Cbfm question

[Maximus17]

Hiya so I have been using the Clearblue advanced ovulation sticks for the last 5 months and it hasn’t worked for me so I am desperate and thinking cbfm might work better. What do you all think? I mean they seem to do the same thing giving you highs and peaks so not sure how cbfm would be better?

 

[Melly41]

Hi maximus, i bought a cbfm and used it twice. It failed to pick up my lh surge as it happened overnight. Lucky i was doing opks too. I personally wouldnt recommend but others swear by them! I bought it feeling desperate to want to get pregnant again after mmc in sept but its not worked for me. The month i caught (july) we were not ttc so was more relaxed. Its hard though as cant bring myself to fully relax about it, esp as time it ticking away for me being 42! Are you opk-ing, temping etc? X

 

[Maximus17]

hi Melly, opks but no temping as I don't wake same time everyday and wake up so many times so I don't get accurate results. I use Opks with the clearblue digital, they seem to match however I spent so much money on them and still not pregnant. I am wondering whether to give up opks and just bd every other day around my fertile period. But I am a control freak so I would find it hard to just relax and not knowing would drive me mad

 

[Melly41]

I ditched the opks this cycle as i was finding they were taking over and had not got me pregnant in the previous 3 cycles anyway. We are now moving to ntnp in the hope a more relaxed approach might be more helpful and take pressure off. I never got on with temping too as usually awake for loo overnight. Maybe try the smep? I think there is something to be said for the more relaxed approach. I caught the month we werent ttc but the sadly had mmc. Is your OH still on board with ttc? Hope so and best of luck x

 

[Sunflower1]

Every other day would be fine. Do you get lines with cheap opks? Apparently it doesn't have to be as dark as the control line as long as there is a definite surge.

I wake up all hours of the night and take my temp and I still get a clear pattern of ovulation dip and luteal so it can work.

This month I ditched the CBs and used cheapie sticks but started dtd every other day from cd8 til day after I ovulated.

 

[Maximus17]

Hiya he is only on board for another month of TTC that will make it 6 months. I got him to agree to have a chat if it doesn’t happen again. I am thinking he might agree to try maybe for another couple of months but that would be all if at all so fingers crossed it will happen this month

 

[Maximus17]

Hi sunflower I do get the line darker than the control line and peak on Clearblue and we bd always around that time and before. As this might be our last month I might even just go with eod and try to relax and maybe just maybe it will happen

 

[Sunflower1]

It sounds like you are ovulating then. It could just be time (which I realise you don't have a lot of). We've been doing the same and I'm not pregnant yet. You said you'd only been trying for 5 months? That's not that long - it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your method. I think we've all been led to believe that women get pregnant at the drop of a hat but it's just not true. It can take longer than a few months.

I keep reading on here that people relaxed and got pregnant, but it's easier said than done. I hope this is your month!!!

 

[Sunflower1]

Also if you've been doing every day and not got pregnant then every other day may work better.

 

[Maximus17]

Yes I panic and we tend to bd like 4 days in a row when I am fertile. To be honest the 4th is not very pleasant anymore and we burnt out. So eod might be better especially if he has low sperm count right? My cycle is always different though so anything from 24 days to 29 so My ovulation is always different. What would you say best to start bd from? Cd8 to cd16?

 

[Melly41]

I reckon you should be covered if you dtd eod between cd8-16 x

 

[Sunflower1]

Yes I panic and we tend to bd like 4 days in a row when I am fertile. To be honest the 4th is not very pleasant anymore and we burnt out. So eod might be better especially if he has low sperm count right? My cycle is always different though so anything from 24 days to 29 so My ovulation is always different. What would you say best to start bd from? Cd8 to cd16?

I agree with Melly, start cd8 - cd16. Could be that's what the problem has been as if you do it every day it can get less and less in quantity. The fertility doctor said every other day was optimal. Maybe you could use that to persuade your OH to try for a bit longer...