Baby Fresh (no name yet) birth story

[Francesca26]

Huge congratulations on the birth of baby Charlie . Im sure you will get there in the end with his feeding. Im glad he is doing so well in other aspects and his bowels are working better than expected, that must be a huge weight of your mind. Keep strong hun, you are doing brilliantly xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I love the name sweetie (I am biased though as my eldest nephew is a Charlie!!)

I am sorry to hear that the expressing isn't going to well and you are having trouble with bonding. Obviously you are very away that this is due to circumstances and once you get the OK to take Charlie home things are going to improve.

I know it's all a huge cliche but of course bub's health is paramount so it is looking very good on the bowel front.

Don't beat yourself up about anything... You are doing all that you can and you will get the chance to properly bond with Charlie very soon

xxxxx

 

[vixxie77]

Congratulations hun So glad it was quick. Hope your little man is well and home soon x x

 

[Mellymoomin06]

You sound like u r doing an amazing job hun. xxx

 

[Happyred]

Congratulations! I hope your lo is doing well and you get him home soon.

 

[Spinneygirl]

Congratulations, hope you can take him home soon xxx

 

[fresh]

Thanks all, feeding is just not happening , they are taking loads out of his tube after feeding/digesting, it's just not going anywhere, he was on 3ml every 2 hours but they brought 30ml back up this morning so he was nil by mouth for rest of the day... Til his blood sugar dropped, so they game him another 3ml again
so he is off for a contrast test tomorrow to find out what is or not going through his bowels

The other prob is he Has thick blood, trait of downs apparently so getting bloods and cannula to work is a nightmare, he's like a pin cushion he doesn't seem to mind but it's so hard watching him, although he's not screaming ward down you just know his little grizzlies is because of the evil needles
So tomorrow they are putting a longline in him and setting him on tpn or ptn whatever it's called

Very good day though, he came off billy mat and lights, despite the oxygen tube tape causing blisters on his face, he looks much better
He is also looking about and at us, spent a good couple of hours today kicking thumping and just staring at us cooing over him, he knows who we are finally! He is delightful and I can't believe he's mine

Proper in love xx

 

[Flips4]

You're doing amazing all of you

My little boy was in NICU for a while so I understand how hard it is to bond, I actually felt resentful of Lewis at times a I felt he was keeping me from 'my life' and 'my eldest' I also felt that I was missing out on all that initial new baby thing (if that makes sense) when I had my eldest everyone was cooing and marvelling over him when we took him
home, Lewis was in NICU so long that I almost think people had lost interest in his arrival by the time we got home. He didn't feel like my baby and I certainly didn't associate very well with the fact that he was the same baby I'd been carrying an bonding with for 7 months, I almost felt like he was an entirely different baby...

Skip on a few weeks after getting him home and suddenly I felt that all consuming love and bond that I had felt when I'd first had my eldest... He's now 9 and the absolute light of my life, I think I feel like we had to get to know one another in an entirely different way and learn to accept each other completely and because of that I am so close to him now

Just do what you are doing, take time out to be yourselves, accept help, let people come and coo over him, get skin to skin contact as much as you are able, keep a diary (it will all become a blur and you'll appreciate reevaluating it at a later date) accept that you are not perfect and together you will learn all about one other and have a bond so deep it'll take your breath away...

Xxx

 

[fresh]

That's a lovely post
Had skin to skin today so will try get some every day, op permitting,
Bonding has improved now he is focussing on us, I cried when he looked at us today, I cried so much today actually, all for good stuff

Edit: I always forget what I'm replying to...
Our friends have birth on Friday by c section was quite hard to read that they were on their way home with their little lass today and we are still here with no idea on a release date, not jealous, just a little upset... But we knew it was going to be like this

 

[aliciabubba]

Congrats!! Xx

 

[Jajis]

Congratulations

 

[precious_cargo]

Just messaged you hun as I hadn't seen this. Fantastic news and woo hoo for the poo xx Hope your little man is doing well and that you will all get to go home soon xxx