to phone in sick and all she kept saying was 'can you not make it in at all' and was huffing and being cheeky on phone. I also brung up the fact that my wages went into the bank yesterday and 75% of it is missing, she didnt care even though its totally wrong as i didnt have any sick days in September. I just feel so low today and cant stop crying, cannot cope going back there. Im sorry for the rant, just had to get it out! x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

hope your feeling better soon hun.
Maybe try speaking to HR and see if you could go back to work gradually, do you think this may help? x x


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[amandapanda]

Awww i feel for you Emma!

I have been in a similar position (bar the pay issue) - I have been struggling at work for the last few weeks, been so low, have been crying in the toilets and not wanting to go in at all. Last week it all came to a head when I got a cold, earache and urine infection all at the same time - so what with my low mood, my doctor signed me off for a week....it's made me feel loads better just to have that space from work as it really was getting on top of me and I was feeling I couldn't cope even with little things.

Like yours, my work have been totally unsympathetic - I told her I was pregnant (to avoid disciplinary) and she didn't even say congratulations or ask if the baby is doing ok, just wanted to know exactly what day I was coming back. I know when I go back on Weds she'll call me into her office for a 'back to work interview' but won't be kind or caring, just all business.

I am coming to the conclusion of well stuff em and I think you should too. Don't worry about what they think or say - just think of you and your baby and that nothing is more important compared to that. If they are that bad then look for another job once the baby is born, that's what I intend to do.

As for the pay issue, contact your payroll dept direct.

Just go easy on yourself - I have been so down this whole first trimester and it's just a case of getting through it one day at a time.

Take care

Amanda x

 

[xx emma xx]

Thanks Amanda. Yeah your situation sounds very similar to mine. Its horrible, my poor OH puts up with all my down moods and is trying to think of a solution. The office i work in is shutting in april so i wont get mat leave or anything which is rubbish but i need to stay as long as possible to make sure i have money. My OH works in the same place and he said every other pregnancy has been treated so much differently from mine. The floor that i work on is totally different from his and they just dont seem to like me because of my previous sickness. I just feel trapped there.
I hope your boss is supportive when you back to work. If they only knew how we were feeling maybe they wouldnt be so hard on us. I was really shocked with my boss's reaction this morning as she knows i was sent for emergency scan last week and ive been quite stressed. Hopefully things will get better.x

 

[amandapanda]

Unfortunately Emma they probably ARE treating you differently because you have had time off sick before. I have had long term sickness before (in a previous job) and most people look at you badly because of it. In my current job I have only been here 6 months and now I am pregnant so I guess that is why they are not happy - but tough!!!

I know it is difficult for managers when people go off sick/ maternity, but really that is life and to treat someone so poorly because of it is unfair. The fact that your boss knew you were having an emergency scan last week shows she has completely lost touch with her human side! My boss was the same - she knows I had a miscarriage in May so I feel that makes her come across as even more hard hearted, to not be even able to offer me congratulations!

Hope you're feeling a bit brighter now xx