Considering IVF

[Hugemistake]

I already have children but made a terrible 'decision' to be sterilised at the same time as I had my last baby (I say 'decision' as I was not in my right mind in hospital when it was strongly suggested and feel I made a terrible mistake). They had asked me in a clinic appt two weeks before and I'd say absolutely not and that I planned to have a coil fitted but at 36 weeks I was admitted and they kept pushing sterilisation as a better option and in my hormonal/tired/unwell state I was not thinking straight.

That was over two and a half years ago and iam absolutely desperate for another baby. Our only option is IVF and I am anxious about the procedure and costs.

Iam really quite depressed about the whole situation and do not know what to do. I regularly find myself in tears about it all.

I wondered of anybody had been through similar and could offer any advice ?

Thanks

 

[tinselcat]

Hi there my love

Sorry to hear about your experience. It must feel awful to have been railroaded into such an important decision by some aggressive people.

I've been through IVF 3 times and it worked on the 3rd time, but we had fertility problems - it may be quicker for you! While some private clinics may have better headline prices, I think they can bump their prices up with extras during treatment so you may want to watch out for that.

I live in London and would thoroughly recommend Guys' ACU (the private part of Guys & St Thomas's hospital). You can find their latest price list here - http://www.guysandstthomasprivatehe...ted-conception/funding-and-costs/eligibility/ but the website seems to suggest prices start from about £3000. Ours was more but that was because we needed ICSI treatment (where they inject the sperm individually into the egg).

There have been a number of ladies who went with a private clinic in Cyprus and seemed to get good results from that (presumably at a good price). You may want to ask over in the other LTTTC forum where that was as I'm not sure (and I don't know if people pop over into the 2ndary infertility forum too regularly).

I wouldn't say the IVF process is enjoyable but having done it three times I'd say it's nothing to be scared about, you just get on with things. The worst part IMO is needing daily injections which either you/your partner can administer. However compare that with people with diabetes who have to inject themselves/have blood taken all the time - I guess it's all relative!

You sound pretty upset (understandably) about what you went through a few years ago, it may also be worth getting some counselling for that? as you have been essentially through a traumatic experience.

Hope everything works out for you x

 

[Hugemistake]

Hi
Thankyou for your reply, its reassuring to hear that ivf isn't as scary as I thought it may be.
I have had a few sessions of counselling but stopped for a while as it was making me really upset and I was just going over and over the same things and I felt that talking about it when I hadn't felt better with time just meant I needed to accept it was a mistake and try and rectify that.

I looked into reversal op but it seems iam not suitable as did not have clips (I wasn't even aware what method had been used that's how little it was explained to me at the time so I was in no position to give informed consent) I had to get hold of my notes to find out they had removed a portion of the tubes then cauterised so the only option is ivf.

I will have a look at the link thanks as have been researching clinics but its hard to choose!

 

[JJ Mum]

Just pm'd you with my email addy to chat hun,

Same as you my story, i was cut , ends caterised and tied, tried ivf with no joy and got tubes fixed by uk private specialist
Can talk to you all about it, as I know just how it feels xx

Ive managed to have my 5 th and miracle baby, lets get you sorted too xx

 

[Hugemistake]

We have decided to try ivf first and see how that goes, we have set ourselves a limit of two attempts then we will look at the reversal op.
I keep feeling anxious about what is the right thing to do but at the moment feel that it would be better to try ivf first before having a big operation. I also have polycystic ovaries so not sure if ivf may be a better option anyway as have some problems with them recently.

Currently trying to get healthier too as have recently lost a lot of weight through doing too much /being stressed/rushing around and it has affected my periods (8st 13 and 5'10 and just had a cycle of 62 days when I'm 9.5 stone I'm usually between 32-35 days)

We are going to save for a couple of months and see where we are in feb. Still feels surreal that I got myself into this horrible position. I wish it had never happened.

 

[JJ Mum]

Big hugs hun - it's the guilt that eats away at you isn't it. Nobody seens to understand as we caused this - Glad you have chosen your plan of action now - think your right to give it a whirl it is the far less invasive way to ttc.


Might be worth getting the ball rolling now thougth as it can take a long time, I had a private consultant refer me to my ivf clinic, I presume any doc could refer then wait for initial consultation, then theres alot of initial tests to be done so at least you could be in the system while your saving, as theres nothing more frustrating being finally ready to go in your head abd moneywise and to find you have to wait another month or so. Some of the tests have to be done on certsin cycle days like hornone profile and baseline ( dildo cam) scan to see how many folicles your producing, esp if you have polycystic ovarys as they don 't want to give you too strong a dose of stimulant abd risk you getting OHSS.

I will be following your journey with excitement - good luck x

Incase you hadn't seen - ive now had a surprize bfp with hopefully my second reversal pregnancy!
Hang in there - you can change what happened xx

 

[miamia]

professionally I work a lot with girls from Russian and Poland, and from (also) experience I know they consider clinics (private) in Czech Rep and Poland. Prices are attractive for Europe, service and quality is the same as in any good private clinic in e.g. Germany, France or UK.

 

[MaryGreen]

I'm also considering ivf at the moment. I currently stopped my search at the http://ivf-sunrise.net/, which I think is exactly I'm looking for.