Back on the market

[Alfiesmummy]

Well youve all heard me bang on about how much I love Ian, true! however it turns out that he doesnt love me, gutted but hey ho after 3 years its quite hard to hear that. I heard him on the phone to his mum (hes staying here till monday then by - bye) and he said "yeah steph wont cope without me but i have to go" MY ASS I WONT! thankyou ian youve given me the very thing i needed to pick myself up and get on with things.

Bravado down, Im gutted I really am but the best form of revenge is to get on with things im not going to waste my time getting upset im going to get on with it and im not missing time with my baby boy if i start feeling down ill get up get out and go to the park or take him swimming ill get through this, ... I have to for my boy. Im not wasteing time or energy on getting mad

 

[chezzabell]

Steffi iam sorry things having worked out for u and Ian, i really hoped u would work things out.

But i think the attitude u have is dam right its his lose hun, he is the one that has done this, u pick urself up and be strong for the little man and urself. You are a fantastic mother and i know u will give Alfie the best life ever and u can do it all on ur own if u have too

Iam always here for u babe

 

[Vickyleigh]

I agree with sophie all the way. You have the right attitude and your obviously a strong women I really admire you. There is no point getting mad or trying to get him to stay with you because you have your very own little person who will always love you unconditionally.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

aww hun im so sorry
u and alfie will be fine together and were all here if u need to tlk

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

hi hunni i'm so sorry but you know where i am if you need me

 

[budge]

Well youve all heard me bang on about how much I love Ian, true! however it turns out that he doesnt love me, gutted but hey ho after 3 years its quite hard to hear that. I heard him on the phone to his mum (hes staying here till monday then by - bye) and he said "yeah steph wont cope without me but i have to go" MY ASS I WONT! thankyou ian youve given me the very thing i needed to pick myself up and get on with things.

Bravado down, Im gutted I really am but the best form of revenge is to get on with things im not going to waste my time getting upset im going to get on with it and im not missing time with my baby boy if i start feeling down ill get up get out and go to the park or take him swimming ill get through this, ... I have to for my boy. Im not wasteing time or energy on getting mad

what a barsteward!
don't you worry steph come summer time im comnig over to my cara on the east coast and we shall hit the skeggy pier penny slots !!!
you will cope becasue you are strong and yo have your loely boy to care for

 

[Urchin]

Aw no I'm gutted to hear this I really am.

He sounds like a right tosser....you show HIM who can get on with life and leave him in your dust babe!

 

[Happybunny]

Sorry you are going through this; but I really admire you attitude!!!
You have got a gorgeous baby, you are right to focus your energies on him!

It is completely normal to be sad about ending a relationship...even if he wasn't Mr Right...you still care about him. I hope Mr Wonderful sweeps you off your feet when you're ready to go man shopping!!!

 

[Melly+2]

really sorry to hear this sweetie, if you ever need to talk please pm , lub lub xxxxx

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Awwwww hun I really had no idea about this.

By the sounds of it you have the right attitude and you'll prove to him that you dont need him

 

[Sabrina]

I'm really sorry to read of your break up.

I have to agree with the other ladies and say you will be better off without him in the long run. You don't need a man to make you a good mother - you are obviously that already! And you will be an even better one once you have got over the break up and are back in control of your life.

I left my ex husband when my son was 8. I was working full time and my ex husband thought I would not cope at all without his "help". I've never taken a penny from him in maintenance or had any other help from him at all.

My sweetest (and longest lasting) revenge on my ex is that me and my son survived and are much stronger (and closer) for it. Whereas he... well his house got repossessed, he owes thousands of pounds in debts and he mainly lives in his car!! Poetic Justice.

Hang in there through these early days and try to see the longer term view of a happier and positive future. Stay strong. When you have a bad day, let out the tears and just do like I did and go to bed early.
Everything always looks a bit brighter in the morning!

Big hugs
Sabrina
x

p.s. Alfie is just gorgeous!

 

[whyslifesobig]

how arrogant!?!?!
men! I love how they assume we are the weak ones who can't cope, it never occures to them that it is us women that always take the flack in a relationship and when the proverbial hits the fan it is us that sort stuff out while they go kick taddies in corners.
Of course you will cope you are a mother now and thats a who lot different that just being a woman. Large tubs of ben and gerry's and lots of girly nights in with your friend thats what you need now.
lots of girly strength to you chick.

 

[cassi]

hun im so so sorry i have been lookin 4 u on msn and was wondering how it all went...what he did was unacceptable & you dont deserve it....i really hope u are ok and im here if u need 2 talk...abit shit that i cant drive yet but if i pass at the end of the month il come see u

 

[neeko_1]

oh hun i'm sorry... but it's true what you said.. get on with it and he'll want you back and you'll be like ... eh...... NO

how dar he say you won'y cope

good oluck hun and us ladies are here

 

[mummykay]

omg steph!!!
u and ur little man will b fine, he has his mummy and thats all that matters!!!

 

[Alfiesmummy]

hi everyone thanks for being so lovely, me and ian are working things out, i had no idea how he felt as he bottles things up and never tells me till thinks boil over he said he does love me very much and adores Alfie so we are going to work on us aswell as being mummy and daddy. i know i should of showed him the door but i love him and if things can be worked out ill do whatever i can, but he knows now that im not scared of being alone i dont need him and can cope alone. he said to me, "if you dont need me why ae you letting me stay i was awfull to you" i said "because i want you, its not about needing you i want you here" im hoping iv got through to him, things seem clear and happier now, truth is i am terrified of losing him, not financially wise but because i cant see a life withoput him in it, i just love him

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

aww im glad ur trying to work things out hun i hope ur happy and im always here if u need to tlk

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

glad your working things out hun

 

[MummySian]

Steph, you are handling this so brilliantly, I would have showed mine the door if he ever said I couldn't have coped!
I hope you pair work it out not just for Alfies sake but for you as well, hope one day he will realise how much you love him.
All the very best with things hunny xx

 

[MissGobby]

ohh my goodness....darling, i am so sorry!!! i thought you and Ian were made for each other!!!

i dont know what to say - im shocked chick

hope your alright babes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx