Anyone really put off ttc again?

[cosmicgirl]

I know it's really early for me to think about this as I am still bleeding but I've really been put of ttc. This was my first mc and I can honestly say that I've never been so frightened. When they first thought it was ectopic I was so scared and was thinking of my children should the worst happen. I don't want to do anything to put my health at risk for the sake of the children I already have. Maybe it's my hormones but I am completely off the idea of ttc ever again xx

 

[Sassysugar]

I'm so sorry hunni, you've got to give yourself time to grieve, you will know if/when you feel ready, just look after yourself, sending you a big hug and thinking about you x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks hunni, I know it's early, probably the hormones! xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Im so sorry for what has happened and im sorry you are feeling this way but you need to give yourself time to grieve.
I know it may not feel it now but things do get easier hunny. Sending you massive
If you ever need to chat, just give me a shout hunny x x

 

[Rósa]

Im so sorry what happened. Give yourself time to grieve, just because you had one mc doesn't mean you will have another, I had a mc, and got pregnant 4 weeks later, yes I was terrified at the time that I would mc again, but I set myself milestones, had a scan at 8 weeks, another scan at 11wks2 (dating scan) a week later another scan for the nuchal fold, was able to chill a bit then til because I got a doppler and could hear the heartbeat when I wanted too, take your time to grieve and don't say you won't ttc yet, odds are everything will be fine next time. xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls, your support means the world to me. It's weird because I wanted the baby soo much but today it's like I woke up and thought "I'm not doing that again!" I kind of feel that I was lucky not to have needed surgical or medical intervention, I know others aren't as lucky. Maybe over time I'll feel brave again x

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

I'm so sorry cosmicgirl - I felt exactly the same when i miscarried last year. I know some women will suffer the agony of a miscarriage and immediately want to try again and I just couldn't understand this. I felt like I could never go through that pain again, and didn't just want to try to 'replace' the baby (I know this is not what people are trying to do when they try again immediately afterwards, it's just how I felt).
But eventually after a good few months of allowing my body to settle down and allowing ourselves to grieve properly, we felt ready to start trying again after what would've been my due date for our lost little ladybug.
I know everybody says it, but time really, really is a healer xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks hunni, I'm sure I'll feel differently soon xx

 

[Laura_C]

I am petrified of ttc again, after having a terrible year - suffering a miscarriage at 6 and a half weeks in March and then losing my little boy at 30 weeks in Nov, I just don't know if we can do it again. But...it's all I want. I know we will try again because we are determined to have a sibling for our daughter. We are so very lucky to have her and I keep telling myself never to forget that. We thought we were on the home stretch last time to have him cruelly snatched away. Sorry to depress anyone, I suppose what I'm saying is it will happen one day it's just a longer, bumpier road for some

 

[cosmicgirl]

Oh Laura, I'm so sorry, how sad and so unfair. I admire you're courage and determination, I hope and pray that your dreams are fulfilled xxx