confused about my husbands reaction...

[MrsKLloyd]

Im finding it hard at the moment as I have noone to chat to about how I feel about being pregnant again my husband is very blank about it, won't bring it up, talk about it or rly acknowledge it..this is total opposite to when we knew about reu he talked about it and too it, touched my belly and hugged it from 4weeks!!

I know this baby wasn't planned like reu and I know when its here we will love it but I want matt to be like he was with reu...maybe at scan he will, I remember he was super interested from scan as he could see it!

 

[Maria1977]

My first and this pregnancy were planned... to the extent that we weren't ttc but we weren't using protection, if it happened it happend, if not we were just carrying on with life. Both times we conceived almost straight away!!!

First pregnancy I don't think anything changed til our son was born. This time, he was shocked at how quick it happened again and again... nothing has changed lol

We will carry on like normal, he will come to the appts and all that, but I don't think it will really register until baby is here!

Men defo deal with things in different ways to we do. For us the change is immediate, we know the baby is there, our bodies are screaming at us that something is happening, but for men it''s a gradual process!!!

 

[Princess81]

Up until recently my o/h didn't seem at all interested in our baby. Just carrying on as normal. Ours wasn't really planned - we knew I would struggle to have children so it wasn't prevented either. We very nearly had an early arrival last week and since then he has pretty much had a personality transplant and has taken a massive interest in the baby.
I guess it's hard for them to feel involved when it's our bodies that are doing all the work. He did come to all my appointments etc but just kind of seemed disinterested until last week xx

 

[lanny]

This is my 4th and my o/h was only excited with our first he loves them all to bits but I think, after the first pregnancy he just think we have done it all before kind of thing, I went in a mood with him yesterday as he got a stone roses ticket he really wanted I said only two wks till 20wk scan and he was like ohhh yea then started yapping on about his blooming ticket again lol

 

[Princess81]

Stone Roses are awesome though Lanny

My o/h has no problem at all with admitting that he's more excited about modern warfare 3 being released in November

 

[nikki8092]

I totally agree with Lanny. This is my 3rd and i think its a case of well you have done it before so... lol.

 

[jmw1664]

I understand how you feel, because I'm waiting until my first scan next week before I go public I really have nobody to share anything with, worries or excitment Kinda feel like I'm going through this on my own...and after two years of trying I really did think my other half would be asking me questions and taking more interest off his own back rather than me telling him what I found today and what it's meant to look like at this stage and showing him vidoes online etc etc. He has says that he's kind of waiting for the scan for it to really sink in and to make it all the more real to him, but still...makes you feel a bit alone when these first 12 weeks are the most emotionally, physically and mentally challenging (or for myself anyhow) and it does get very lonely
Bring on the first scan next week and hopefully things will change...but as Maria1977 says men deal with things in totally different ways too! Not much any of us can do to change that lol

 

[MrsKLloyd]

Yeah i agree, it is different for me...just wish the scan would hurry up and happen so i can prove to myself this is all real as well as him! Starting to wondering if i'm imagining all the symptoms and the 3 positive tests! haha

 

[Maria1977]

Yeah i agree, it is different for me...just wish the scan would hurry up and happen so i can prove to myself this is all real as well as him! Starting to wondering if i'm imagining all the symptoms and the 3 positive tests! haha

I keep thinking the same and wondering if I'm imagining it all even though I literally thought I was gonna be sick on my 10 month old earlier lol


It's hard work being a woman lol xxxx

 

[MrsKLloyd]

Lol what are we like eh!!

On a major good note whilst discussing Xmas plans my hubby mentioned 'tadpole' and how our little family will b perfect so feeling more positive x

 

[jmw1664]

aaahh thats sweet

It does help when they do say something or take more interest even if they call it a tadpole hehehe