any other ADHD adults here?

[AllieW]

no offence to anyone but....
does ADHD actually exist?
the kids ive met who are supposed to have marley need a good slap around their buttocks and some strict dicipline and consistant bounderies.
i think its a shame that parents are so keen to label their kids nowadays. Do they realise that label will hang around their necks for the whole of their lives.

I had that sort of discipline when I was little. My parents were, in fact, a great deal more strict than many others in our area - something lots of my friends and neighbours verified. (In fact, after Mum died it escalated and Dad became an abusive so and so, but that's by the by.). My Mum was tearing her hair out over me and practically no-one had even heard of hyperactivity when I was diagnosed (1985). Plus, as I indicated in my earlier post, there's a great deal more to it than just acting up (insomnia, poor co-ordination etc).

The plain fact of that matter was, when I had these additives that's when I went 'doo lally' and when I didn't I was manageable.

It is possible that SOME children who are merely misbehaving are misdiagnosed, but on the whole they are not. And, as I have said, there is a strong genetic component to it so at some point they will be able to diagnose more conclusively.

 

[budge]

my friends friend really pushed for her son to be dignosed with ADHD so she could claim money for him.

 

[Minxy]

my friends friend really pushed for her son to be dignosed with ADHD so she could claim money for him.

Your friend's friend needs a slap

My Sil fought long and hard for our neice's diagnosis so she could get access to extra support at school. Now she's got it, she's blossoming.

It's not an easy route to anything, having a child with special needs.

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

my friends friend really pushed for her son to be dignosed with ADHD so she could claim money for him.

i didnt know you got money for havin a child with ADHD

 

[budge]

i know! its terrible.

 

[AllieW]

my friends friend really pushed for her son to be dignosed with ADHD so she could claim money for him.

i didnt know you got money for havin a child with ADHD

It must be very recent - there was nothing like that on offer when I was at school. Luckily for me, though, I was one of the few who managed to cope academically. Which is part of the reason why the school never offered any help.

 

[budge]

sorry - i just text my mate and its aspergers not ADHD. sorry

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

sorry - i just text my mate and its aspergers not ADHD. sorry

oh right
i think they are quite similar anyway

 

[Minxy]

That's what my neice has.

You might be able to claim DDA for ADHD though. My sister gets it for my neice's excema, it's a really general benefit.

I taught a lad who claimed for his Tourette's syndrome.

 

[Becksss]

it absolutely does exist.

I had no idea I had it until I was in my early 20's, as a child I was constantly hyperactive, bored, done really badly at shcool even though im quite intelligent, I was violent towards my family and constantly being punished for something or other. That doesnt do the extent of it justice as its hard to put into words.

Then I had a friend with a teenage son with ADHD, and I recognised so much of my own behavour in him, I went to the docs and found out its not just something children have and grow out of, its something that stays with you. I was diagnosed at 22.

The thing with ADHD is it shares so many characterisitcs as other conditions, including depression, (im also bipolar - great mix lol) that its almost impossible to tell if your an adult with it.

But to anyone who says it doesnt exist - it absolutely does!

I'm like excatly the same I had a social worker at one stage
I think ive got alot better but i still have my moments but having a baby well made me grow up

 

[SarahH]

I do agree that it exsists but at the same time I think there is a lot of kids told they have it when they don't - my nephew being one of them.

He is on Ritalin (sp?) for it and I dont think (and a lot of the family) dont think he has anything wrong with him, if anything his younger brother has more signs of it than he does.

 

[Terrie]

only the child can fully understands what he/she has to go through.

my brother and i both have ADHD. my brother though was also very naughty not because of his ADHD but simply because thats the type of child he was. my parents diciplined him etc when he was naughty but they knew when it was him playin up and when he could not control it.

i have been grateful i was diagnosed because at least now i know why my brain and my body do the things they do.

 

[annie4]

one of my sons has adhd/aspergers - i had a gut feeling since he was about 3yrs old but didnt take him for diagnosis/meds until he was 8 - only then did it really become a problem for him - its not an easy route and i dont know anyone in their right mind would push for a diagnoisis like this if the child didnt need support/medication. For years family/friends said - yeah some kids have it but not your son - grrrrrrrrrrrrr - they didnt have to live with him - trust me - dont ever try to diagnois someone elses child - especially from a distance - y'know when we always say - trust your instints - well - then that means you have to respect the instincts of other mums
I would love to hear from adult add/adhders to get ideas for what workds/dosent - atm he is almost 11 and getting ready of high school (next sept) but panics evertime a teacher asks him a qustion - bangs his head with his hand etc etc - i cant get him to stop and its very distressing - im afraid other kids are going start bullying him over this

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Hi annie, I agree completely about not trying to diagnose other peoples kids, only the parents and the child can know.

Have you tried contacting a support group? Theres plenty out there including forums for adults with it aswell as parents with adhd/aspergers children.

This is a good one I dip into every now and then.. http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/default.asp

Im afraid I dont have any experience with aspergers as I only have a mild form of ADHD, and its so different for everyone, but I guess one thing they all have in common is the frustration of the child aswell as the parent, but thats something that can be dealt with - you just need to get the right support. Is he on any medication?

Feel free to pm me any time [/url]

 

[Melly+2]

Sorry but what does ADHD stand for, i didnt know it existed, hugs for all of you though

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or theres just plain old ADD, the same without the hyperactivity

 

[Melly+2]

oh righty, thanks ggg, hope you dont think im being thick lol, sounds like you guys have a rough time with it

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

no not atall hun lol, its one of those things you never really hear about unless you know someone with it.

 

[Melly+2]

well i suppose i can call myself one of those people now hun