Bad Response

[Tillytots]

One word....Jealous!

Same with my so called best friend, this week she told me she couldnt think of anything more depressing than having a baby and how awful etc etc after I shared my special news with her. She then proceeded to tell anyone she could after she promised to keep quiet until after 12 weeks. She isnt the maternal type really either but people generally react this way when they are jealous, maybe not of having a baby but its certainly an achievement to have children and they are most probably lacking in their life.

OH and I only earn £30k a year and we wont make bad parents. You certainly shouldnt question yourself or your abilities to be parents over her reaction

xx

 

[Jade_Number1]

Ah, Tilly, you're a day ahead of me! Lets see who gets to the finish line first! x

 

[Tillytots]

Oh Yeah!!

K, the race is on

x

 

[Sally+Baby]

As long as your happy that's all that matters If she can't be happy for you then she's not a friend worth having!

And she say's £30k isn't much! Alot of people bring up more than 1 child on much less that that!

 

[fifi211]

That's a terrible reaction from anyone never mind a friend Take no notice at all, money isn't everything

 

[Babylicious]

 

[enn]

you can chose your friends but u cant chose your family

 

[helsekia]

the most important thing you can give a child is love,patience,guidance and understanding all of which im sure you will give in bucketfuls and cost you nothing.take no notice of your ''friend''dont let herspoil your happiness

 

[Bloom]

thought you derserved a hug.

 

[floppit]

I've known some truly and I mean TRULY messed up rich kids!!

So you won't be sending him or her to boarding school ( ), but you'll have enough for the school ski trip and ooodles of love!

Hubby and me have been talking about me stopping work - that would put us on less than 30K but who cares? At worst I might have to tackle terry nappies but enough generations did so before me...

 

[Happybunny]

Bless you!! She doesn't sound like much of a friend! How dare she make a judgement about your ability to raise a child based on your income!! It is ridiculous. My best friend and her OH have a tiny income (around 14k) and they are the most wonderful parents, they have inspired me to give up work. It might be a big drop in income, but who cares, kids need love not possessions!

 

[Steelgoddess]

Tell her to get stuffed!
no seriously im sorry she did that thats horrible and quite judgmental,

Its mainly a jugdement thing the most important thing in ANY family is LOVE as long as your family is rich in that its al you need

 

[lauramumof2]

I thought 30k was quite a lot. Of course the more money you have the more you can buy but how much of it is really neccessary.

We dont make that amount and my kids dont go without. Things can be tight but we are happy.

Im sorry about your friend, she is obviously a sad person.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

Im sorry but what you earn isn't any of her business! Me and OH earn just over 30k & we struggle sometimes but money doesn't buy love. Your child doesn't need money, fancy clothes or toys to show that you care just the love that you give it will be enough!

 

[Squiglet]

Lol.... Sounds a bit like the green eyed monster to me.... Learn to knit..

My parents didn't have hardly any money when I was born. My mum knitted me a teddy (floppy) when I was a little girl as she couldn't afford to buy me brand new ones.... Over the years as she got more money she would try and buy me "nice" ones, but floppy remained the favourite... because he was unique and special. I still have him.

When my daughter was born, I had nothing either... I knitted "teddy" for her... Teddy HAS to be in the bed at night, or she can't sleep and the monsters get her.... Tia now has many more "nice" toys...but Teddy....well he's special..

Those teddies were made in love....and were more important and more loved because they weren't big and expensive, they were made with love.

I can't afford everything new for this baby because we don't have much money at the moment. But he will be loved. That's what counts....

 

[muppetmummy]

My OH and I earn nowhere near 30k but we do ok and are now having number 2! We've always managed ok financially and James has far more toys then he needs. Your 'friend' sounds like a complete cow, and is probably jealous.

I think there is never a right time to have kids financially, if you waited for the right time you'd never have any. It's all relative, the more you earn, the higher your expectations would be (wanting designer baby clothes etc)

Ignore you 'friend'

 

[Rosebay]

Huh? We're all doing fine on £17k hun, ok his toys come from charity shops and we haven't been on holiday but I'd like to think that we're all very happy with the situation! I'm at home and love being with Mel so we have a lot of fun together with his friends at each other's houses, at the park and at toddler group and my OH does a job which is low paid but which he loves (he's a journalist). I sometimes worry that Mel has too many toys actually. My Nan is 94 on Monday and she was the eldest of 7 children, she grew up in the slums in London and shared a bed with all her brothers and sisters yet the way she tells it they had an amazingly loving childhood filled with fun and adventure- her "little" brother is still alive too at 87 and he says the same thing. I think your "friend" should seriously question her values, she sounds very materialistic! You deserve a you'll be a great mum- with £30k or with £30!

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[caz86]

all i can say is look at britney spears she has lots of money are her kids happy dont think so. u dont need money to fetch up a baby just love u will make fantastic parents. dont listen to ur "friend" maybe she doest like the thought of u settling down. did u used to go out alot? maybe she thinks that will stop now your pg. my income is alot less than yours and my daughter is happy she knows shes loved and thats all that matters. good luch hun and have a h&h 9 months forget about what others think its not good to stress over things like that enjoy your pregnancy the both of you xxx

 

[Robyn_]

Not a good friend - basically,
my friend did the same to me. she didnt say congratulations she went on how i cant do it, i dont have money and everything

like everyone else has said,
you dont need money to be a good parent.

dont worry hunni as long as you are happy thats all that counts

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Fark the stuck up cow, is she really your best friend if she can be snotty nosed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are many families out there that earn nothing and they get by ok, my other half earns 700 cyp pound a month, around 800 GBP and I get 600 cyp pound a month, around 700 GBP and we seem to be doing very well! Having a baby is not about the flash posh and becks life, it's about family, love and that bundle of joy. It's stupid to spend high amounts on a baby when they will grow out of things each month.

So I say, fark her, no offense!