Anyone TTC whilst a sibling is BFP?

[cliqmo]

Hiya

My sister has just told the family she is 8wks BFP (she is so excited she couldn't wait until she got to 12wks!) however now I'm not sure whether to tell her DH and I are TTC or whether just to leave it and announce once we are also BFP?

Any thoughts/ideas/suggestions?

 

[flexilexi394]

think id wait til BFP as you dont want them talking about you if you dont get a bfp any time soon. thats how i look at it x

 

[mrsH2009]

I would just wait a little while Hun, let her have her moment and then you can have yours

I got preg unplanned just as my SIL announced their pregnancy and it caused a massive row as she felt I had stolen her thunder cos they had been trying for 2 years

 

[mdsremos]

i remember with DS that we rang DH parents to announce we were pregnant again having miscarried month before and they were like 'oh, not you as well'. Really took me back abit to get that reaction as DH's brother and girlfriend had told them day before that they were expecting after their second miscarriage. We have birth 10 days apart and I was so glad I delivered first as my induction date should I have gone over was a few days after her due date so I would have been even more distraught if she had delivered first!!!

 

[cliqmo]

Unanimous so far then!

You are quite right of course- I keeping thinking that now we are TTC we will be BFP imminently *I must learn to be patient* LOL.

ETA: I should hate to steal their thunder and hadn't thought of it that way I was hoping to share the experience not grab the limelight

 

[mrsH2009]

^^ that was like us there are 13 days between our boys and I was so glad my boy didn't come early, she really would never have forgiven me

 

[BabyLover]

I know what it is like, we have been TTC over 4 years and in that time I have had my little sister pregnant and had a boy, my 2 sister in laws have had 3 babies between them and not my sister is TTC again!

I just suppose wait and see what happens

Donna x

 

[cherelle]

aww Donna i feel for you - hope you get your BFP soon! x

 

[BabyLover]

Thanks hunni

Something I suppose you have to cope with, I think when I do eventually get my BFP, I will be in so much of a shock, I won't believe it lol

Donna x

 

[Vickyxx]

hmmm I find this a tricky one as in one hand I would want them to have their moment so wouldnt say anything but........ in the other if you were to fall pregnant very quickly and announce your bfp would she then think you only done it cause they did if that makes sense..... sibling rivalry can get messy!!

 

[LouiseB]

It really depends on what your relationship with your sister is like.

My husband has two cousins who are sisters and they both got married int he same year, both had baby number 1 last year and now are both pregnant with baby number 2.

I think they seem more happy to be going through it together and raising their children together

Since i've been ttc, i've been trying to talk my sister into having a baby now because i know she wants a second one...

Is you sister the sort that would get pleasure in having a cousin for her baby or is she the sort that would see it as a conspiracy?

I wouldn't announce it until your pregnant though, because then it might seem more like your trying to steal her thunder.

 

[michelles1985]

My Sister-in-Law announced she was pregnant in July and I let her have her momnet for a few weeks before announcing that me and my DH were trying to conceive and her and her husband were happy for us. I think if you let them have thier moment first, then announce that you are ttc, there shouldn't be much of a problem. I guess it also depends on the person though so really only you can judge how she'd react yourself. Good luck with ttc )

 

[cherelle]

I have such a good relationship with my brother and sister i think i could tell them straight away, i guess only you know how she would react - maybe she needs some time with her OH for it to sink in before you announce? x

 

[star fish]

I am against telling people at all! It's a nightmare. Everyone around me in my family is having babies right now. My sister in law gave birth last week, my step brother the week before, my other sister in law just announced they are pg with no.2, my bbf is due to give birth in 3 days and i feel like a barren lepper............ My husband told his family and now they all ask me with such 'touching concern' how it's going, I want to smash their faces in! Sorry, bit extreme...... But seriously, do consider saying nothing until you actually do get BFP as it might not work out well in the short term