Breast or bottle?

[x-kirsty-x]

Is anyone else going to bottlefeed? There is a reason I wont breastfeed, a very personal one so I wont go into it. I know most of you already/are going to breastfeed and I feel like the odd one out.

I've already told my midwife I WONT be pressured into it. Last time I was only 17 and they all looked down at me for bottlefeeding but this time I wont take any shit from them. If bottlefeeding wasnt safe it wouldnt be allowed and Josh turned out ok.

 

[kirlykird]

I don't think there's anyhting wrong with you bottle feeding and I don't think you should be pressured the other way if you don't want to.

I chose not to breast feed my twins as I personally thought it would be too demanding and hard work, they turned out fine!

I am choosing to breast feed this time but that is more due to the fact that it is free and on demand.

Although saying that, i will probably only do it for a few months and carry on with formula there after.

One of my close friends does a mixture of both and Maysie is developing very well!

 

[mummytoBee]

the idea of breastfeeding repulses me lol, its like.. its a sexual thing between me n my partner boobies and all that lol, n i wudnt like to think of my baby on therlol, personal opinion tho, iknow breast is best and all that but it is also my decision to bottlefeed so ur not alone

 

[Dinski]

I'll give breastfeeding a try but if I don't like it I'll quickly change to bottle. My best friend and my sister both bottlefed their babies and they are fine. These days the formulas you can buy are so good anyway. My friend said that the most important time for breastfeeding is the first couple of weeks when the pre-milk colostrum? is created and that is what has all the nutrients. After that apparently it doesn't make much difference. I do think there is a lot of snobbishness about breast vs bottle but I think you should do whatever makes you feel happy, its your body and your baby and you shouldn't feel pressured either way. Good luck!

 

[Scarlet06]

Im going to try and breast feed but i dont really no how i feel about it. I want to do it for my LO but the idea of it makes me feel funny.

 

[Kat@girlracer]

I am planning to do a bit of both! I'm looking forward to the bonding you get when feeding her but I also want to get Paul involved as much as poss so her last bottle before bed will be formula and that will be daddy & Lucy time

 

[Londoner Claire]

Yeah don't feel pressured. I bottle-fed my son and in hospital I was never pressured into BF. I want to try it this time but really only at night time to save a lot of hassle, gonna try a pump for the daytime. The thought of it first time around repulsed me, this time not so much as long as I never have to do it in front of anyone then it's straight to bottle again.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

My foster brother abused me when I was younger and ever since that happened I hate exposing my body, thats why I wont do it. I do feel guilty though cos I know breast is best and all that.

I saw summit on TV and a breastfeeding expert was saying 'Its alright thinking that babies who were bottlefed turn out fine, but you're increasing their risk of diabetes, cancer etc.'

No wonder so many women feel pressured!!

 

[Jaidy]

Kirsty dont feel pressurised at all hun. At the end of the day its your body and your baby and you do whatever makes you comfortable.

I would like to try breastfeeding, but to be honest im not 100% comfortable with the idea and im not going to pretend I am just to please people. I know its best for baby etc, but im really going to see how I feel when I have had the baby.

 

[Emma22]

im going to try breast feeding but its my first time and not too sure how i feel about it or how ill get on but will give it a go, prob only for a few months.

 

[sarah113]

im going to try and breast feed again, i done it for a short time with my other children but stopped after a short time.
as the others said its up to you what you do hun, no one can make you do anything you dont want to do.

sarahxxx

 

[little*red]

Kirsty try not to feel pressurised, you stick your ground with what you want to do. Its your body and your child, its not the midwifes or HV who have to raise the child.
Im definitly not breastfeeding, its just a personal choice, and i won't be pressurised by anyone to do it. im not against breastfeeding im just chosing not to.
Your baby wont suffer for it, their are plenty of babies who are breastfeed that get ill and bottlefeed ones that dont, and vice versa.
As you said Josh turned out fine and this baby will too .

 

[kirlykird]

hugs for you

Do what you feel comfortable with as I said my twins came out ok from it, plus points too is that you know that lo is getting what it should and if it is having enough

Plus dad can help out a little more too

 

[cloud9]

kirsty...

I have an article in a mag this week which was about things they do in different cultures for babies and in france breatfeeding is rare and in rural france it is even a taboo. i think with pregnancy your body goes through so much that isn't your choice when LO comes out you should have all the control.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Thanks everyone, I thought most people on here were going to breastfeed but obviously I was wrong!

Makes me feel better knowing that other people feel the same as me!

 

[littlebump]

Hello!

I know breast is meant to be breast but it's not for everyone. Your personal (emotional as well as physical) welfare is essential when it comes to looking after your baby and if breastfeeding would jeapordise that then of course you must go with the bottle. It's a real shame that you have been scarred to this extent by something terrible that happened in your past, but I don't think anyone has the right to pressure you one way or another whatever your reasons.

I tried to b/f Maddie but my milk wasn't sufficient (and Maddie wasn't gaining weight) so we had to move to the bottle at 6 weeks. I kept up the b/f for as long as possible but my milk dried up quite soon after I was devastated and felt a real failure because my NCT group all breastfed successfully and made it look so easy!

This time I'll give it my best shot but at the end of the day I know that if baby's not gaining weight, we'll move to the bottle straight away.

My mum gave me a bottle from day 1 and I've grown up healthy without allergies or illnesses and have been successful academically and in my career so I have no hangups about formula milk. And I'm sure formula milk has improved enormously in the 32 years since I last drunk the stuff!

LBxx

 

[maybebaby]

I'm planning and hoping to breastfeed but would never look down on anyone for bottlefeeding instead. It's got to be a personal choice and noone should feel pressured into doing something they're not comfortable with.

 

[nikki1306]

I have always bottlefed hun as i don't feel comfortable breastfeeding,silly i know but all my kids have turned out just fine xx

 

[jennywren]

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I saw summit on TV and a breastfeeding expert was saying 'Its alright thinking that babies who were bottlefed turn out fine, but you're increasing their risk of diabetes, cancer etc.'

No wonder so many women feel pressured!!

I dont think this is proven though is it? Its another case of the scaremonger society were starting to love in IMO. I remeber when I was a kid it was all ''have vitamins'' blah blah ''have plenty of vit C vitamins as there excellent for you'' then I remeber a while ago (maybe 5 years) it was ''dont take to many Vit C you can get cancer'' ................. its all based on percentages and its a load of crap IMO. For example the one about bottle fed babies not being as clever as breastfed babies.....Have they tested EVERYSINGLE person in the world...........NOPE so how can they get a realiable figure based on who they test - maybe it just so happened the 200 they tested, the ones who wernt as clever were just lazy, or not so bright anyway - they can not possibly know this unless they test everysingle person alive and then can work out the percentages!

Sounds awfull but everysingle person has cancer sitting idle in their body, anything can kick it off, dont know if you know, but if you have a car crash, it can kick of cancer (rare but it happens) so do they ask every single cancer patient ''were you breast or bottle fed'' I doubt it, so again how do they know that more poeple bottle fed get cancer than breast fed.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr soooooooo annoying!

Sorry rant over lol

I chose not to breast feed my twins as I personally thought it would be too demanding and hard work, they turned out fine!

This is something im worried about this time. When I read the ''demand feeding'' regarding it, and see lots of babies ''demand'' it every hour-huor and half, its quite worrying, as i dont wanna get run down and be ''off the ball'' so to speak for looking after bubs!

I am choosing to breast feed this time but that is more due to the fact that it is free and on demand.

Im going to try it, ill always wonder ''what if'' if I dont, but a bit like you, its free and there no messing. But as I said above the ''on demand'' can be a good thing and a bad thing!

Although saying that, i will probably only do it for a few months and carry on with formula there after.

Same Kirls, my initial plan is 6-8 weeks I think, or try and do the mixture of bottle & breast asap (I think can be done from 4 weeks) that way, when at home can do breast, when out and about can do bottle!

Things change though, I may find it easy and simple and not tiring at all, or bubs might not take or it may hurt to much, so I think its a case of wait and see TBH.

Sorry for long post