Bit nervous

[Mrsbee]

We have our early gender scan tomorrow and I'm sooooo frigging excited I was up crazy early this morning thinking about it. However I can't help but feel a tad nervous. 1) it's a scan I always worry about how little monkey is although I listen to the heartbeat every night and I'm pretty sure I feel him/her moving sometimes. 2) I think hubby might be a bit disappointed it he's a boy, he's adamant that baby is a girl and I was adamant it's a boy (to the point we have a £100 bet on it... Money going to into monkey's piggy bank.) 3) I don't think I have a preference but what if they say it's a girl or boy and I'm a bit disappointed? Obviously I want to point out as long as baby is healthy I don't care but I dunno. And I kinda feel a bit bad for feeling this way in the first place?

 

[kanga86]

Hi mrsbee, I had the same worries with my early scan with this pregnancy. It's my 3rd and I have two boys already so I was desperate for a girl to 'complete' our family as this is our last baby. I found out at 17 weeks this little monkey was another boy and I was so disappointed and I'm not going to lie it sucked to feel like that about a much wanted healthy baby and I cried for weeks about it. More about how guilty I felt for my feelings and like I would be missing out on something by having a girl and a mummy/girly relationship. I'm now 30 weeks and I can honestly say that for the last 7-8weeks I have been excited to be welcoming another boy to my family and although I do still have a pang of what if it was a girl, I couldn't be happier. So whatever you feel after the scan please don't worry it won't last forever and it doesn't mean you love your baby any less. Good luck for your scan tomorrow xx

 

[HopeJoy29]

Good luck for ur scan tomorrow x
As Kanga said... Dont worry about how u feel after ur babys gender is revealed i'm sure as the weeks pss u will be excited regardless of the gender. I have mines too tomorrow im really nervous x

 

[kittyrooroo]

I'm so worried about this too! My first is a boy and I was gutted when we found out at 20 weeks. I cried and cried. Then I cried because I felt guilty that I had cried. I tried to blame it on hormones but it was just disappointment.

Now I'm pregnant with number 2 and I'd love a girl. But when I look at my scan pic to try and look for a nub and I think it's a girl, I'm disappointed? I really want a gender scan just to put my mind at rest but I'm scared I'll cry my eyes out if it's a boy. My little boy is amazing and I'll be so lucky to have another one just like him but I do worry about my first reaction.

Good luck, it's okay to cry if you want to! It doesn't mean that you love that little baby any less! Xxx

 

[RoisinC]

Don't beat yourselves up girls, just because we're parents doesn't mean we're not human!! We all have preferences but it doesn't mean we're bad parents. I was convinced this baby (my 4th) was a girl which I would have loved. Found out its a boy and I was initially really upset (I've 2 boys and a girl already). That was about 8 weeks ago and like others have said I've got over it and now can't wait to meet him. Good luck for your scans xx

 

[Gem212]

Honestly its completely natural to have these feeling, i have 3 boys already, first time we didn't find out and it was a lovely surprise, 2nd time we found out at 20 weeks it was a boy and my DH took it really badly as he wanted a girl, he got over it within a few days and 3rd time round i can honestly say when we found out i felt really disappointed not that he was a boy just that i would never have a mother daughter bond that my friends all have. However my boys are all Mummys boys and i wouldn't change a single thing!!

This time around i'm crapping myself, there's so much pressure on me to have a girl, everyone keeps saying this is your girl, and your defo having a girl but i think its another tiny little man in there, will i feel slight disappointment - yes! but ill get over it and have another beautiful son to look after his mum when i'm old

 

[GillM]

How did your scan go? Xx