Can you get postnatel depression so long after birth!!

[Baileysmummy]

My youngest child is 2 in june!

At this moment in time, i dont feel i can bond with him, he doesnt come to me, pushes me away when i try and give him love or cuddles..

He wont settle in his bed on an evening..

Am i depressed i know i shouldnt say this but i wish i can turn back the clock to 3 months ago, he was such a loving boy, everything has changed..

All i seem to do is cry when i look at him, i love him with all my heart i really do, but something isnt right
Is it because im expecting, is it my hormones..
Help

 

[violet-glow]

Firstly hun dont be so hard on yourself. It is not your fault. Some of his behaviour is probably to do with the new baby. Young children dont like change and believe me ive seen that first hand. I have a 3 year old and believe me he is driving me round the bend. I had problems bonding with him when he was born and I dont think that has really corrected itself. As time goes on and his temper becoming more and more agressive (sp?) it feels like he is pushing me away and I dont want him round (I know thats a horrible things to say, but when hes having a tantrum I dont feel i can cope. Its hard with 2 small children. Well I find it hard anyway. Your not along hun, but please dont be so hard on yourself

I also think you both have alot of hormones flying round. Children pick up on these little vibes that we dont even notice were sending off.

When your son was born did you bond with him alright?

**huge hugs**

 

[Baileysmummy]

Hi, thanks for your reply!

When bradley was born i was unable to bond with him like most mums because he was born premature and was very poorly for 3 weeks, i used to help clean his nappies and soak his lips but thats all i could do, he was 2 weeks old before i finally held him and that was only for 5 mins..

see prem babies, i have a post in there..

I feel exctaly the same as you when he tempers, i feel so frustrated, i dont want to be around him, i will admit i have shown my anger by shouting at him, mark my husband says thats why he doesnt like me, but i cant help myself, i dont do it often mind..

I love him with all my heart and would never hurt him but its getting to the point he is pushing me too far..

He seems ok with the news about a new baby he even kisses my bump bless him