Appraisals

[ScotchEgg]

A little game, I'm sitting here writing my self-appraisal for work. One section is about my career aspirations. "Where do you see yourself in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years" it asks me.

I've written the same sort of thing I've always written before, but this is what I wanted to write:

"In one year's time, I'd like to be at home with a small baby. I'd like to be adjusting to my new 'career' and getting to know the little person I've created. I hope to have new friends to share this experience with, but also to be able to maintain my current friendships. I'd like my relationship with my husband to be adjusting to our change in circumstance and to be working together towards a new balance.

In three years' time I'd like to be either thinking about or brewing number 2. I'd like for our child and us to be developing our independence together and I'd like to be running my little home business a few afternoons a week. I'd like to be on the market for a larger house for our growing family.

In five years' time I'd like to be preparing my first born for school, helping them prepare for a classroom environment and reading and doing simple maths and other things together. I'd like to feel like a mummy and I'd like for us all to feel like a family.

In ten years I'd like to have my little business keeping me busy most of the week and feel that I can help out in our little family."

Blimey that feels like so far off, but makes me smile a lot more than "taking on more management responsibilities and getting bigger projects"

(PS this is my opinion and a bit of fun. I know that many people enjoy their careers and want to return quickly, but I took a massive wrong turn a few years ago and ended up doing something completely wrong for me which gives me no satisfaction. I don't want to offend anyone else's opinions by saying what I've said. I have decided to start a family before taking a much longed-for career change.)

So what would you write on your appraisal form if you could?

 

[LouiseB]

Hmm...

In one years time i'd like to be settled in my new home and have a small baby to nurse. I'd like to in with my friends who will also have small babies and have an active calendar with mum's meets and playgroups, etc. I'd like my husband to be more occupied with work after his study.

In three years time i'd like to be a mum of two or three and be selecting which local school to enrol my eldest into. I would have hoped to have found some local land to purchase by then and be well on my way to having planned my small holding.

In five years time i'd like to be a mum of four and settled into the new playgroup/nursery/school routine. I would like to be content in my family life so that i can start to ponder my career. The small holding will be getting established and i'll be taking orders for meats from local residents. I'd like my husband to be taking the reigns of his own business.

In ten years time i'd like to see my small holding doing very well and enjoying the children getting stuck into raising animals and growing vegetables. I'd like to expand into somewhere for local children to get involved - maybe allocate land to each local school - and i'd also like to have a small wildlife rescue centre.

 

[ScotchEgg]

wow! that sounds amazing!

 

[star fish]

Hmm, good one, and personally I would not be in a hurry to get back to any career!

In ones years time I would like to be a full time mother, growing a lot of my own veg and other artistic pursuits. In three years I would like to be having a second child, maybe twins this time, continuing to leave career on hold. In five years I would like to be able to afford a nanny who can do the breakfast shift so I can go back to writing late at night and having a lie in once more! In ten years I would like to be able to leave the kids with my mother for a month and go round Italy with my husband.

Hmm, maybe I'm not going to be a very good mother

 

[Piglet's Mama]

In one year, be a Mum to a healthy baby, enjoying being a Mummy and having a lovely relationship, me, hubby and bubba.

In three years, have hopefully popped out another and have managed to be able to set up Childminding from home and run my Cake business on the side too - spending lots of time with babies as well and not in some pokey office 9-5...

In 5 years, have my full brood of 3 or 4 and enjoying life as one big happy family

Loveliness x

 

[charliesmissing]

In 1 years time i want to be pregnant or have my first child. 2 years time happily balancing family and a maybe a job I can do from home or at least thinking about number 2. In 5 years time I would like to be considering going back to work part time so I can be at home when my little ones come home from school. In 10 years time, I want to live in an amazing house have a lovely job which allows me to be home eves and weekends and have the love and respect of my 1 or 2 amazing kids and husband. I'm guessing they are not going to be as angelic as I'm making out but instead little so and so's.

 

[dita_parlo]

In 1 year I want to be pregnant, or maybe even have my first child.

In 3 years, I want to have another baby and be able to stay with them both instead of rushing straight back to work

In 5 years I would like to be going back to work as a lecturer.

10 years, hopefully kids doing well at school, me and my husband happy and healthy, debt free and enjoying our family.

 

[traci]

I love this thread! When I was a child I had it all planned out, married with 2 kids by the time I was 24, living in a nice house that I owned with a dog and a couple of cats! Well we can safely say that hasn't happened! lol I'm 26 now, no kids, no cats, no dog, renting a crappy flat! But I am married! Yay!

So in 1 year I want to be in a new home, with DH, my hamster, fish and hopefully a mini me (or him). In 3 years, I'll have my own home, the cats, DH wants "Brian" the guinea pig and another little one. In 5 years, we'll have the dog by then, our own business and maybe one more. In 10 years, I'll be knocking on 40's door! No more kids and no more animals! The kiddies will be all in school by then, my step son will be in high school!! It will be a fairytale ending! I hope!

 

[rachaellouise]

OOOOH I this sort of thing, it always makes you feel all warm and fuzzy!
Ok so when I was a teenager I had it all planned the following way..

Engaged by 20 years
Married by 22 years and have a mobile hairdressing business
Buy a lovely starter home by 23 years
Have first baby by 24 years
Second baby by 26 years
Third and last baby by 28 years


Well...
I am 24, married and renting a medium sized flat with hubby, not working due to years of struggling with mental health illness and no baby, well no human baby anyway, we have two beautiful house bunnies who are our babies!

So...

In 1 year...

I would love to already be a Mummy to our first 'fur free' baby and a continuing Mummy to our two 'fur babies'.
Be in a better place with my mental health and be a happy little family.

In 3 years...

I would like to think that we would now be a family of at least 5 by now (including our two bun buns)
and hopefully have another bun in the oven.
I would like to think that by this time I would have been on a refresher course for hairdressing.

In 5 years...

I would like to think that we will have had all 3 of our 'fur free' babies and still have our beautiful fur babies and I would be earning a decent amount through my mobile hairdressing business whilst having the freedom of being my own boss enables me to be with the kids as much as I can.
I would also like to think that by this time we will be well on our way to being debt free.

In 10 years...

Hmm I think that is too far away for me to even think of right now.

 

[ScotchEgg]

when I was a kid, I wanted to go to work in the city in a sharp suit and high heels!!! I wanted to share a house with girlfriends and not have ANY boyfriends. I was going to meet a boy at 32, marry at 34 and kids at 35. Later if at all possible.

I got together with my OH when we were 20, engaged at 23, married at 24 and hoping to be parents at 28.

Mind you, I'm terminally early at everything - I hate being late for stuff!!!


ETA and I HATE wearing heels

 

[s1972]

Excellent thread. I had my appraisal at work the other day which my boss had already filled in for me!!!!!! Same as really .... in 1 year be pregnant/have small one to love and cherish. In 3 years have another small one (or two) on the way/already delivered safely. In 5 years be blissfully happy and free from ttc stress and upset. In 10 years time still be able to eat lots of chocolate without going up too many dress sizes!

 

[LouiseB]

Hmm, maybe I'm not going to be a very good mother

Pfft, then i'm not either I will definately be sending the kids on holiday with the grandparents so i can get away with the husband.

I'll probably move them all out into their own places by the time they turn 18 too lol

Plus i'm going to have a cleaner - not sure about the nanny for the breakfast shift, isn't that what husbands are for?