Baby Fresh (no name yet) birth story

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Baby fresh arrived at 4.43pm after a 12 hour labour and natural but assisted delivery, at 7lb3, he was prenatally diagnosed with down syndrome and a blocked bowel so we had to go to john Radcliffe hospital in Oxford for birth

Contractions were very gentle building up, woke up at 3 am ish for wee, and about 4am i think, started getting feelings, like i needed a poo, tried going and couldnt, after a while noticed they were sort of regular...started timing, every 10 mins for 60 secs, sent OH to work as still wasnt sure what they were; twinges i thought, false labour, etc
20 mins after he left my waters went; a dribble; about 7.45 I think, phoned hospital, they said to make way in, timings down to every 8 mins, fine breathing through them; but car journey was not the easiest, starting to get uncomfy, arrived about 10 to hospital, seen and checked with trace and internal; 4cms!
Taken to delivery suite, from here on all sketchy...
felt like just pressure down there, was fine breathing til about 5 cms, G&A was great after that, kept the focus on the breathing, its great stuff, contractions were painful just before 10cms but a gradual build up so you get time to climatise i think, but again it was the pressure that hurt not the contractions; can't describe it; well I can; felt like you need to push to release pressure, but can't...felt like I had to poo!

G&A was fine to cope with it, despite asking for more at points; was refused meptid due to diagnosis, I know I didn't need it I think, contractions were getting very hard in holding back pushing; needed to push! considered epidural but when they examined me I was 10cms
Pushing; I couldn't do it, wasn't doing it right :( pushing didn't hurt, but i couldnt seem to get force behind them, think my body was holding me back, i was screaming a bit; not for the pain; for the energy, i needed to push and annoyingly enough the screaming seemed to help, said I wouldn't be a screamer lol
they decided to try ventouse to give little one a hand, he was coping well with birth, so numbed me for ventouse, just a couple of injections; didn't hurt, he popped out with 2 pushes/pulls, I thought this would be the worst bit, it wasn't, hardly felt him come out; it was surreal, they flopped him on me, I didn't know what to do lol neither of us cried oddly enough, he was just so warm and slippy wet, I was still just amazed we had had such a quick labour, without hardly any problems! They took baby off to be sorted, he had to have tube in tummy for bile drain
Numbed for a couple of small tears, stitching not pleasant but not painful, they numbed me further

I'd do it again in an instant!
Though feeling a bit sore today :(
Worst bit of all, contractions for last hour approaching 10 cms, went so quick that hour though and it still wasn't that bad, and the internals; baby very head low down, internals for me were quite painful; more so than everything else I think; because of where baby was sitting I think more than anything; so dont be put off ladies!, think I had about 4 attempted internals and only 2 were successful in their aim!
(4cm success, probe on babies head fail, dilation check about 9cms fail, 10cm success)

All in all done on G&A, 2 paracetamol and couple of locals for ventouse, so feel like it was a very positive experience; was amazed how easy it felt when I'd spent my while life terrified of labour! Yet in the last 9 months I totally chilled :)

Little man now in HDU where he is awaiting an op for his blocked bowel

We are in a little room on the wards, just feels empty now, everyone's babies are crying and mine is stuck 10 mins away with tubes here, there and everywhere
Hubby very proud daddy though, so pleased with him think he has bonded better than me so far! Think I'm so scared of what's ahead for little man I feel detached til we can get him well and home and in my arms with no drips or anything :) roll on that day...
 
Congratulations on your new baby boy and I hope he has his op soon and recovers well :) xx
 
Congratulations on the arrival of baby fresh.

Hoping u get a cuddle soon. X
 
Congratulations! I hope it's not long til you have baby fresh well and home in your arms!xx
 
Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy...look forward tohearing a name when u have one :) xxx
 
He is now called Charlie, health is good, he has done 2 poos so they are saying there is no bowel blockage, just awaiting more scans to confirm no op needed x
 
Charlie is a sweet name, glad to hear he is doing well. You should be so proud of how you have done in labour & from then on. It must be v.hard not having him by your side but hopefully not for long then it's a life time of cuddles for you :)

All the best with your little man xxx
 
Aw lovely name. Congratulations and well done on a great birth story :) xxx
 
Aw Congratulations! sounds like you did amazingly well. Charlie is a gorgeous name! FX no op is needed xx
 
I have never been so excited to hear a baby is poo-ing! Well done Charlie!!!! And we'll done to you too! You have done amazingly well! Keep that positivity coming! Xxxx
 
Congratulations and welcome little Charlie!!!!

Bonding is so very hard with a baby on scbu or similar. I found I barely bonded with Lewis until I got him with me do I could examine him and figure out his personality. It was so difficult that everyone else seemed to know him better than I did!!!

Can't wait to see pics, you did amazing!
 
Charlie is a beautiful name. Glad the bowel blockage seems to be okay and fx for no op xxx
 
Lovely name, glad he seems to be doing really well! Congratulations :) :)
 
Bonding is very hard, thought we'd bonded in the womb but we are spending more time with him than not but he was put in an incubator on day 3 and we have had about half hour cuddle time every day
Tonight they said he was jaundiced and needs light therapy so when we get down there today he will be under lights with his mask on, at least he'll be exposed more, as he has been swaddled well all this time
Latest things are, he is in good overall health but a few little things keep his progression
He is being tube fed formula, he is digesting it, but it's literally only 5ml every 3/4 hours, he is pooing which means there is no bowel blockage
His blood sugar keeps dropping but he is borderline ok on that, they were just hoping to stabilise it
I started hand expressing, in 3 days I've produced 2ml of colustrum!! Wow, generous mummy! Trying to use the pump too to squeeze the golbules of colustrum out; golddust it is! Starting to get sore tits now so preservering and hoping milk comes in today (day4)
Like a man would say; I'm sure my tits are too big for the machine ...
Think that's it, my worry is bonding and his feeds, feels like the bonding I have 2 issues, the fact his ward is 15 mins walk away from out little flat in the hospital, him being away from me I think is so hard, the second thing is and I feel very guilty about this feeling... Though we had the pre natal diagnosis of downs, we read up on the syndrome and there was nothing to decide he is ours from the start so there was no other option for us... We checked support groups and found out how others feel about their babies when they arrived; they see their child first and the DS second, at the moment I am going through seeing our son Charlie before the DS but also seeing the DS before Charlie, I know 100% this will change the minute we are allowed to leave hospital but at the moment it feels so hard to feel like he belongs to me being so far away, I keep thinking of all the things I have to do at home like what housework needs doing, I can't get in my head that none if this matters when he comes home and I'll just have to work everything round him not round me; my mind has not got in that mummy mindset yet lol, very odd feeling
Everything else is good
I know I'll fully bond it'll just take time x
 
Your being amazingly strong fresh. Hope it's not too long before you can have Charlie all to yourselves and cuddle at home till your hearts are both content. He just so cute. A gorgeous little gift xxxx
 

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