Advice Please

[suzicat]

Hi Ladies,

I'm after some advice. The first day of my last period was 30th Oct. I had sex overnight on 20th Nov. This was the first time in a long while as I am single and to be honest it was a bit of a drunken mistake. We didn't use protection but withdraw pretty successfully I thought. So....I'm pretty regular 28 day cycle and I think from when I was trying to get pregnant last year I maybe ovulate a couple of day late - say around 15th Nov. By my reckoning my period was due Friday 27 Nov but so far hasn't arrived. I have had an achy feeling since friday but no sign of AF at all. I did a test yesterday (not first pee I admit, clear blue digi) and that was negative. I did 2 more today and they are both negative too (first pee on a clear blue digi).

So any thoughts? I'm thinking my stressing about it is probably causing me to be late. Or it could just be that my levels are too low to show up. My brain seems to find a reason not to accept the BFN every time I see it. No other symptoms to speak of at the moment but then if I was pregnant it would be very very early. My thoughts are that if I OV-ed on 15th Nov then 20th Nov would be far too late for us to have caught the egg.

Not sure how I will feel if it is a BFP. I was trying to have a baby last year with no luck for 6 months and it was heartbreaking. Then my partner and I took a break as he decided he didn't want to have a baby anymore. Now I'm single with a new life in a very different direction and suddenly it's a possibility again. I need to know one way or the other so I can start thinking things through.

So frustrating - just wanted to share and see if anyone has any ideas.
Thanks
suzicat

 

[mrsH2009]

Do a first response they can be done 6 days before so if you are 3 days late it should show on one of those by now. Hope you get the result you want

 

[suzicat]

Thanks mrsH2009 - unfortunately I am living overseas at the moment and first response aren't available here. I think I read that if you aren't sure when you ov-ed u should test again 2 weeks after intercourse. I'm trying not to stress myself out too much about it and just thinking I'll wait until the weekend and test again then by which time it will be 2 weeks & AF will be a week late.

 

[mrsH2009]

Sounds like a plan

 

[suzicat]

Tested again this morning - I got some cheap tests (clear blue mini's?). Still BFN. I'm not even sure if it is possible I'm pregnant considering the dates. I suppose the doubt is around when I OV-ed but can you still OV v late (say CD20) and still be on a regular 28 day cycle? Can you suddenly OV much later one month? Any advice would be v welcome ladies.
Thanks
suzicat

 

[suzicat]

Just a quick update. I thought AF had arrived last night but this morning there is no bleeding. Last night it was pretty light and looked like the start of AF but now I'm thinking it might have been an implantation bleed but the dates just don't make sense. If I had conceived within 24hrs of 20th Nov yesterday would have been 11 or 12 days afterwards - surely that is too late for an implantation bleed? I have had alot of aching over the last 4 days and a feeling of being v wet down there and then going to the toilet and not finding AF. I did another test this morning - not first pee and it is still negative but then if it has only just implanted then I'm thinking it might be a few days til my levels come up. Just a case of waiting still I think.

Suzicat

 

[Sam's Mum]

Implantation usually happens 7-10 days after ovulation, and implatation bleeds can often be at around the time your period would be due as it can take a few days for the blood to work its way out. And while it is possible to ovulate later one month, your luteal phase us generally still the same length so you would expect your period to be later anyway if that was the case. Stress could definitely be making you late though. I hope you find out soon

 

[suzicat]

Thanks Sam's Mum. I'm going to wait til Saturday to test again but I must say - I really do think I'm pregnant. The dates don't make sense and it would be a shock considering this was the first time I've had sex in 14months (!!!!) but these things do happen. Not sure how I feel about everything - It is a very difficult time for me and this was definitely not in my plan for the next couple of years. I'm just trying to stay calm about the situation until I know what's happening and then I can think about what to do next.

Suzicat

 

[suzicat]

OK general symptom update.....queasy, keen sense of smell, wet feeling, slight spotting but no AF, raging headache this morning, boobs no real change, feeling knackered but like that most of the time with my job. I'm pretty convinced bar a BFP that I am. Waiting til Sat to test which will be 1 week late and 2 weeks since BD. If it's true than I have no idea how that happened! Plus need to pee all the time!

 

[NatEvz]

Hi hun, let us know how you get one when you retest x

 

[Rowesb]

hope u get the result u want x

 

[Mamafy]

Good luck for tomorrow, let us know xx

 

[karen78]

good luck for tomorrow

 

[suzicat]

AF turned up during the night. 1 week later & v different to normal. I suspect it was too late for implantation & hormone levels were too low to continue. Probably a good thing as I am in no position to have continued without leaving my job and my new country as a single mother. It reminded me that i do want a baby & that time is running out. I have a lot to think about.

Thank you for all the support and advice.
suzicat

 

[Rowesb]

we are all here if u need

 

[louise280981]

sending lots of love xx

 

[Mamafy]

Sorry to hear that hun

But good that it has perhaps made you realise things you haven't before xoxox