Can't do this any more.

[NIE]

I can't do this any more.

I am so scared that I spend almost all my day in tears.

I had a bad night last night. Baby was really kicking hard and I had quite a bit of pain. It was so bad that I almost went to the hospital.

I feel really strange and just can't face the thought of possibly another 8 weeks of this, and then there's the labour to go through. I have a birth plan, but if I went into labour right now, I think I would demand an epidural or a c-section. I can't face all the pain and imbarrasement. The list of reasons can go on and on. Funny thing is.....I'm not worried about being a mum, so I don't know what's wrong and I can't explain it any better.

I know I am really lucky to be having this baby. I just don't feel strong enough and I don't know what to do. I'm on my own right now and was thinking of calling my midwife for a chat. Hopefully this is a normal feeling and a chat will help. xxx

 

[hotluck]

Sounds like pretty normal worries to me, and if you haven't got someone to talk to, and your midwife is friendly and helpful, then yes, phone her and let it all out. She has enough experience to give you some assurances and advice.

I have to admit that there are times each day when I feel that I'm not going to cope any more. Thankfully I have my OH to go home to and he always finds a way to take my mind of those thoughts.

 

[NIE]

Sounds daft but your reply set me off again.

My hubby is there for me but, he doen't fully understand how I am feeling. Only another mum 2 b would know.

The midwife is going to call me back, so hopefully she'll be able to help. I really need to calm down as it can't be good for baby. xxx

 

[hotluck]

You'll be fine, I know you will

 

[laetitia85]

I am feeling so low today too.

This is by far the worst day I've had in a long time. Hubby has a day off today and instead of helping me with the dishes he's been in bed all afternoon. Had to do the dishes sitting down as I have bad muscle pains from making a bit too much effort this week (carried a few heavy things )

oh well it's just one of those days.

 

[laetitia85]

Oooops sorry that didn't sound very encouraging did it...
here are a few hugs

 

[Dawnie010]

This is my 4th baby-- and still, I'm petrified, although I'm so BL@@DY uncomfortable at the moment that I think I need to get this over and done with!!
Ive got 5 weeks to go, .
You just have to look at the figures-- billions of women have given birth and gone through labour etc etc, dont worry yourself, the hospitals are all good, I'm sre you will be fine.
Don't get embarrassed, it is all nature and what a female body is designed to do.
If , like me, you have a prob with your OH being 'down there' at the birth, then just insist he stays up at the top end and holds your hand!!
Good luck xx

 

[Dawnie010]

Oh, NIE I'm sorry, just realised you said youre on your own, will there be someone at the birth with you??
A close friend perhaps??
I went to a friends birth once- it was really really interesting seeing it from another 'angle' so to speak xx
You havent got long to go, spend these last few weeks doing some 'Me' time and looking after yourself

 

[NIE]

Oh, NIE I'm sorry, just realised you said youre on your own, will there be someone at the birth with you??
A close friend perhaps??
I went to a friends birth once- it was really really interesting seeing it from another 'angle' so to speak xx
You havent got long to go, spend these last few weeks doing some 'Me' time and looking after yourself

Sorry, I didn't mean I was on my own as in no partner. My husband is away working at the moment. xxx

 

[NIE]

I've spoke to my midwife and she was really reassuring. I think she has been expecting me to be like this at some point as I have been so over excited from the start, even during a difficult first few weeks.

She is going to keep an eye on me as I have suffered from depression before and was on medication for it.

Thanks for the support girls. It makes a difference knowing your are all here and are going through similar worries. xxx

 

[hotluck]

Glad the midwife was able to help and is going to keep an eye on you. It's nice to have someone who cares enough to do that

 

[alfie]

Hi hon, now you stop worrying - you're going to be just fine! The birth is one of those things that you spend 9 months worry but it's really not as bad as you imagine - otherwise noone would ever do it again would they?? You just have to remember that it's one day of pain and then it's all over. If it's the pain you're worried about book an epidural straight away. I really thought that i wouldn't be able to cope with the pain but i did - TWICE - and it's tough but it's hard to explain, its a different sort of pain, it's not like when you hurt yourself or you're ill, you get a strength from inside that makes you cope with it. Think about it, if 14 year old girls can do it then we can!!! The embarassment factor is different, I told my husband "you are there for me! Under no circumstances do you look down that end!" well on the actual day I was saying "get down there and have a look, can you see the head yet?" But seriously most of the time there's actually no need for them to be down the business end, they are there to hold you and get beaten about a little!!! ok a lot!!!

All your worries are completely normal, this is baby 3 for me and the worries don't go away as every time is different. But honestly you will be ok. Try not to let the last few weeks of peace and quiet and no night feeds be ruined by worrying about stuff that you can't actually do a lot to change.

It's great that your midwife is taking care of you - thats what they are there for, you moreso than the baby at this stage.

Take care honey

Alfie
xxx

 

[neeko_1]

1st of all

as your drawing to the end of your pregnany, you'll feel like not doing anything. but hun that we'll change soon.

i had SPD and that was the WORSE pain evey, it took me like half an hour to go to the loo, i couldn't even leave the flat. but as my due dat got closer i knew it would be over, i was so scared about the pain, but hunni it's not that bad, well mine wasn't that bad

but as they all say you'll be holding your LO soon

hope i'm making sense

 

[enn]

hey u be fine. i was scared since week 20 something all through out the preg since then. had baby and wondered why i was so sacred. think it was cause i thought i was gonna be in pain but i wasnt. i didnt have no pain relief for mine. i had gas and air to control teh contractions then she said push and if i need the gas and air i could use it but after she said push i didnt need it.

goodluck

 

[NIE]

I had a good chat with my hubby last night, and I feel a bit better today. We went through my birth plan and we have made a few changes which I feel quite good about.

I think everything is getting on top of me at the moment and I am needing to have some me time before it's too late.

Going to treat myself next week. Not sure how yet, any ideas? xx

 

[NIE]

Dek has started making dinner for me tonight, which is a real treat. Looks like bangers and mash. I've not had that for years.

We have a movie and chocolates for this evening. Looks like our chat last night has actually made Dek think.

I feel slightly stronger now, and no tears today. I don't think he will leave me on my own as much. He said he is sorry for working so much just now and leaving me on my own. He didn't reolise how I was feeling, but now he knows, he'll be much more supportave.

We are going to make plans to treat ourselves on Monday and Tuesday. I can't wait. xxx

 

[Valley Girl]

I fell exactly the same.

My broadband is going to be off for a few weeks so may not be able to post but I can assure you you are not alone. I understand completely.

For me what's making it a lot worse is that I have a violent ex partner who after not seeing my children for six months is now threatening me with a solicitor about going to court. Cafcass have said if he wants to take you to court bring it on, he'll probably end up with a few court orders he didn't expect to get, but it is driving me underground. I don't feel I should be going through all this right now, especially as he has the children once a week for tes, the problem being that they don't want to go! I'm not stopping him seeing them, just trying to make it slow and steady for the kids, and I don't feel they are safe when they are with him.

Sorry for the rant, but I feel like someone's got a gun to my head and I just want to enjoy having my baby with my husband and my boys.

Has anyone else been through anything like this?????????

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Ohhh I can relate, totally. I just want this pregnancy to be over with, I have had enough, esp with my breathing issues.

I have days where I feel pregnant and days when I don't and the added stress of money, is just killing me. At the moment, we are sharing a place, until we move next week. Our flat mates are fooking lazy buggers, sleep and eat or spend all their time on the internet, they don't do their dishes and don't clean!

So, this morning, I put all the dishes in a bin bag and left them outside and replaced them with paper plates and plastic cups. I can't clean up anymore, ok I am on maternity leave but I should be catered to now!! Yet, over the weekend, I cleaned the whole place and ended up having a breathing attack and they still can't see how fooking lazy they are. I am all for doing things for just me and hubby but I can't live ina pig sty.

 

[s]

sorry I haven't been on in such a long time and sorry this reply is late and probably no use to you NIE but what you're feeling is completely natural. We're not sleeping. We're uncomfortable. This is all new to us and we've got a million trillion hormones doing our heads in! I have up and down days and am terrified about the birth but we'll get through it.
Don't beat yourself up girl. What you're feeling is totally normal.
s
x

 

[NIE]

Thanks for the replies girls.

It's good to know that I am not alone in what I am feeling.

It is difficult coping with these hormones. I seem to be worse now than in the first few months.

Never mind I'm sure I'll cope over the next 7 weeks, hopefully not any longer.

It's time for me to chill out and get excited about seeing my wee man for the first time, and to stop worrying about every little thing.

HERE'S TO THE NEXT 7 WEEKS OF PAMPERING.