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Are dummys necessary?
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dummies are a godsend.
havin said that, millie wouldnt take one until she was about 3 months old! i was never fond of dummies before i gave birth either, but seeing my little princess happily totting away on one i changed my mind- i thought she looked extremely cute!
i'm not keen on toddlers walking round with them in though, its now a rule in our house that millie can only have hers when she is in her cot. dummies are for babies and sleeping toddlers, i tell her, not awake toddlers!
she has twin cousins the same age and they have never been allowed dummies, but they always knew what they were and wanted them, they would always steal millie's! and fight over it LOL
havin said that, millie wouldnt take one until she was about 3 months old! i was never fond of dummies before i gave birth either, but seeing my little princess happily totting away on one i changed my mind- i thought she looked extremely cute!
i'm not keen on toddlers walking round with them in though, its now a rule in our house that millie can only have hers when she is in her cot. dummies are for babies and sleeping toddlers, i tell her, not awake toddlers!
she has twin cousins the same age and they have never been allowed dummies, but they always knew what they were and wanted them, they would always steal millie's! and fight over it LOL
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It really is personal choice, Reggie doesn't have one. He went through a crying stage where we tried to get him to use one to see if it helped but it didn't really so we stopped offering it and I'm glad we did as he is just as happy as other babies now but doesn't need a dummy to settle or occupy him. xx
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Mills doesn't want a dummy. Tried to introduce it as she likes sucking fingers to settle, but she won't have it 
every baby is different.
My eldest just would not have one, at all, i didnt force it obviously, but when i used to pop it in, she'd pop it back out lol.
My youngest had colic, and i read that it can help sooth it, so i tried, and emily loves it, and wont be parted with it now lol.
My eldest just would not have one, at all, i didnt force it obviously, but when i used to pop it in, she'd pop it back out lol.
My youngest had colic, and i read that it can help sooth it, so i tried, and emily loves it, and wont be parted with it now lol.
i was also against using them but as trix says.. they are a godsend!! Ollie is often quite happy sucking his hand (cant quite get his thumb) if it comes out so i dont think i will have a great problem weening him off it. I think he will end up sucking his thumb though!
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I wasn't keen on giving her one, but we had soem as part of a set i bought for sterilizing etc, If you BF your told not to give them one in the first 6 weeks, Tally had a big thing about comfort sucking when she was little and i offereds her a dummy, she's never been able to keep them in her mouth and now she has one which she plays with, she sucks it for a second then rips it our her mouth hold the bit thats meant to go in her mouth and chews on the plastic bit 
I've tried tricking her by swapping boobie with a dummy when she's comfort sucking at night but it doesn't work.
Not every baby need or wants a dummy, but some do find it a great help for everyone involved, i'd just play it by ear and see what your baby wants to do. there are so many things i said i wouldn't do that being a mum has led me to lol
I've tried tricking her by swapping boobie with a dummy when she's comfort sucking at night but it doesn't work.Not every baby need or wants a dummy, but some do find it a great help for everyone involved, i'd just play it by ear and see what your baby wants to do. there are so many things i said i wouldn't do that being a mum has led me to lol
It depends whether you have a sucky baby or not really. DH and I were adamant that "our baby wasn't going to have a dummy" but when Sams colic hit at about 3 weeks, he would have been hanging off my boob for the next 3 months had he not had a dummy!
He still has it just before bed now, but during the day unless he's very cranky he doesn't have it.
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He still has it just before bed now, but during the day unless he's very cranky he doesn't have it.
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Josh is a bit of a comfort sucker and also suffers with colic - i dont want him being a thumb sucker, so he's had a dummy from a few days old and it really helps with both problems !! Touch wood, but its never caused any nipple confusion either 
Its personal choice. Not all babies take them if offered. Not all babies will suck their thumb either.
I don't like them but we used one when LO had bad colic from about 3 weeks old. He needed to suck and comfort sucking on your boob or bottle only makes it worse. So a dummy it was for him. Sometimes, for things like helping relieve colic they are good. Often babies don't find their thumb till a bit older, so in early weeks a dummy can be a real help. Our son has never sucked his thumb and the sucking fingers stage is something most babies go through. Does not mean it will become a habit or a comforting thing to them.
Never say never to one for certain reasons. No point depriving your baby of some relief from colic or wind for few weeks if it helps.
I don't like them but we used one when LO had bad colic from about 3 weeks old. He needed to suck and comfort sucking on your boob or bottle only makes it worse. So a dummy it was for him. Sometimes, for things like helping relieve colic they are good. Often babies don't find their thumb till a bit older, so in early weeks a dummy can be a real help. Our son has never sucked his thumb and the sucking fingers stage is something most babies go through. Does not mean it will become a habit or a comforting thing to them.
Never say never to one for certain reasons. No point depriving your baby of some relief from colic or wind for few weeks if it helps.
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i never had one as a baby, but i'm eighteen and still a thumbsucker!
while i was pregnant i bought a few dummies just in case, and on my last night in the hospital zach wouldn't be quiet unless he had my finger in his mouth, he wasn't hugry/tired/wet, so the midwife just advised giving him a dummy, which i did. he doesn't use it constantly, usually just to get himself to sleep.
IMO, you can take a dummy away when they're getting a bit big for it, but their thumbs are attatched to them!
while i was pregnant i bought a few dummies just in case, and on my last night in the hospital zach wouldn't be quiet unless he had my finger in his mouth, he wasn't hugry/tired/wet, so the midwife just advised giving him a dummy, which i did. he doesn't use it constantly, usually just to get himself to sleep.
IMO, you can take a dummy away when they're getting a bit big for it, but their thumbs are attatched to them!
*Star* said:hope no one takes it personally, but i hate dummies. think they look horrible
never have, nor will give any of mine a dummy.
I'm not keen on the way they look either (and certainly not when it comes to 3 year olds, or especially the 16 year old girls walking round school with them in today NO JOKE) but we genuinely didn't have a choice with Connie. When her "colic" (lactose intolerance) was at its worst she was sleeping about 6 hours in a 24 hour period and screaming most of the rest - and for some of that screaming time a dummy gave her some relief.
Now she just tends to play with it or offer it to other people so we restrict it for sleepytimes only.
Like others have said it depends on personal choice and the personality of your baby. Each to their own!
I agree, with colic they are a godsend.
It depends on the baby. I would have preferred not to give one, but after a week of solid screaming I gave in.........oh it was bliss!
I had two dummy suckers and one thumb sucker. It doesn't bother me as long as my child is happy.
It depends on the baby. I would have preferred not to give one, but after a week of solid screaming I gave in.........oh it was bliss!
I had two dummy suckers and one thumb sucker. It doesn't bother me as long as my child is happy.
I think it all comes down the the individual baby. Raf is a 'sucky' baby and always has to have something in his mouth to comfort him. He sucked his fingers as soon as he was born, and i wasn't keen on that, but neither was i keen on giving him a dummy 24/7 - i don't want to mess up his speech or any mouth development in the future so his dummy use is restricted to when he goes to sleep, or when he is very distressed.
I don't think you can make this kind of decision until your baby is here.
I don't think you can make this kind of decision until your baby is here.
I don't see the harm in them.
I don't want Molly to have a dummy all the time when she's bigger but now I don't see the harm in it. She uses it to get herself to sleep and it makes an awful lot of difference. People seem to get awful hung up about dummys and I just don't get it. So what if kids use them for comfort, most people use something for comfort even as adults, no big deal IMO.
I don't want Molly to have a dummy all the time when she's bigger but now I don't see the harm in it. She uses it to get herself to sleep and it makes an awful lot of difference. People seem to get awful hung up about dummys and I just don't get it. So what if kids use them for comfort, most people use something for comfort even as adults, no big deal IMO.
