Merfairy
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Hi, being the first to have a baby in my immediate family I am really struggling with my mother and sister fighting for who is going to to see the baby first!! My sister thinks I am going to be texting her and having her up at the hospital when I go in to labour, and my mum is insistent on seeing her grandchild on her own before my sister gets a look in...
I am like wtf... I am due to be induced on Wednesday, my mum knows, but my sister does not, purely because I don't want her rushing up the hospital to see me when in labour (my sister is not the most relaxing influence on the planet). My mum doesn't drive and cannot get to the hospital, she is few miles away but she wants to see her grandchild alone before my sister (I am dreading the home visits from my mum and sister). My mum and sister have a difficult relationship, always have so I tell each of them things I can tell them if you catch my drift, as I don't want to offend or upset anyone in any way and always try to stay on side of both of them, but to be honest I wish I was having the baby far far away so no one could descend on me in hospital...
I made a decision that I was not going to have any contact regarding the birth until after baby is born, so I can do it in peace. My OH, on the other hand thinks I am being selfish and thinks I should be inviting people up to the hospital when baby is born, I don't want to do this at the moment, though I could change my mind admittedly. I am worried he will do invites even if I do not want it, so a little concerned and I will be so angry with him if he does this without me agreeing to it.
Not looking for any answers here just wanted to offload... arrgghh... families can be a nightmare sometimes... this whole baby bickering is becoming really annoying and so many people are texting and calling about how baby is, but its like.. let me in peace please.. no one wants to miss out on the action of course and I understand people are interested and want to offer support and I do appreciate it, really, but you know sometimes you just feel like you want to be left alone. My mum wants to call tomorrow, but I am like.. nooo.. bugger of let me be ... grrrr...
Anyway... thanks for the read and the chance to offload... this forum has been great.. x
I am like wtf... I am due to be induced on Wednesday, my mum knows, but my sister does not, purely because I don't want her rushing up the hospital to see me when in labour (my sister is not the most relaxing influence on the planet). My mum doesn't drive and cannot get to the hospital, she is few miles away but she wants to see her grandchild alone before my sister (I am dreading the home visits from my mum and sister). My mum and sister have a difficult relationship, always have so I tell each of them things I can tell them if you catch my drift, as I don't want to offend or upset anyone in any way and always try to stay on side of both of them, but to be honest I wish I was having the baby far far away so no one could descend on me in hospital...
I made a decision that I was not going to have any contact regarding the birth until after baby is born, so I can do it in peace. My OH, on the other hand thinks I am being selfish and thinks I should be inviting people up to the hospital when baby is born, I don't want to do this at the moment, though I could change my mind admittedly. I am worried he will do invites even if I do not want it, so a little concerned and I will be so angry with him if he does this without me agreeing to it.
Not looking for any answers here just wanted to offload... arrgghh... families can be a nightmare sometimes... this whole baby bickering is becoming really annoying and so many people are texting and calling about how baby is, but its like.. let me in peace please.. no one wants to miss out on the action of course and I understand people are interested and want to offer support and I do appreciate it, really, but you know sometimes you just feel like you want to be left alone. My mum wants to call tomorrow, but I am like.. nooo.. bugger of let me be ... grrrr...

Anyway... thanks for the read and the chance to offload... this forum has been great.. x
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