Hi everyone
Sorry but I think this might be a long post.
Well, my big brother told me yesterday on the phone that his girlfriend is pregnant.
I don't know if he has taken it quite well, when I asked him how he was about it? (he sounded quite low) he said "I suppose I am", don't get me wrong he is standing by his girlfriend but I am just so so so worried about him , I hardly slept last night. My brother has been getting so down for a little while now , he's not happy at work and was wanting a different type of job (He's a bar manager) maybe re-train or something but I'm worried he thinks he can't do that now. Also its very tricky for them because he lives with our parents and she lives with her mam , so now they are going to have to sort out a way of living together. My brother has'nt told our parents yet but her mam has known for a couple of weeks now , which I don't think is very fair on them. He say's "I have'nt had chance to tell them" but I know for a fact he is frightened of telling them. Our parents are very very very very traditional and think children should not be born out of wedlock, people should not live together etc. When he tells them I know for a fact there will be trouble.My father is not a well man, he has cancer and a number of other health problems and I'm worried how he is going to react and if it will effect his health. Just an example of my mam's views on things, she tells people I am due on September 1st instead of August 25th because she does'nt want people to think i fell pregnant before i got married, I got married on 2nd December 2006, so if she got her calendar out she would work out I was married (for about 12hours or so he he) when I got pregnant. I don't want my brother to think he has to marry his girlfriend to keep them happy, if he wants to he should do it for himself.
When I told him I was pregnant he was really happy and looking forward to baby, but he just seems to be so different now he's having one of his own. I tried to tell him yesterday that I know what our parents are like but I'm sure they will be fine in the end and that their baby will have a little cousin only a couple of months older for it to play with and we can swap clothes, toys etc, but he still seemed so low.
I know this may sound a bit selfish but i dont want to be involved when he tells our parents and with what is said etc, it's just i dont want to get too stressed out while I'm pregnant.
I just don't know what to do to help.
Sorry but I think this might be a long post.
Well, my big brother told me yesterday on the phone that his girlfriend is pregnant.
I don't know if he has taken it quite well, when I asked him how he was about it? (he sounded quite low) he said "I suppose I am", don't get me wrong he is standing by his girlfriend but I am just so so so worried about him , I hardly slept last night. My brother has been getting so down for a little while now , he's not happy at work and was wanting a different type of job (He's a bar manager) maybe re-train or something but I'm worried he thinks he can't do that now. Also its very tricky for them because he lives with our parents and she lives with her mam , so now they are going to have to sort out a way of living together. My brother has'nt told our parents yet but her mam has known for a couple of weeks now , which I don't think is very fair on them. He say's "I have'nt had chance to tell them" but I know for a fact he is frightened of telling them. Our parents are very very very very traditional and think children should not be born out of wedlock, people should not live together etc. When he tells them I know for a fact there will be trouble.My father is not a well man, he has cancer and a number of other health problems and I'm worried how he is going to react and if it will effect his health. Just an example of my mam's views on things, she tells people I am due on September 1st instead of August 25th because she does'nt want people to think i fell pregnant before i got married, I got married on 2nd December 2006, so if she got her calendar out she would work out I was married (for about 12hours or so he he) when I got pregnant. I don't want my brother to think he has to marry his girlfriend to keep them happy, if he wants to he should do it for himself.
When I told him I was pregnant he was really happy and looking forward to baby, but he just seems to be so different now he's having one of his own. I tried to tell him yesterday that I know what our parents are like but I'm sure they will be fine in the end and that their baby will have a little cousin only a couple of months older for it to play with and we can swap clothes, toys etc, but he still seemed so low.
I know this may sound a bit selfish but i dont want to be involved when he tells our parents and with what is said etc, it's just i dont want to get too stressed out while I'm pregnant.
I just don't know what to do to help.