breast feeding failure!

[Amy_J]

i breast fed my lo for the first 8 weeks and i found it so exhausting and sooo hard!!! he was born at 5lb 2oz and was the smallest thing id ever held in my life! he found it sooo hard to latch on and then would just fall asleep after about 2 mins of sucking!!! eventually i was getting the hang of it but i had sooooo much milk my boobs were soooooo hard and pianful and i ended up getting an infected abcess!! i had to go to hospital to have it drained and removed (not a nice experience) and then the medics told me it was better for me to stop and gave me some tablets to stop my milk...... at the time i was all for it cos i was exhausted and starting to get really down.... since marley has been on formula he has been constipated so changed from aptamil to aptamil comfort and now hes on cow&gate. the docs here in the uk have given him lactolose which helps but he still doesnt go regularly... i feel so bad that i didnt keep up with bf..i dont want him to be on lactulose forever.... i miss that closeness with him.... arghh this is a pointless thread but i needed to let it out...lol

 

[isobel84]

dont be so hard on yourself. 8 weeks is a good start and you did very well. If you really struggle then i really understand why you stoped. its not nice for the baby if every time he feeds its a stress for the mum. The constipation is nothing i can help with, is it possible hes still getting used to the formula?

 

[pinkymum]

I agree with Evelina, 8 weeks is brilliant. I think its unfair that mums are made.to feel guilty. So don't hun. Sorry I can't help more I'm just expecting my first
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[Minchin]

ahh the guilt is horrid isn't it I feel it with everything! But 8 WEEKS IS BRILLIANT! so don;t beat yourself up, easier said than done...

 

[Zazu]

Don't feel guilty! 8 weeks is fab, and if you were still breastfeeding you would probably still feel the way you did so that wouldn't help your LO at all. He will get used to the milk, and a lot of babies don't go regularly. You did great, don't feel bad! X

 

[LouLou1986]

Aww hun you done really well! I couldn't even manage three days so you deserve a massive pat on the back, your far from a failure!! Xx

 

[kellylou]

Youve done really well hun im struggling now and just had a big lecture from the nurse for giving formula at night i know how u feel about missing the closeness as alex wldnt feed past two days my nephew is on cow and gate and goes every three days he was constipated too would a bit of water help?

 

[Sam's Mum]

Don't feel like you've failed!! 8 weeks is amazing, especially if it's been a struggle for you Remember that you being less exhausted and down is good for him too x

 

[AugustMum]

A happy mummy = a happy baby. At the time, formula made you both more comfortable and so its was probably the best choice

8 weeks is a fantastic amount of time for your lo to have had so be uber proud of yourself. I know this feeling of guilt and it never goes I dont think but just keep reminding yourself how happy he is and that food is food no matter where it comes from. x