Does anyone else feel like this?

[Daffodil]

Hi

I don't want to be miserable ... but god I'm feeling emotional and SOOOOOO TIRED

I sometimes feel like I don't want to "do" the next feed. or I sit here wondering what anyone can DO which will help this situation

Where is the magic cure which means I can get some sleep?

and why is my mother on f**king holiday? like she couldn't be here and come round and do some housework for me when I need her the most?

I was doing housework at 5 am this morning. I've had one hours sleep since 2am.

I sound like a miserable sod. Wierdly...I love being a mum even though it doesn't sound like it. I love Meadow she is the best ever.

Its just really hard at the same time.

Dawn

 

[maria1976]

Hey Dawn

Just wanted to say that sounds completely normal honey Sod the housework and kick your feet up and relax x

 

[Sherlock]

Sounds normal to me My HV and mother both said to me to forget about housework and only do the bare essentials each day and for the rest to sleep when LO slept. I found once I took the pressure off myself it made things a lot easier. I did laundry, washing up and cooked a meal and for the rest it went to pot for a few weeks. I'd hoover when OH was home to look after our LO and so on.

Why not give Homestart a call and see if they can help. I have a lovely lady come out once a week for a few hours and she sits with Galen while I whizz round the house and do all the things I can't get done otherwise. They are there for all sorts, just to stop in for a chat, sit with your LO while you do whatever, offer support. Been a real boost for me anyways.

 

[maybebaby]

Hun I didn't get out of my pyjamas for the first 2 weeks, and didn't do a THING round the house until at least 5 or 6 weeks last time (except dinner or we would have all starved on OH's 'cooking'!).

It's tiring and you have to allow yourself to recover fully from labour and pregnancy, and get used to being a mummy. Let the house be for the next week or so, it won't fall down from lack of hoovering sleep when Meadow sleeps if you're tired and make sure you're drinking & eating regularly (expecially if you're breastfeeding).

Hope you feel better soon

 

[NickyB]

I'm so the same! I cannot function on this little sleep and am finding BFing really hard work, so get very emotional when she it back up afterwards.

I do the washing up, laundry and baby things. OH does the food for us

The hoovering/dusting/bathroom etc will wait til we've found our feet.

 

[loz]

Just blow everything else - really the housework is not important, your bab is the most important thing. No one is expecting anything else of you at this time apart from looking after your LO. Just try and sleep when she is and dont give yourself a hard time. It does get easier as time goes on. Congrats at being a new mum!

Is there anyone else apart from your mum who could give you a hand?

 

[lauramumof2]

I think you sound like the mother of a 3 week old baby. I thought that when I had a baby that the baby would fit in with my life but I was sooooo wrong. I fitted in with babys life and then incorporated the things I used to do back in and that included housework.

I used to clean my skirting boards You do what you can and build it up from there.

 

[littlepip]

just wanted to say what a GORGEOUS name meadow is!!!!!!
I know how you feel!! Ryan has been vomitting after every single feed today so ive changed his clothes about 5 times and he's sat here screaming for the last 2 hours so much so that hes choking and gagging and throwing up some kind of watery milky stuff?! And i just sat there trying to not let it get to me! And now hes finally asleep i have got 2 loads of washing to squeeze onto the radiators, i need to eat something, get in my pjyamas, put all the blankets in the wash that hes threw up over, unmake the bed (i have loads of pillows etc on it), change the bin and take it outside (which means going up and down 3 flights of stairs! grr) and sterilize bottles! And i thought sod it after the last few hours ive had some of it can wait and ive come on here for ten minutes before i start!

 

[keli]

I stayed in bed for the first 8/9 wks, i made sure i ate and drank iloads and i just cuddled up with LO and watched dvds, he was feeding ALL the time... i'm still in bed most of the time now As the others have said the housework can wait. Have you got someone that can come and give you an hour or so off? An OH? I know you BF but in them early days i used to lay in the bath for an hr or so inbetween feeds when daddy came round to visit, it was heaven! Or just go for a walk on your own to get some fresh air xx

 

[Daffodil]

Thanks.

Homestart looks good.

I will definately try and do less, and get more rest. Yesterday I had 3 hours sleep in 24 and I can't produce breastmilk on no sleep!!!

Dawn
x

 

[DaisyRose]

Hiya,

I know how you feel. I'm pretty fussy about my house but in the early weeks I really had to let it go, and even now I am struggling to get stuff done and often end up doing it at night!!!

I stayed in bed for the first 8/9 wks, i made sure i ate and drank iloads and i just cuddled up with LO and watched dvds, he was feeding ALL the time... i'm still in bed most of the time now

I like that!!! To be honest, that's pretty much what I did when I had my first - I had a pretty lengthy and traumatic birth, and with no older kids, had no other commitments or time restrictions it was so easy to do. When I look back I can't believe how long it took even to get out of the house - I get 3 of them dressed, washed and fed in less than an hour now (and me too) and to school by 9 (well....most of the time) but it is all so new when I had Daisy. I was so unfamiliar with babies but I'm very glad I sat around and cuddled her all day because I didn't get to do that with Rosie, and I definitely can't do it with Ruby.

All I'd say really is give yourself a break and enjoy Meadow - the weeks go by so quickly, they grow so fast, and when you have subsequent children you don't have nearly as much time. 3 weeks is early days - it does get much easier.

Take care,

 

[claire2711]

ive been stupidly doing this too....trying to keep up with the housework and riley but it's not working! im so tired, and the housework is half-assed done (if that!) at least riley is the only one who gets sleep and food!

just try and pace yourself hun, i know im gonna try

 

[mamichuli]

Sleep when Babe sleeps...the best advice you will get. It is very tiring at the beginning, and the housework is not a priority. I remember when Ani was born, my MIL (whom I am tremendously fond of) phoned me and said...for gawds sake, dont worry about the housework, just eat and rest as much as you can and take care of my granddaughter, and tell that great oaf of a son of mine to do the dishes and stuff that is urgent...the rest can wait! She was right!

Hope you are back on your feet soon hun, but dont rush it...just enjoy Meadow!


Lisa

 

[Sage]

the first few months are STRESSFUL as hell and i found lack of sleep was def the cause! I found it hard since my mum passed away a couple years ago so ive had no help apart from OH when hes not in work. After 2 months it starts getting better then you love every second of being a mum. dont worry hun i found it was hell in the first few months

 

[Charlie:-)]

Hi



Where is the magic cure which means I can get some sleep?

Leave the housework and stay in bed.

Honestly when Maia was born we didnt do a thorough clean till she was about 2 months old. The only thing that was cleaned regularly was the bathroom and hubby did that. I did the kitchen after washing up but I only did a surface clean making sure all work surfaces and hob were clean, I didnt move everything and really scrub like I would when doing a thorough clean.

Have you not read *Star* signature???

Also sleep on the sofa when baby is asleep, sounds simple but I couldnt wait for Maia to nap so I could nap too.