We also had a quiet weekend, went to a fair in the village and relaxed at home... Any other second (or more) time mothers experience that their OH is a lot less interested than the first time? It's not like he doesn't care at all, he comes to the scans and he likes to feel the baby... But with our son I was at home for 9 months and when I was too tired to cook after he got home from work he'd cook something for us even if I had the whole day to rest, he'd make sure I didn't do too much lifting, I didn't touch the cat litter, he'd send me to bed when he thought I was tired... Now he just lets me run around with baskets full of dirty clothes, clean up after LO when he has an accident with potty training, expects me to have dinner ready when he comes home after I had a whole day at work myself and complains I always want to go to bed at ten because I'm tired... I know it's also harder for him cause he has more responsibility at work now, he plays and takes care of our son often after work so he'll be more tired than with DS, but to be honest I did expect him to behave the same as last pregnancy when I thought about having a second child...
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Ahh flo... How frustrating for you. This was part of the reason I split with my ex, he was like this and we were only on our FIRST! So I sacked it off after a year of him just being uninterested, partly because he actually wasn't my DD's biological dad but he promised he would be there for her, so I called it a day. As soon as we split he was like the perfect Dad, it was so upsetting at the time because that is all I wanted, was for some help and some enthusiasm.
I know it sounds silly, but have you tried actually telling him he's behaving differently? He might not even notice, and you could just point out you need a little more help round the house and with your LO and you'll do everything you can too? Some men don't react well to these conversations but some do!
My fiance Adam is really excited to be a Dad as this is his first time. However, I am made to feel stupid every day at the moment, hes being a bit of a dick actually.
If I have an opinion or show some emotion to anything, lately its just because I am "pregnant and hormonal" Which DRIVES ME MAD! It is like he has forgotten I am still a human, with feelings, not just a ball of pregnant emotions.
Like we are trying to organise our wedding. He was being a dick and not listening then not helping me with the guest list, and just generally wasn't agreeing with any of my suggestions so I started getting tearful because I originally thought we knew what we wanted. He actually laughed and just said "god pregnancy hormones are a pain" and I flew off the handle because I have a right to be emotional! And actually be treated like a normal person!
Sorry to go on a rant lol I guess what I am trying to say is you aren't alone in feeling like this and a lot of people have expectations of partners, when actually they are just typical men and don't seem to consider women's feelings at all xx
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Another quiet weekend here and also feeling baby kick now which is amazing! X
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Its lovely to feel isn't it FP. Baby has been so much more active the past few days. I'm feeling so sick today, plus I got a sore throat and completely knackered. I'm in bed already and don't think it'll be long before I'm asleep as I'm struggling to keep my eyes open x
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Aww feel better fcroxy, hopefully an early night is what you need x
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Aww have you got to go to work or can you rest for the day? It's so annoying not being able to take lemsip or anything when you feel rough x
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I'm a SAHM so no work for me but I do sometimes wonder if it would be easier to be at work than run around after a 2 year old lol. Its a nice day here so gonna go to the park this morning to burn off some of harpers energy and then hopefully shell have a little nap this afternoon so I can have a rest. She's in the stage of cutting out naps so doesn't always have one each day anymore. Xx
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Fcroxy so sorry you are sick, we are just getting over colds here. My daughter dropped naps at 2 and it's rough!
I'll be 22 weeks on Friday. I can not believe how fast this is going. It's almost May! What?!?
I have been thinking a lot about the upcoming birth. I have had 2 100% natural/drug-free births and I want to do that again this time, but I was getting so freaked out about the pain-- especially pushing. That part is the most excruciating for me! So I've started looking into ecstatic and orgasmic birth. Not to have an orgasm during labor, but to transform the experience into a blissful one. I think if I make that my goal instead of just managing pain or getting through it, it will help my anxiety around it. I have the book on hold at the library and have been watching birth videos.
Fcroxy so sorry you are sick, we are just getting over colds here. My daughter dropped naps at 2 and it's rough!
I'll be 22 weeks on Friday. I can not believe how fast this is going. It's almost May! What?!?
I have been thinking a lot about the upcoming birth. I have had 2 100% natural/drug-free births and I want to do that again this time, but I was getting so freaked out about the pain-- especially pushing. That part is the most excruciating for me! So I've started looking into ecstatic and orgasmic birth. Not to have an orgasm during labor, but to transform the experience into a blissful one. I think if I make that my goal instead of just managing pain or getting through it, it will help my anxiety around it. I have the book on hold at the library and have been watching birth videos.
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Thanks kholl. I'm still feeling so rough. Seem to be really run down this pregnancy as this is about the 5th cold I've had. Its not very often harper naps in the day anymore either as its so hard! I use to enjoy her napping as I could get stuff done or just generally be lazy!
I haven't heard of that approach to labour, will look it up, but it sounds interesting. I had just gas and air with Harper, hoping to have the same again. Really don't want an epidural and didn't last time either, had it in my birth notes. But ended up having to have a spinal after harper because I had a 3rd degree tear and needed stitches. Was gutted I needed the spinal after the birth. X
I haven't heard of that approach to labour, will look it up, but it sounds interesting. I had just gas and air with Harper, hoping to have the same again. Really don't want an epidural and didn't last time either, had it in my birth notes. But ended up having to have a spinal after harper because I had a 3rd degree tear and needed stitches. Was gutted I needed the spinal after the birth. X
Sounds interesting, Kholl! I only got to choose epidural or nothing at all for pain management, so I tried without anything with Ilias. I was sure a bath would ease the pain enough to get me through it, until I was ready to start pushing and the bath wasn't even full yet. Waters broke and contractions started immediately less than 5mins apart, went to 7-8cm in about 3hrs, so it did go fast for a first baby. Then they told me it wouldn't take more than an hour from that point, but I had doubts and got the epidural. He got stuck and it took a lot longer, so I was soooo glad I had the epidural. Hoping this time they'll start filling the bath sooner! Epidural was wonderful for me in the end, but you also hear other stories about it...
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How come you wasn't offered anything else for pain relief Flo? You done well to go so far without anything! The reason I didn't want an epidural was because I didn't like the idea of not being able to feel my legs and didn't want a catheter after, I also opted for 6 hour discharge and didn't want to have to wait in hospital for it to wear off. In the end I had Harper at 18.56 so had to wait to be discharged the next day anyway. X
Well Roxy, i'm not sure there are many hospitals here that use anything else for birthing... Never heard about anything else than epidural or nothing at all until I read about it here. I am gonna ask my doctor at next appointment, cause I want to go home after 6 hours this time and need to know my options.
Lexi: We talked about it and he feels like he does a lot. I think the problem is he asks me if he should do anything all the time. With DS he just did it. For me it's difficult to say 'yes, I need your help, can you do this?' Especially with our son. When he needs his bath or he wants to be picked up, I do it. And once I'm doing it I won't let someone else take over. They can do it first, but I won't let them take over. My mum and mil see when he needs care and just do it, my oh doesn't (or at least later than me) so I step in and do it myself. Yesterday I just send them outside together and that worked fine, could lay down a bit
How is everyone doing? Anyone reaching tri 3 soon?
Lexi: We talked about it and he feels like he does a lot. I think the problem is he asks me if he should do anything all the time. With DS he just did it. For me it's difficult to say 'yes, I need your help, can you do this?' Especially with our son. When he needs his bath or he wants to be picked up, I do it. And once I'm doing it I won't let someone else take over. They can do it first, but I won't let them take over. My mum and mil see when he needs care and just do it, my oh doesn't (or at least later than me) so I step in and do it myself. Yesterday I just send them outside together and that worked fine, could lay down a bit
How is everyone doing? Anyone reaching tri 3 soon?
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Sounds like it may be the hospitals policy then on pain relief. Would be good if they could offer you different pain relief tho. Worth asking.
I have the same problem with my OH too with regards to doing stuff this time round. I'm the same as you, if I see something needs doing I just get on with it, instead of asking for help. When I do ask for help I normally get huffed at and that annoys me even more! I've told my OH that he needs to use common sense and if he knows Harper needs a bath or clothes changed then just do it rather than waiting for me to tell him. He does get better for a few days and then goes back to being oblivious to it all. I do think in some ways its a man thing, as like your family my mum or sister will automatically do whatever needs doing.
I'll be in tri 3 two weeks tomorrow!! I cant believe how quick time is going. How many weeks are you now flo? X
I have the same problem with my OH too with regards to doing stuff this time round. I'm the same as you, if I see something needs doing I just get on with it, instead of asking for help. When I do ask for help I normally get huffed at and that annoys me even more! I've told my OH that he needs to use common sense and if he knows Harper needs a bath or clothes changed then just do it rather than waiting for me to tell him. He does get better for a few days and then goes back to being oblivious to it all. I do think in some ways its a man thing, as like your family my mum or sister will automatically do whatever needs doing.
I'll be in tri 3 two weeks tomorrow!! I cant believe how quick time is going. How many weeks are you now flo? X
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Morning ladies!!
I had my 24 week midwife appointment yesterday... Was good! So nice to hear the heartbeat again... He was kicking the life out of the Doppler though! Haha.
She tested my urine (of course) and said it was high in ketones ... Not really sure what that means she just said "not to worry but you've got ketones in your urine" so I was like "as long as it's nothing to worry about!"
She said something to do with body using fat to get energy or something ... That sounded good to me but who knows lol.
She just listened to baby's heart and talked me through going to get my glucose thing done - god it's confusing. So I am going to go get that done in 4 weeks time.
i am over to tri 3 in a couple of weeks eeeek! I can't believe how fast this pregnancy is going in fact I always say pregnancy goes so slow but this one is just flying by and it's scary!
Xx
I had my 24 week midwife appointment yesterday... Was good! So nice to hear the heartbeat again... He was kicking the life out of the Doppler though! Haha.
She tested my urine (of course) and said it was high in ketones ... Not really sure what that means she just said "not to worry but you've got ketones in your urine" so I was like "as long as it's nothing to worry about!"
She said something to do with body using fat to get energy or something ... That sounded good to me but who knows lol.
She just listened to baby's heart and talked me through going to get my glucose thing done - god it's confusing. So I am going to go get that done in 4 weeks time.
i am over to tri 3 in a couple of weeks eeeek! I can't believe how fast this pregnancy is going in fact I always say pregnancy goes so slow but this one is just flying by and it's scary!
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I had my 25 week appointment today, I was told as it was my 2nd then I shouldn't have been seeing her until 28 weeks, even though at my last appointment I was told the next one would be 25 weeks 
It's a good job I went though as nobody had ordered my anti D injection for 28 weeks, and I'm measuring small, so I get an extra scan.
It's a good job I went though as nobody had ordered my anti D injection for 28 weeks, and I'm measuring small, so I get an extra scan.
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Nobody's mentioned having a glucose test. So far I've seen 3 different midwives, 2 student midwives and a consultant. the midwife today wasn't impressed with the consultant, cos all he wrote in my notes was 'treat as low risk'. I only managed to get my form signed for my maternity exception certificate today, since the 1st midwife didn't have any forms, and the 2nd one didn't know her code.
Has anybody got their MAT B1 form? I got one today, as my oh work needed proof that I was pregnant, but does anyone know if I fill it out my details or his?
Has anybody got their MAT B1 form? I got one today, as my oh work needed proof that I was pregnant, but does anyone know if I fill it out my details or his?
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They offer the glucose test if your high risk of getting GD, I have it because my dad is diabetic. Sorry cant help with the MAT B1 form as I can't remember what I did last time but don't believe my OH had to show his work. I would guess you fill out your own details? X
In the U.S. EVERYONE has to do the glucose test! I respond very poorly to it (gives me severe hypoglycemia, my blood sugar gets very dangerously low) so I have to prick my finger 4 times a day for a month and get a blood sugar reading that way.
