******December Mummies 2018******

[Rach beattie]

Hey allybally glad to see u in here too! Docs went well and have a repeat next Monday no more spotting still so feeling good. Is anybody else so shattered

 

[WolfMamma]

I am shattered first thing but I find that once I eat and I'm up it's not too bad. I can feel that I am tired but I am just trying not to give into it.

Symptoms are very on and off at the moment, just taking them as they come.

I think morning sickness will kick in soon, the nausea always seems to be on the edge of my awareness. Not causing me a problem but it's definitely in the background.

The most important thing I am doing right now is drinking bottles of water a day as that was a big thing the midwives in my last pregnancy pulled me up on (I don't generally drink very much at all), and living in pajama bottoms as my jeans just feel uncomfortable.

I have a feeling that I will show fairly soon, unfortunately it will be mostly because of my previous pregnancy and not because of this one! I have a couple of spare tires left around my stomach from my daughter!! Shouldn't need maternity stuff for a while though hopefully! Big winter coats and jumpers should hide anything obvious.

 

[Rach beattie]

I'm the same wolfmama nausea comes and goes already but the tiredness is there all day! I've ordered digis to arrive on Thursday!

 

[AllyBally]

Does anyone else feel pretty anxious or is it just me? Im a full time worrier though. I worry about MC, the 12 week scan, the blood results etc. Its my first pregnancy so just trying to stay calm. Please tell me others are the same? Xx

 

[WolfMamma]

Does anyone else feel pretty anxious or is it just me? Im a full time worrier though. I worry about MC, the 12 week scan, the blood results etc. Its my first pregnancy so just trying to stay calm. Please tell me others are the same? Xx

In the background, yes I am the same. But I have learned that nothing we do will affect the outcome. What will be, will be....

All we can do is our best, eat healthy, take our vits and keep away from things that might affect baby. If there is something wrong with baby or if it's just not meant to be, then that is how it is.

I know it's blunt but I became really practical after my two CPs and I am trying to stay logical and detached for now and just take it as it comes.

That wasn't very cheerful was it! Sorry!

 

[AllyBally]

Does anyone else feel pretty anxious or is it just me? Im a full time worrier though. I worry about MC, the 12 week scan, the blood results etc. Its my first pregnancy so just trying to stay calm. Please tell me others are the same? Xx

In the background, yes I am the same. But I have learned that nothing we do will affect the outcome. What will be, will be....

All we can do is our best, eat healthy, take our vits and keep away from things that might affect baby. If there is something wrong with baby or if it's just not meant to be, then that is how it is.

I know it's blunt but I became really practical after my two CPs and I am trying to stay logical and detached for now and just take it as it comes.

That wasn't very cheerful was it! Sorry!

Thanks WolfMamma, that has given me the reality check i needed! I'm going to New York in just under 3 weeks, for 5 days. Hoping everything will be smooth sailing. How long are you waiting to tell your family? I think my mum has a 6th sense, 10 mins after i got my BFP my mum messaged me to ask if everything is ok - haha! I think im going to wait to tell her until after NY x

 

[WolfMamma]

Does anyone else feel pretty anxious or is it just me? Im a full time worrier though. I worry about MC, the 12 week scan, the blood results etc. Its my first pregnancy so just trying to stay calm. Please tell me others are the same? Xx

In the background, yes I am the same. But I have learned that nothing we do will affect the outcome. What will be, will be....

All we can do is our best, eat healthy, take our vits and keep away from things that might affect baby. If there is something wrong with baby or if it's just not meant to be, then that is how it is.

I know it's blunt but I became really practical after my two CPs and I am trying to stay logical and detached for now and just take it as it comes.

That wasn't very cheerful was it! Sorry!

Thanks WolfMamma, that has given me the reality check i needed! I'm going to New York in just under 3 weeks, for 5 days. Hoping everything will be smooth sailing. How long are you waiting to tell your family? I think my mum has a 6th sense, 10 mins after i got my BFP my mum messaged me to ask if everything is ok - haha! I think im going to wait to tell her until after NY x

We have told my husbands parents, i think he was just too exited! We will tell my mum on Monday if everything is still ok by then. I'll let my dad know around then as well. As for the rest of my family and the wider world, they will have to wait until the 12 weeks scan. I might need to tell a few people who see me every day sooner than that if they start to notice.

How about you?

Does anyone else find that time is just going soooo slooow! I think it's because it's half term and my daughter is away but the days are just dragging! I just want things to speed up so I know everything is ok.

 

[AllyBally]

We will probably tell my parents once we are back from New York! I oddly feel quite anxious to tell them haha! It's my first, will be their first grandchild and i think they still look at me like I'm their little girl. I'm sure they will be delighted, but still! How did you tell your DHs parents? I don't really know how to bring it up. Or maybe i should give them something to open?

 

[WolfMamma]

We will probably tell my parents once we are back from New York! I oddly feel quite anxious to tell them haha! It's my first, will be their first grandchild and i think they still look at me like I'm their little girl. I'm sure they will be delighted, but still! How did you tell your DHs parents? I don't really know how to bring it up. Or maybe i should give them something to open?

I'm not big on dramatic gestures, I'm just more practical, lol.

My hubby just put his arm around me and told them we're having a baby! Simple, easy. It's less dramatic for me I guess as I've already had one!

With my mum I'm just going to add it to her birthday card, that'll make her smile. With my dad, i'll probably just send him a message on Facebook

I'm not thinking about it too much though, still trying to remain as detached as possible. I know that sounds cold but it's how I have to cope for now

 

[AllyBally]

We will probably tell my parents once we are back from New York! I oddly feel quite anxious to tell them haha! It's my first, will be their first grandchild and i think they still look at me like I'm their little girl. I'm sure they will be delighted, but still! How did you tell your DHs parents? I don't really know how to bring it up. Or maybe i should give them something to open?

I'm not big on dramatic gestures, I'm just more practical, lol.

My hubby just put his arm around me and told them we're having a baby! Simple, easy. It's less dramatic for me I guess as I've already had one!

With my mum I'm just going to add it to her birthday card, that'll make her smile. With my dad, i'll probably just send him a message on Facebook

I'm not thinking about it too much though, still trying to remain as detached as possible. I know that sounds cold but it's how I have to cope for now

It's not cold; i think that's sensible! Although i found myself briefly looking at prams online yesterday before i quickly snapped myself out of it! It's going to be a long few weeks...

 

[WolfMamma]

It's not cold; i think that's sensible! Although i found myself briefly looking at prams online yesterday before i quickly snapped myself out of it! It's going to be a long few weeks...

I know exactly the kind of buggy I want. Unfortunately the one I had with my daughter is not made any more as the company went bust, but I either want something similar or I want to find one second hand.

I will be buying everything second hand for this one.

With Lilly I did the traditional first time mum thing and bought everything brand new which I now sorely regret as most of it was a waste! I will be scouring charity shops and Facebook and Gumtree for absolutely everything. I also remember all the things I bought that I didn't actually need, so my list will be much more sparse this time!!

I'll have my list written over the next few weeks just so I can add to it as I go. It helps keep my mind occupied.

 

[xxfxx]

We will probably tell my parents once we are back from New York! I oddly feel quite anxious to tell them haha! It's my first, will be their first grandchild and i think they still look at me like I'm their little girl. I'm sure they will be delighted, but still! How did you tell your DHs parents? I don't really know how to bring it up. Or maybe i should give them something to open?

I'm not big on dramatic gestures, I'm just more practical, lol.

My hubby just put his arm around me and told them we're having a baby! Simple, easy. It's less dramatic for me I guess as I've already had one!

With my mum I'm just going to add it to her birthday card, that'll make her smile. With my dad, i'll probably just send him a message on Facebook

I'm not thinking about it too much though, still trying to remain as detached as possible. I know that sounds cold but it's how I have to cope for now

I told my Mum on Sunday and put it in her birthday card she was so shocked as it will be the first Grandchild in the family, but she was very pleased. I think it's normal to be a bit anxious but like you said there's no way of controlling the future, what will be will be.. have you booked in with midwife yet?

 

[WolfMamma]

I told my Mum on Sunday and put it in her birthday card she was so shocked as it will be the first Grandchild in the family, but she was very pleased. I think it's normal to be a bit anxious but like you said there's no way of controlling the future, what will be will be.. have you booked in with midwife yet?

I handed in my paperwork on Monday so just have to wait for the midwife to contact me. Not expecting that for a couple of weeks yet. I wanted to wait until I hit 5 weeks so that I was at a point after my previous CPs.

How about everyone else?

 

[AllyBally]

I have my booking appointment for 11th may so will be around 8 weeks then. They have done an initial phone assessment which seemed like a brief risk assessment. Counting down the days!

Do any of you think you'll get an early private scan? I hear some scan from 6 weeks for viability xx

 

[WolfMamma]

I have my booking appointment for 11th may so will be around 8 weeks then. They have done an initial phone assessment which seemed like a brief risk assessment. Counting down the days!

Do any of you think you'll get an early private scan? I hear some scan from 6 weeks for viability xx

Nope, not me. Need to save the money to be honest and it wont affect the outcome so I don't see the point Just me though!

 

[xxfxx]

I have my booking appointment for 11th may so will be around 8 weeks then. They have done an initial phone assessment which seemed like a brief risk assessment. Counting down the days!

Do any of you think you'll get an early private scan? I hear some scan from 6 weeks for viability xx

I've got my booking appointment on 11th may as well! Although I'll be nearly 11 weeks by then..it was the earliest date they had which was convenient.

And no, I won't be.

 

[Rach beattie]

I've my booking appointment with the midwife on 25th April when I will be 6 weeks. I am having an early scan at 8 weeks, I no it doesn't change the outcome but I can't go all the 12 weeks again thinking it's fine to find out it actually died at 8 weeks. Everyone is different tho

 

[AllyBally]

I've my booking appointment with the midwife on 25th April when I will be 6 weeks. I am having an early scan at 8 weeks, I no it doesn't change the outcome but I can't go all the 12 weeks again thinking it's fine to find out it actually died at 8 weeks. Everyone is different tho

I'll be having an early one too! Is 8 weeks the recommended time to hear a heartbeat? I see some clinics offer scans at 6 weeks?!

 

[hopeful1976]

I am shattered first thing but I find that once I eat and I'm up it's not too bad. I can feel that I am tired but I am just trying not to give into it.

Symptoms are very on and off at the moment, just taking them as they come.

I think morning sickness will kick in soon, the nausea always seems to be on the edge of my awareness. Not causing me a problem but it's definitely in the background.

The most important thing I am doing right now is drinking bottles of water a day as that was a big thing the midwives in my last pregnancy pulled me up on (I don't generally drink very much at all), and living in pajama bottoms as my jeans just feel uncomfortable.

I have a feeling that I will show fairly soon, unfortunately it will be mostly because of my previous pregnancy and not because of this one! I have a couple of spare tires left around my stomach from my daughter!! Shouldn't need maternity stuff for a while though hopefully! Big winter coats and jumpers should hide anything obvious.

I showed very early in my second pregnancy, it was ridiculous. Everyone told me it was because it was my 2nd baby so the body sort of knows the drill and when the pregnancy hormones start going up things start growing quicker as the body knows what to do this time, if that makes any sense. I was quite big 2nd time round, so I am really panicking what it is going to be like 3d time. I have a feeling I am going to be huge arghhh oh well , I am eating really healthy at the moment , going to try to stick to healthy diet all throughout ... but I can’t promise anything ha ha ha

 

[hopeful1976]

Does anyone else feel pretty anxious or is it just me? Im a full time worrier though. I worry about MC, the 12 week scan, the blood results etc. Its my first pregnancy so just trying to stay calm. Please tell me others are the same? Xx

In the background, yes I am the same. But I have learned that nothing we do will affect the outcome. What will be, will be....

All we can do is our best, eat healthy, take our vits and keep away from things that might affect baby. If there is something wrong with baby or if it's just not meant to be, then that is how it is.

I know it's blunt but I became really practical after my two CPs and I am trying to stay logical and detached for now and just take it as it comes.

That wasn't very cheerful was it! Sorry!

Thanks WolfMamma, that has given me the reality check i needed! I'm going to New York in just under 3 weeks, for 5 days. Hoping everything will be smooth sailing. How long are you waiting to tell your family? I think my mum has a 6th sense, 10 mins after i got my BFP my mum messaged me to ask if everything is ok - haha! I think im going to wait to tell her until after NY x

We have told my husbands parents, i think he was just too exited! We will tell my mum on Monday if everything is still ok by then. I'll let my dad know around then as well. As for the rest of my family and the wider world, they will have to wait until the 12 weeks scan. I might need to tell a few people who see me every day sooner than that if they start to notice.

How about you?

Does anyone else find that time is just going soooo slooow! I think it's because it's half term and my daughter is away but the days are just dragging! I just want things to speed up so I know everything is ok.

Oh gosh yes, time is dragging on. I can’t nelieve how slow it’s going. The first trimester is so very hard. It’s the not knowing how things are really going inside you, that’s whats so hard. And of course just like all of you mentioned above, if you have had a misscarriage at some point before, it is even harder to relax or stay calm. I had a miscarriage before my 2nd pregnancy and that is why I am so nervous right now. For that reason,we a response to another question raised in this thread, yes I will be having a private scan once I reach 7 weeks. I see why many ladies chose not to , as it is true, it doesn’t change anything, but for me , I just need to know if there is heartbeat or not, as I will literally drive myself mad if I have to wait till 12 weeks , that’s just me. We have the Window to the Womb scanning place very close by, they are part of a big uk chain and their prices are so reasonable for viability scans, I am going to book it for when I am 7 and a half weeks. I also have zero symptoms ( and I ve been like this in my 2 previous pregnancies too ) so it is even harder for me to know what’s going on on my body .. drives me nuts lol