Does anyone else feel like just a mum?

[violet-glow]

Firstly dont get me wrong I love my kids to bits, but something I feel like I am only a mother. I get up do the same things everyday... cook, clean, change nappies, feed Elora... etc. I only ever get out of the house to go shopping... how sad is that

OH and I had an argument the other day. I said he had it so easy going to work and uni because it meant he could get out of the house. He didnt see it the same way as I did obviously and it turned into a fight.

I could get out and go for a walk on my own etc, but I just dont feel I have the confidence to do that at the moment.

Am I sounding barmy?

 

[hev&madi]

i know how you feel!!! its the same with me. it seems same like i do the same thing everyday

i love madi to bits but it would be nice for a change

ive decided to get a few friends together an go out for some drinkies!

 

[violet-glow]

Its good to know its not just me
I thought I sounded really selfish, but its not that at all.

Ive arranged to go out on the 15th April I know it seems ages away but I have to sike myself up for OH looking after the kids for the night lol

 

[grace7]

I know exactly where you are both coming from! I feel like this to and try to explain to my partner that he has an escape by going to work but just doesn't see it! I dont have confidence either violet-glow to go out on my own and i dont know why! Its so strange i feel like i want to go out on my onw but feel if stu (my partner) or ellie isnt with me i dont feel that i can! Strange!

 

[violet-glow]

I dont have confidence either violet-glow to go out on my own and i dont know why! Its so strange i feel like i want to go out on my onw but feel if stu (my partner) or ellie isnt with me i dont feel that i can! Strange!

I totaly agree! I feel the same way. Ive gone from being a very social person, meeting friends etc and having a drink... to not being able to leave the house without my OH. I feel so stupid at times, OH must think im coocoo

 

[nathanmum]

i know where your coming from. the thing is when i do (rarely) go out i dont like it it feels really strange, that goes for work to, you cant win my OH doesnt get it at all hes like id love to stay at home all day

 

[skatty]

I know exactly how you feel! Leorah is now 5 months and only now am I starting to go out and about with her on my own. I also feel like just a mother but have made a friend locally and she has a baby girl too and even though we just go for a walk and back to one of our houses for coffee it feels so good to have something else going on than just me, Leiorah and the house!

 

[Shaz]

Absolutely! I've gone from a full time and quite hectic management job to full time Mum.

I've done my job for years and like to think I'm quite good at it and now I've got this new role of Mummy and it's all new and a total learning curve!

The days just fly by, by the time I've gotten up, fed CJ, changed him, tried to tidy the house while he naps, changed nappies, done the washing, done the shopping - the day is gone.

My other half is in the RAF and had to do a days training the other day in a gas chamber!! He kissed me goodby in the morning after we'd had a particularly trying night with the baby and I said "I wish I was going to work" and he said "Yes, but I'm getting gassed today" to which I replied "I wish I was getting gassed today"!!!!!!!

We do love our babies girls but sometimes it feels like I've totally lost who I am!! I used to be this vibrant, social, organised girl and now I feel like I can't get anything done!!!

 

[Jen79]

Me too, I have been on maternity leave for 5 months now and feel like I am going slightly insane. I love my little girl to bits but feel like such a drudge sometimes and like I am just not an interesting person anymore. I do feel like I want to have a night out or whatever but then when the offer is there I rarely take it cos I either cant be bothered or it just feels wrong to be out. This mothers guilt thing is sooo rubbish! I am due back at work in 4 weeks and a little bit of me will be glad of the change but a bigger bit is scared that 1) I will have forgot how to do my job and 2) I will feel so guilty about leaving Kate with someone else that I will just hate it. Aaargh!!

 

[Strangeness]

I feel the same way which is why I have applied for a job. It's only 10 hours a week but it's 10 hours I get to be me again. Hopefully I'll get it but not too sure as I don't have a lot of experience. It's only on a check out but the money will come in handy too!