anyone scared of birth?

[jodie_honey]

hello ladies, i know ive got ages to go but im absolutely TERRIFIED of givin birth, i cant bare the thought of it and keep havin vivid dreams about it. it would be perfect for me if they could put me to sleep and wake me up when she is here. anyone else share my feelings?

 

[lisa&alex]

nope..cant wait..

 

[paradysso]

mope i cant wait either lol bring it on

 

[Squiglet]

nope..cant wait..

Same here.. but only cos I hate being pregnant...

 

[happy-chick]

Im really looking forward to it, its a whole new experience and cant wait!

 

[Babylicious]

I can't say I'm looking forward to the pain, but I can't wait to meet my lil one

 

[Manda&Thomas]

i was scared of the birth but now i have watched lots of birthing things on tv i feel alot better about it all
manda xx

 

[floppit]

I think it's totally understandable to be scared, there are so many horror stories but I try to remind myself that plenty of people do it twice willingly so it can't be all that bad.

I'm a first timer too but I want to build my own confidence before I get there. I've asked lots of questions, planned who I want there, and reminded myself that if when it's for real I get too scared or it hurts too much I can have an epidural which will take the pain away from down below! I also know our own bodies will gear up for the event, we'll be physically different by the time we get there, our ligaments will be uber stretchy our bits widening, and our own natural pain killers keeping us afloat.

I'm not full on looking forward to the birth (apart from meeting bub) but I'm not too scared either - I want to go through it, after all this not knowing I want to know what it's like. I want my hubby and best mate there with me and I want us to have a baby!

It's natural to be scared but perhaps better to start looking for things that will make you feel better (even if it's bravado) than just feel overwhelmed.

 

[Squiglet]

I think it's totally understandable to be scared, there are so many horror stories but I try to remind myself that plenty of people do it twice willingly so it can't be all that bad.

and those of us who have done it more than once willingly will adhere to the fact, that the only reason we worry about having a second one, is because the first one has just destroyed the living room or stained the bathroom sink with dirty paints.. and telling them for the umpteenth time to put their dirty clothes in the wash basket only to be greeted with a load of mouth... and we actually WANT to do it again

 

[floppit]

On that note if you can embed youtube here there's something I need to go find!!

 

[floppit]

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=RxT5NwQUtVM

Hope this works! plan b - the youtube link!

 

[purple13]

i'm really looking forward to it!! i know its gonna hurt more than anything i've ever experienced, but i'm rather relishing the challenge!!

i completely withold my right to change my mind, become terrified and want all the painkillers under the sun when the time comes, but at the moment, i want the birth to be as natural as possible - am planning birthing pool during labour, hypnobirthing, and have got a tens machine ordered to have a play with. i think i'll have gas & air too - but that's only cos i've spent so long not getting drunk and wanna get high!!! hehe

 

[ZoeM]

Jodie_Honey

You need to buy a book called 'HypnoBirthing, The Mongan Method' by Marie F. Mongan. It comes with a CD. I've just started reading it, and she explains that the reason women experience pain in childbirth is purely because of fear.

You should buy it. I'm going to try and give birth using this method. They say you should also go to HynoBirthing classes, but they're quite expensive, so I'm going to just use the CD.

Mind you, if you're really scared about it, it's probably worth spending the money to give you peace of mind.

Z

 

[muppetmummy]

I don't feel that bothered about it fear wise, really excited about holding baby for the first time. It's such an amazing experience gazing into your little one's eyes for the first time and something that stays with you forever

I think I'm more chilled this time cos I know what to expect. I think the first time around it was fear of the unknown.

I'm not looking forward to sleep deprivation in the first few weeks, tiredness can make you feel like you're losing your mind and going to end up in the funny farm.

 

[GBLiz]

Jodie, im with you, i cant bear to think about that bit yet! the thought of being in a room with no knickers on and people being there and seeing all that gunk...ughhhhhhhhh.....thats worse than the pain part for me ,

 

[jodie_honey]

lol thankyou all so much for ur comments, im gunna try and relax cox i kknow she has to come out. i just dotn want a labour that lasts for ages haha. anyone know what the longest labour someone has been thru?
il be ok thanx everyone xxx

 

[mrsbrickelltobe]

youll be fine!! i cant wait either.

i done it at 16 the first time so if i can do it, YOU CAN!!

dont listen to horror stories, breathe correctly and FOCUS!

youll do it xxx

 

[paradysso]

my labour was about 5 days in total but first 3/4 i spent sat at home on pc, its all good, enjoy it.

 

[DebbieM]

I'm scared. I think that is very natural though. It's one of the most scary things we are even going to do. I am excited about it too though as I know what I will have at the end of all the pain

 

[lisa&alex]

Jodie, im with you, i cant bear to think about that bit yet! the thought of being in a room with no knickers on and people being there and seeing all that gunk...ughhhhhhhhh.....thats worse than the pain part for me ,

Dont think you will give a sh*t at the time lol

plus.. these people are midwives they are used to seeing it.. theres probably nothing they havent seen..and you seriously wont care by the time the pushing part comes around..