Birth plan - have you written yours yet?

[mermaid]

Well I am just writing mine at the moment but I feel silly about putting certain things in. I don't want to sound like I am demanding! For example, we don't want male staff present as neither me or my partner feel comfortable with this. Is that a problem do you think?

 

[Vicki83]

Hiya mermaid.

Your birth plan is exactly that, yours! So put down whatever you want although when in the throes of labour you'll probably not be giving a toss who's there!

I've written mine already, need to take it along to midwife on next visit incase i've forgotten anything!

The jist of mine is who my partner is, i don't want any students present, think it'll be enough with midwife and dcotor prodding and poking at me! Cutting the cord, etc.

 

[violet-glow]

Im not going to bother writting one as I will change my mind about somethings when im there. Im just going to tell OH what I want so he makes sure I stick to it lol

There isnt many male MWs so dont worry about that hun and they will keep to your wishes if you dont want them there.

Because I had a difficult labour last time the MW brought some people into the delivery room, one of them was male, but when I was in that much pain, I wouldnt have cared if a chimp was touching me lol

 

[kellie80]

No i'm not bothering writing one either. I don't really mind what happens or whos there to be honest. I had some ideas in my head about pain relief when i had my 2nd but the all went out the window. I'm just gonna go with the flow this time.

 

[bev]

I'm not writing one cuz I have absolutely no idea how things will go and if I want or don't want something I'll just tell them then.

I think it's up to the individual really, if you woud rather write it all down then go for it

Bev x x

 

I wrote mine when I was about 30 weeks and discussed it with my midwife I think at around that time too. If you need any help about what to say or to include, send me a PM and i'll help

 

[weestar21]

i didnt know you could request not having males present
wish i had knowing that when i was having Adele their was more men than woman in the room but at the time i wasnt caring and as soon as she was born they all ran away with her so i was left with 1 MW.

But with Colby i had one MW and one student so it was ok

now when i think about it i didnt even write one out, didnt have time to think with Adele and just had gas and air
and with Colby it was just a case of gimme what you have handy

 

[mermaid]

Thanks MomNat, I appreciate it! I think it is important to have one incase I'm not in a position to say or remember things. Plus OH may pass out and forget !

I guess I feel it more important as I was originally thinking of a homebirth and I like things my way lol! The little things do matter and I believe a birth plan tells the midwife a bit about who you are too.

 

[Jaidy]

I have written one, but its not too demanding or strict because I think its important to go in with an open mind! Im pretty much going to go with the flow when im in labour I think, as I have no idea really what to expect being my first baby.

I have really just made notes on things like having my partner present, students, cutting cord, just like what the rest of you have said

 

[hev&madi]

i has a birth plan all written out and it all went down the drain!!!

 

[mummykay]

i has a birth plan all written out and it all went down the drain!!!

exact same as me hev!!

waste of pen and paper on my part lol!!

 

[mum2A&L]

Ive not written one. THey only thing i don't want is pethadine and OH knows that!

i kinda just want this baby out safe and sound now. I don't care what it takes or what they have to do! i feel like a ticking bomb as the weeks have gone by. Less time to do anything if my levels are rasised really high!

 

[Rubys mummy]

Ive not written one. THey only thing i don't want is pethadine and OH knows that!

Me too! NO pethadine. just hope OH doesnt pass out on me

The only other thing I want is Lee to be the one to tell us if we have a son or a daughter, just to see his face when he sees what we have will be my happiest and proudest moment in my entire life I reckon...

It is important to keep an open mind tho, my sis ended up with an emergency c section, so her plan went right out the window!!!

 

[Lyndsey]

Mine is similar - I would like to have a water birth if possible and I would prefer NOT to have Pethidine... also I would like Hubby to tell me the sex and cut the cord......

I am not bothered about having students as I was a student nurse once and know how frustrating it can be trying to learn... but it is limited to 1 at a time!!! Apart from that getting it out as quickly as possible and as pain free as possible would be nice!! lol

And thats about it......

 

[violet-glow]

I was so nasty to my MWs last time I was their first delivery and I think I scared them for life lol Thats one thing I hope for this time... that I will have a MW thats been through loads of labours But im not going to request it.

 

[Vicki83]

Ive not written one. THey only thing i don't want is pethadine and OH knows that!

Me too! NO pethadine. just hope OH doesnt pass out on me

The only other thing I want is Lee to be the one to tell us if we have a son or a daughter, just to see his face when he sees what we have will be my happiest and proudest moment in my entire life I reckon...

It is important to keep an open mind tho, my sis ended up with an emergency c section, so her plan went right out the window!!!

That's an excellent idea Zoe, i hadn't even thought of that to be honest! Hope you don't mind me stealing that idea!

 

[Minime]

Go into labour, ring MW then again when contractions are 5 minutes apart. Mooch round house, put TV on, get bored, put enigma CD on and chill out. Rip OH's head off several times when he starts fretting, tell DD to get her ass off MSN and tell her mates to stop knocking, send OH round to neighbours so they know he's not killing me and call the police, pace round some more, settle down and chew on the nozzle for the gas and air, phone a friend as OH has passed out then give birth and milk OH and DD running round after me for a couple of days

 

[oldermum]

Go into labour, ring MW then again when contractions are 5 minutes apart. Mooch round house, put TV on, get bored, put enigma CD on and chill out. Rip OH's head off several times when he starts fretting, tell DD to get her ass off MSN and tell her mates to stop knocking, send OH round to neighbours so they know he's not killing me and call the police, pace round some more, settle down and chew on the nozzle for the gas and air, phone a friend as OH has passed out then give birth and milk OH and DD running round after me for a couple of days

Turn off all mobiles and take the phone off the hook before birth and make DH and DD slaves for two weeks at least

 

[Keira]

i havent written mine yet as im not sure how it should be structured and what exactly I should include, I really wnat to write one though because i feel pretty strongly about somethings and I dont want to be pushed into anything I want the hospital to know exactly what I want and dont because i think at the time im going to feel under a bit of pressure like some of my friends have felt during labour....and i find it hard to express myself when not having it in writing