AARRRGGGHHH.....MEN!!

[x-kirsty-x]

Me and Daniel had a huge argument yesterday (over something silly) and i have a feeling that when he gets home tonight its gonna kick off again. We did make up this morning but theres still alot of resentment cos part of the argument was about how he doesnt see his mam and dad very much.

I like his parents, they're nice and everything but I havent seen much of them lately cos his mams pregnant and ive been staying out of the way. I told them a while ago that i had to have a termination a year ago and they just didnt say anything, no sympathy or anything. anyway, after that i told them me and daniel wanted another baby and they turned round and said they didnt think we should, we should live our lives a bit first. i was fuming, i dont say to them that they're too old for another baby yet they can tell me im too young!!

so anyway, as selfish as it may sound im trying to keep out of his mams pregnancy as much as possible. i just cant stand hearing about it and so inevitably its causing problems between me and daniel. he says that i dont like them and that im stopping him from seeing them which is ridiculous cos i dont care if he goes to see them or not. they live 15 minutes away in the car whereas my parents live 2 minutes down the road so i admit i see mine more.

also, when we argue, he talks as though his mam and dad are his family and me and josh arent! basically he puts them first all the time and he jumps to their defence a hell of alot quicker than he jumps to mine. im not saying he cant defend them but he makes such a point of making sure i know that i'll never come first.

this post is so long, im sorry!! just sick of being second best! part of me is threatened cos when his mam has the baby they'll all be knitted together and i just wont come into it. im absolutely dreading the day that baby comes along cos i think it might be the end of me and daniel!

 

[violet-glow]

I think your MIL is being seriously selfish, is she worried if you get pregnant then that will take the shine away from her new baby.

My MIL is a right pain in the butt, its my OHs 21st tomorrow. Their going to have a family meal and guess who isnt invited So I can see how it becomes really anoying when your OH defends them all the time, mine does the same.

You do what you want hun, if you want another baby, dont let that stupid cow stop you.

As for your OH you dont know what his parents have been saying to him, they might have been sh*t sturing a bit, saying its you thats stoping him from seeing them etc.

Hope your alright hun.... if you feel the need to when he gets in from work just beat him up lol

 

[JMC]

Wow, I dunno what to say

Its a bit of a messy situation

Its good you got it off your chest though...

I dont really know what advice to give... but about him treating you like your outside his family... if anything.. YOU ARE HIS FAMILY !!!

I hope things turn out arrite, but keep us all posted if anything else happens

 

[x-kirsty-x]

well we didnt argue last night so it was ok!

the thing is i know he loves me to bits, seriously he's the most affectionate bloke ive ever been with. he'll do ANYTHING for me and most of the time its obvious me and josh are his whole world. Its just when we argue that the whole 'mam-and-dad-will-always-come-first' thing comes into it!

I admit that we dont see them alot, but he's living his own life now, what does he expect?? he still sees them a few times a week and they're always ringing up! When he wants to go and see them I ask why he doesnt invite me and he just says 'cos u dont like them!'. more like the other way round.

i think his parents think im boring cos they've asked us a few times to go out for meals or to the pub with them or to bingo or whatever but im not keen on going out with them, i just feel uncomfortable around them! so for that reason they think im stopping daniel having a social life!

the other week daniel and his dad were fitting a shower here and that was fair enough but in the end do u know how many people were in my house?? there was daniel, his dad, his uncle, his aunty, his cousin, his little sister and his mam!! i was thinking, how many people need to be here?! they were all sitting smoking in my living room and i went out for a drive, ended up driving around for 3 hours til they'd all gone!

anyway, me and daniel are getting on fine and i love him to bits so i'll try and get on with his family!

 

[violet-glow]

Dont feel bad that you arnt buddy buddy with his parents, by the sound sof it they sound a bit o.t.t... I mean yeah how many people does it take to fit a shower. That would have driven me potty. Im glad things are alright now. Lots of making up time after an argument... always good hehe

xx

 

[lauramumof2]

I come from a big family and sometimes it seems you cant fart without lots of people being there or phoning to see how it went but Im always up at my mums or on the phone.

I dont know you that well or why you had a termination but is there any chance they genuinely want you to have bit of time first before you have a baby. If you dont go out much or socialise they might think you dont get out at all.
And if you are worried about them knitting closer together then get in there and get knitted in with them. You will be a new sister in law to the baby and Josh (thinking hard about whats thats makes him) ooooooh he will be an uncle(is that right )

You cant handpick your oh's family but compared to some of the nightmares Ive read about they dont seem the worst.

I misread your first post, I though you said they were all round having a shower and I though wayhay, thats a bit far!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

LMAO about the shower bit

Im feeling alot more positive today as I've left work, Im not going to go back. I just dont feel comfortable there anymore after what went on (if u dont know what i mean see here http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... hp?t=11869 )

So anyway, Im looking for a new job now!

When MIL's baby is born it'll be Josh's uncle which is weird cos it'll obviously be 3 years younger than him! Hmmm, weird! Hopefully they'll be dead close growing up though and they can look out for each other lol!

As I said, Im in a much better mood knowing I dont have to face work again so tonight I think I'll go and see Daniels parents and just spend an hour there, I just know I'll forget all the negativity once I've been to see them!

 

[bekki_16]

even though you might not be close with daniles family you have still got daniel and if you want another baby dont let any1 stop you its your choice
i get on better with my ex's family than i do with him so atleast you got daniel lol
bekki xxx