Adivice needed on Colliers reactions to situations

[Geordie&Bairn]

Collier is A NIGHTMARE
He screams when i put clothes on him, he cries when i clean his face, he gets annoyed when i out a bib on him He loves BLW feeding but has a huge paddy when i clean the mess that he is afterwards
i dont mind the mess but when hes crying like that its upsetting

He is HORRIBLE when i change his nappy he screames thrashes about like a nutter
I try to talk soothingly sing to him tried distracting with toys but its not working
He no hates being in his pushchair (sling not an option on a cold rainy days)

Anyone been through this any ideas tips that have worked for you would be fantastic

Also hes being very very clingy( he always has been )i mean if i leave the room he goes crazy and screeches the place down makes making meals cleaning up after meals very difficult.
Even sitting him on the flor in the dining room (kitchen dining room open plan) with toys he gets upsets and cralws towards me
(I need a playpen) any ideas where i can get one???

I was hoping the new home more room to play more nautral light comng into the rooms ect would calm him down
I wish he felt contented and confident enough that im not going to go anywhere and that he dosnt need to be right next to me 24/7. I guess with living in such a confind space its made him take for granted i need to be right there

What am i doing so wrong do you think its something to do with the fact he has been teething since the age of 3 months could this have effected his behaviour??
Adivce for this wilL be so welcome any experiance similar to share
Thank you

 

[muppetmummy]

I expect the teethings not helping things. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, some babies just don't like nappy changes and things. Logan always cries when I wipe his face after he's eaten, I just do it as quickly as possible

 

[muppetmummy]

I expect the teethings not helping things. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, some babies just don't like nappy changes and things. Logan always cries when I wipe his face after he's eaten, I just do it as quickly as possible

 

[Baumster]

Your post could have been written by me!!

I'm in the same situation (our little man is 11 and a bit months) - some days worse than others. HATES getting dressed, HATES getting his nappy changed, sometimes crys/whines the entire time I'm feeding him (even when he's actually enjoying the food), sobs into his toys and tries to follow me when I'm trying to do something in the kitchen, etc. etc.

I've found the only thing that ever helps is 1-on-1 interaction, such as reading a book with him sitting on my knee, or playing with his toys with him. Sometimes, after I've done that, he's happy to play by himself for a while without whinging. I also take him out for a walk when he's like that, as it gives both of us a break. Of course, he HATES being put in his buggy or car seat, but once he's in and out and about with things and people to look at, he's alright.

I can't say whether it's due to teething or anything like that. Like I say, some days are worse than others. It's definitely worse when he's tired, though!

Good luck - I hope it's something they'll grow out of!

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Poor you hun i sympathise

I mean sometimes its amusing when he flips himself over gets into crawl position bum in the air at me then having to wrestle him back onto the matt as he trys to comado crawl arcoss the room we stoped using the changing unit ages ago it was getting to dangerous hes a right little wriggler,
but after a while the fun weares of!!!!!!

Id put Collier in his highchair to watch me make food ect but i know after a while he will go nuts and started crying and thrashing about
Guess i just have to put up with it i hope he dose grow out of it

 

[keli]

Cooper is EXCATLY the same! Getting him dressed is a nightmare, nappy times are nightmares, cleaning him up is a nightmare! He screams for his food, then barks at me when he gets it! LOL. It's all a nightmare! His dad had him for 3 hrs yesterday and was knackered.. was asking why women want kids when all they do is cry! I just think its a stage, i must admit it is trying but what can we do??! xx

 

[Suzie and Faith]

You're not doing anything wrong hun xxxx

Have you tried your local freecycle? Ask for a playpen and/or baby walker (if you don't have one). Fi tends to follow me everywhere in her baby walker but because she is in that and it has toys and things for her to do I don't have to pay her too much attention.

I'm sure it'll get better hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Jade&Evie]

Evie is exactly the same- I think it's frustration from not being able to move about and be mobile

Nappy changes are near on impossible now- it's like a military operation! Have you got a door bouncer? I move Evie about the house in that so she can watch me doing stuff- or she pushes her car along behind me and goes up my backside all the time!

 

[GBLiz]

anjali is similar- she LOVES bathtime but turns into a demonchild when i try to dress her after!!! also when she's hungry she's taken to thrashing about and almost backflipping out of my arms. i just try to do things really quickly!

 

[LisaJ1986]

Angel is the exact same! She is a very, very clingy baby. She can be sat with OH yet calling for me.
I have a travel cot set up in the living room for when i really need to do stuff. It can be something as simple as going to the loo.
She loves her food yet will take her bib off in a scream halfway through. Then when she's finished she'll scream whilst trying to take off her top!
Nappy changes take two of us! We get the flip over with the pooey arse, i struggle like mad to get her dressed. I can't even hoover without her following me and screaming.
In general she is a fab baby, and most of this doesn't take up much of the day.

 

[jills10uk]

mine is the same, getting anything over his head like vests or teeshirts is a bloody nightmare and don't even get me started on the demon that my child turns into when i try to strap him into his buggy! he screeched and does the rigid baby act and it got so bad the other day that it took me 15 mins to get him out of the car and into his buggy, all the while i'm trying to be calm whilst really sweating and some lady walks past and tuts and shakes her head and i honestly wanted to hit her!!!!!
then he smiles and it is like it never happened

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Glad im not alone (well not glad for you ) but i feel a bit better
Its so annoying hes better behaved for his Daddy but even with him he fights nappy time
When i was up North for Xmas if my parents change his nappy or dressed him hes an angel bloody unfair that is
I swear the neighbours are going to think im killing him when he gose for it my he is loud

 

[LilysMummy]

Sounds like a baby

You will get used to it. Lily started, like Collier, at about that age and shes still doing it now (probably worse) but Ive just got used to it now. I know shes not really upset but just fustrated that shes not flying round the room.

Im afraid it doesnt get much better, unless its just me And Lily doesnt leave me alone either. Shes even follows me to the bathroom

 

[Gem & Leland]

i wrote a similar post ages ago too , its took 2 of us to change a nappy before one to pin him down and the other to get him dressed ! but althought its improved slightly he still does it ! i have found that know he cleans his teeth while im creaming him and getting him dressed after his bath that his a bit better ? dont know if its the distraction or the noring on the toothbrush lol

 

[Teej]

OMG Sam is exactly the same at the moment, it must be a age thing.
I've read normal separation anxiety starts around this time..if i try to do anything like cook, wee etc Sam just crawls to me and hangs on to my legs bless him! Trying to get bogeys from his permanently runny nose, wiping his face, dressing him and BEJEEEZUS trying to change a nappy you'd think i was trying to kill him
Am really hoping is just a phase am sure it will be for you two too

 

[Teej]

hahahaha changing mat flip-over-pooey-bum-in-the-air sooooooo familiar

 

[DebbieM]

Sounds normal to me! Luke is exactly the same. Nappy changes mean pinning him down... or trying to. Dressing him, changing, wiping his face, everything is a nightmare.

All part of the fun LOL!

 

[Sherlock]

Yup, sounds normal to me also, apart from the separation bit. Galen doesn't do that.

I distract Galen during nappy changes not with toys but with household objects like kitchen serving spoons, a slinky, old remote control etc. I keep a stash and rotate them and change them every couple of days.

As for the other things I tend to always just keep cheerful, not get stressed or tense sounding with him.

I'd try him in his high chair for short bursts at a time when you are in the kitchen. Just 5 minutes, give him a beaker with some water in to keep him busy. I also give LO the occasional toy or a piece of fruit to knaw on if need be. However if he drops the toy on the floor he doesn't get it back. He just leans over and looks at it Also maybe position the highchair near a window so he can see out of it?

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Thanks for the tips Sherlock

things that ive foud that work so far
pringles box he plays with it while i change his nappy happily no crying or wiggiling
we have have giant mirrors in the bathroom i take him in there and he giggles at his reflection while i clean his ace and hands with a warm flannel bless he loves looking at him self and playing peek a boo in the mirror with me
Put him in his highchair while i made breakfast he sat happily eating a rice cake and playing with his toy mobile
Breakfast dosnt take to long to make so the next challange is making dinner/ tea.

He still goes crakers when i put clothes on him and if i take to long with his nappy he gets annoyed and tries to escape
but there is some improvement