am i being horrible?

[sarah113]

this is going to sound really weird but
at the moment i don't want to think of any names for baby just because i don't want to get hurt again, im kind of like, sorry this is really hard to explain, this is going to sound really horrible but i don't want to get too attached just yet just incase something goes wrong again, does this sound really horrible?
sorry if this don't make sense i just don't have many people to talk to most of the time about things like this and needed to get it out.
i just feel so evil now, i just want to cry all the time

 

[valentine]

That's completly understandable Sarah - its only recently that you had a horrible experience. I know its going to get even harder for you as the new baby reaches 19/20 weeks.

Is there anyone you can talk to - your OH/your Mum/a sibling? I'll bet that would really help.

Valentine Xxx

 

[sam96031]

i dont think you are being horrible and think its totally understandable

 

[Fly]

Awww sarah you not being horrible darlin and you have gotta take it all at your own pace and bugger everyone else if they are puttin pressure on you hun totally understandable that you are feeling anxious and wanting to wait a while more before making it all really real loadsa love xxx

 

[Becky]

Course you're not being horrible, it took me until 16 weeks before I started to be able to bond with the baby and my loss was at a much earlier stage than yours.

Take your time and don't worry about it, you will start to relax, when you're ready!!

 

[nori]

Oh my goodness hun you are not being nasty atall! I think many people would be exactly the same in your shoes. Dont be hard on yourself, you have absolutely no need!

Claire x

 

[widowwadman]

"Normal" is the word you're looking for. Even without the horrible experience you had, me and my partner avoided/tried to avoid getting too attached to the sproglet during the first trimester.

With your experience it's only understandable that you want to stay detached and cannot get too attached yet. You have to look after yourself after all. Your posting shows that you actually are caring a lot indeed, which makes you the opposite of horrible. Hope everything is turning out fine for you.

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

The way you are feeling is very understandable, anybody would be the same. Don't beat yourself up about it, you have every right to feel that way

 

[Steelgoddess]

I didnt become fully attached to this baby until about 20 weeks...

I can understand why you feel that way hon

x

 

[sarah113]

thankyou everyone, reading all the things you said nearly made me cry again.
hopefully after my 20 weeks scan i'll feel abit more better. maybe my mum was right i did'nt give myself time to greive ect propley
thanks again xxxxxxx