another whinge from an unhappy Clairey...

[claireyfairey]

I'm just wondering if things can feel any worse than this. My Maternity Allowance forms have gone missing, so I have no money even though I sent them off in July. I can't trace the forms and they said they have been sending them all around the country due to a huge backlog...so no-one can confirm for me whether they have been received.

There are so many things I need to do...I'm supposed to be at my mum's by now, but because OH is stubborn we are still with his parents. They mean well, but they're doing my head in. I'm sick of being stuck in this house with nothing to do but wait for this baby to arrive, in a household of people who think it would have been better if I never got pregnant.

Someone is using our BT landline in Cheltenham where we used to live, so we had to ring up and bar outgoing callls because we can't afford to cancel the service. We have to pay to cancel the bloody service would you believe I knew this would happen.

We have council housing forms to fill out which we haven't done yet. We have a single application in but OH isn't included on it. The form is long and complicated and every time I try to do it I feel like crying.

We're trying to claim my bank charges back from HSBC but they are being arseholes about it and won't give me the money So I have nothing, nada, not a penny to my name currently but they owe me near enough a grand....which they won't let me have. *******s.


I just feel like everything is getting on top of me. I should be really excited for my LO to arrive....and sometimes I am...but currently, it just feels like a massive burden....something else to add to the list of 'things I should do' It's crap feeling like this. I just want to hide under my duvet and pretend this is happening to someone else



/end whinge

 

[lea m]

I hope things get better soon hun!!

 

[Laur_250]

I know it doesnt feel like it but once your little fairy arrives you wont even care about any of this, you have had alot of bad luck with the forms, etc but hopefully you will get a nice easy labour now to turn your luck back xxx

 

[jenjen]

you're not alone! As if having a baby isn't stressful enough (I'm not moaning, it's also very exciting and a blessing) what with all the things to buy and preparations to be done, I'm in the middle of moving house! well, not quite mving house just yet, but in 3 weeks time (3 weeks before my due date) so I'm up to my eyes in packing. On top of just the normal moving stuff, we have to clean the house to a very high standard because we live in army married quarters and you get charged if it's not clean and if anything's damaged. AND, believe it or not, finding a school for my little boy in the town we're moving to is becoming a complete nightmare, the forms need to be filled in with our new address and new doctor's name and address (which we obviously don't have yet). And then there's the normal changing of address on all our accounts plus having to book in with a new doctor/midwife/hospital as soon as we move because I'll be full term by then. Oh, and I've got to fine myself and DS a new dentist on moving, which is practically impossible in this country.

So...I can COMPLETELY sympathise with your predicament hun. But, at the end of the day, we're gonna have beautiful babies soon and then all of our troubles and all the hard work we put in to make everything perfect for their arrivals, will seem so worth it. I hope you feel better about everything soon x

 

[taika]

Poor thing

It's horrible when everything piles up like that. If I were you I'd make a list and just try and get something done every day - it feels far too much to try and cope with all at once. And tell OH you need to get to your mum's! It must be tough staying somewhere you don't feel completely comfortable.

Hang in there.

 

[kerryp]

hope you get everything sorted out soon claire... im going out of my mind being at home all the time or people nagging me if i go out in the car (im not haing trouble driving, just looking behind me!). Dont look at things as one BIG thing.... break it down into little bits & you will soon have it sorted out. Start with getting to your mums so you're in a more comfortable environment.
xx

 

[aramintalovegrove]

Aw claire it will be all worth it soon hun, promise!

can you start tackling on problem a day at a time, have this weekend off and start afresh on monday? That way you can get thngs done efficiently but not like its all atonce, if something doesnt get done on the day you intended just move your priorities for another day IYKWIM

As for wanting to be with your mum, sod him just start packing he will follow suite after you im sure...and ou know it doesnt matter what others think about this LO she will be yours and you will see how two faced people can be when there is a little bundle to cuddle

 

[Mildly]

Awww Clairey So sorry things are getting to you hun

I agree with Taika, a list might be a good start and hopefully things won't look so daunting when you work through it slowly

 

[Cleo100]

Poor Claire, oh dear hun, your not having a good time of it at all....

Lots of massive

I had the same problem with Mat Allowance which I submitted on June 6th, they fnially sent me a letter this week saying it would be paid including the backlog by next week, they managed to lose my payslips and form in July, then said I did not qualify, then they said my NI no was wrong and sent me for an interview with the job centre for another one.......They are supposedly processing June/July apps now......

I dont know what telephone number you have but the one I screamed and ranted and cried and raved at was on 08456088595 I refused to get off the phone until they promised it would be sorted 2 weeks ago, after 4 months of waiting I finally got results from losing my rag last week and telling them they were starving me and my baby as I could not afford to eat......

Also I don't know if you have heard of a crisis loan? I was offered this just before they paid me.......it's a job centre loan where it takes a week to process then when your mat pay starts you can slowly repay them, (You will be due prob the same backdated money as me as our baby dates match which was £1043.....)

Try and hassle them for this, at least that way you have some money to get the basics you need for baby until they pull their fingers out....... here is the link: http://www.jobcentreplus.gov.uk/JCP/Cus ... 9.xml.html

I hope it's sorted soon for you hun....

C xxx

 

[claireyfairey]

Thanks everyone I just sometimes feel like doing this, you know

Cleo - I called that number and FINALLY got through to someone, who was actually very helpful. They haven't received it at Bury St Edmunds (which they should, as the claim came from Hertfordshire). He was quite sympathetic about it and I explained that I've spoken to several people and they are all telling me different things and I feel like I'm being fobbed off by everyone Anyway, to cut a long story short he advised me to make a new claim using my bank statements as proof that I have been paid X amount of money by my previous employer, and they will have to contact them to confirm that they paid me He also gave me the address for their office, so I will send it to them direct by recorded delivery this time, with a covering letter explaining the situation which may or may not help them to fast track my claim, or link the previous one if it in fact turns up somewhere

I am just going to have a big cry now and get this all out of my system

 

[claireyfairey]

I meant to say, Cleo is one of the names we're considering for our LO

 

[charlotte_]

they offered me a crisis loan too. i turned it down, cause i don't think i'm struggling as much as other people that money could potentially go to. it's a pain in the ass sorting out all these benefit forms though, it's been keeping me up at night & everytime i look at the forms i start to get a bit blubby. i'm sure you'll (and anyone else going through this!) will be fine though. stay strong

 

[analiza]

Sorry to hear your having a hard time with everything. We handed in our Maternity forms in July and we have started to get money today. I got the money backdated from July as thats when we sent in the forms, got a letter about 10 days ago telling us the amount we were getting and when it would be paid in.

We are quite lucky as we have not really needed the money for essentials, but certainly the money will be helpfull now that we have it. I just hope you all get your money soon as theres enough to worry about, we dont need that aswell.

Lots of hugs to clairey

 

[claireyfairey]

Thanks girls

 

[ninjawomble]

Aww hun, just swinging by to give you a

 

[Redshoes]

I just wanted to say that once your LO arrives you will have those early days of utter bliss where all these other things melt out of focus and its just you and your baby, so I do hope you find you relax and feel stress free soon, its horrible when there's so much to be sorted and you really can't be doing with it As for the forms, can you get to a jobcentre plus, they will help you fill them out there, and what bits they can't help with you just do when you have the time Really hope things feel better for you soon, take care