Anyone else feel like this.......

[lisaspoon]

Even though this was an unplanned pregnancy, I was feeling particularly broody for about 6 months before I got pregnant (some kinda switch flicked inside me!)

This is my first baby and I'm feeling terrified at times... not about the labour/birth but more afterwards...

I'm scared I wont bond with the baby or love it like I should or that the baby wont like me Also I'm worried I wont know what to do etc.....

Its not a constant feeling, at other times I'm really excited etc and getting impatient with being pregnant... just from time to time I have the above worries...

I feel terrible for feeling like this when I do, and think I'm going to be a bad mum

please tell me its not just me...

 

[Charmed]

Awwww hun, its definately not just you. I've seen loads of posts very similar to yours.

My baby was very much planned and I have had feelings like yours all the way through this pregnancy. I think becuase your worrying about them means you're going to be a great Mum hun.

 

[Rosebay]

Good God no it's not just you! Every mother alive STILL worries about being a good mum don't you worry! I was so paranoid that I read all the books, took all the advice and got all screwed up trying to work out the "right" way but there isn't a right way, there's just your way in the end. My advice is to ignore most advice and just remember that your baby is a human being not an alien and that if you calm down and think about it most of parenting will come naturally anyway if you put yourself in their place. Before having Elliott I'd never even held a baby- that's how little I knew, and I told everyone that in a right panic! My mum was very helpful in calming me down but very soon I started to change stuff she'd told me as things have to be right for you not anyone else.

You'll be fine and it's totally normal to freak about becoming a parent- in a way you get born again too and it takes a while to work out who you are again but you'll get there and there's a world of help here while you work it all out!


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[lisaspoon]

thanks ladies

I dont know why i'm suddenly freaking out.... was reading a baby book and it kept going on about "bonding" lol....aaaaargh!

 

[*CLAIREBEAR*]

no its not just you!
i feel worried also!
im sure you will be a brilliant mummy!

 

[Julie84]

I had a dream last night that I left my baby in Babies R Us and didn't remember for 4 weeks! We don't even have a Babies R Us near us (but in my dream they also had giraffe shaped cloth nappies so I think I must have inadvertly inhaled some alcohol over Christmas - or I have just lost the plot completely!)

My mum has 6 of us and worries all the time about all of us, I think it would more odd if you didn't have those worries.

 

[Rosebay]

thanks ladies

I dont know why i'm suddenly freaking out.... was reading a baby book and it kept going on about "bonding" lol....aaaaargh!

Yeah I remember worrying about that too. I clearly remember clutching him to me and asking my mum very earnestly if she thought we'd bonded and she just laughed and told me not to worry about it! I was so convinced that I hadn't or that there was supposed to be some magic moment or something! It WAS different for my OH though as I realised that in a way I already had bonded with him by being pregnant so when he turned up it just felt like meeting someone I already kind of knew and certainly loved. For my OH it was a totally different thing- much more like a thunderbolt love at first sight moment.

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[lea m]

Awww hun I felt like that at times with lola and she was my 4th! Its completely natural especially more so with you first baby!