amandapanda
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Well what a few weeks I've had, just thought I'd say a quick hello and update you.
Was induced on 21st April due to early onset pre eclampsia but after 12 hours in labour I was only 4cm dilated and they felt it was too risky to go on any longer so I was rushed in for an emergency c section. I have never been so terrified in my life!! For some reason my body went into a kind of shock and I couldn't stop shivering and shaking through the whole procedure....it didn't hurt or anything, although it did feel strange to feel them rummaging around inside me and it did make me sick! But the shakes I had were the worst thing and it was obviously a sign that things weren't right as when I came out my temp was raised to 39.7 which they were quite concerned about - so I was put straight onto IV antibiotics. Baby Asher Anthony Kaosi Okonya was born at 16.04pm on Good Friday, the 22nd April - which is also my mum's and nephew's birthday so it's becoming quite a family tradition! He weighed 8lb 9lb.
Since then it's all been a blur really - I developed a serious wound infection and was rushed back into hospital less than 2 days after being discharged. Basically my whole tummy behind the wound has become infected and has abcesses in it - was in hospital for 8 days on IV antibiotics and finally got home a week ago but have district nurses visiting daily to clean and dress my wound. I'm slowly getting better but there is still quite alot of infection there which they say will take weeks to clear. I also lost alot of blood during the op and am now anaemic - hate those iron pills with a passion!! All the stress and illness has meant I have lost almost 2 and a half stone in 3 weeks!! That's all my pregnancy weight and more! I totally lost my appetite while in hospital and am slowly getting it back now but often it's a choice between sleep and food and I choose sleep!!
Baby Asher has been fine throughtout, although I must admit I have found it so hard to care for him while I have been so unwell myself. Trying to breastfeed a baby who won't latch on and kicks and screams at you, all the while hooked up to IV antibiotics and only able to move one arm is no fun at all!! Needless to say breastfeeding became just too hard for me to continue, it was just too stressful for me and I was crying at every feed because I found it so hard. Asher has been really unsettled and just cried and cried and I found it so hard that I cried everyday! It really isn't easy looking after a newborn - especially after a c section and then a serious infection!! I have been worried that I've developed PND but think I am ok now things have settled down a bit....but I must say that I never got that euphoria after birth or feelings of being complete.....I just felt totally traumatised and in pain and then too ill from the infection!! Things are improving now though, am feeding Asher a bit more and he seems more settled and cries less. He still only sleeps for 3 hours at a time though so I'm shattered! But I'm hoping we've turned a corner and am slowly getting to grips with life with a newborn....i love him to bits and am so thankful that it's been me that's been ill and not him....and am looking forward to things continuing to improve for both of us!
Have missed so much - congrats all the April mummies I missed and good luck to the rest of you May mummies!! xxx
Was induced on 21st April due to early onset pre eclampsia but after 12 hours in labour I was only 4cm dilated and they felt it was too risky to go on any longer so I was rushed in for an emergency c section. I have never been so terrified in my life!! For some reason my body went into a kind of shock and I couldn't stop shivering and shaking through the whole procedure....it didn't hurt or anything, although it did feel strange to feel them rummaging around inside me and it did make me sick! But the shakes I had were the worst thing and it was obviously a sign that things weren't right as when I came out my temp was raised to 39.7 which they were quite concerned about - so I was put straight onto IV antibiotics. Baby Asher Anthony Kaosi Okonya was born at 16.04pm on Good Friday, the 22nd April - which is also my mum's and nephew's birthday so it's becoming quite a family tradition! He weighed 8lb 9lb.
Since then it's all been a blur really - I developed a serious wound infection and was rushed back into hospital less than 2 days after being discharged. Basically my whole tummy behind the wound has become infected and has abcesses in it - was in hospital for 8 days on IV antibiotics and finally got home a week ago but have district nurses visiting daily to clean and dress my wound. I'm slowly getting better but there is still quite alot of infection there which they say will take weeks to clear. I also lost alot of blood during the op and am now anaemic - hate those iron pills with a passion!! All the stress and illness has meant I have lost almost 2 and a half stone in 3 weeks!! That's all my pregnancy weight and more! I totally lost my appetite while in hospital and am slowly getting it back now but often it's a choice between sleep and food and I choose sleep!!
Baby Asher has been fine throughtout, although I must admit I have found it so hard to care for him while I have been so unwell myself. Trying to breastfeed a baby who won't latch on and kicks and screams at you, all the while hooked up to IV antibiotics and only able to move one arm is no fun at all!! Needless to say breastfeeding became just too hard for me to continue, it was just too stressful for me and I was crying at every feed because I found it so hard. Asher has been really unsettled and just cried and cried and I found it so hard that I cried everyday! It really isn't easy looking after a newborn - especially after a c section and then a serious infection!! I have been worried that I've developed PND but think I am ok now things have settled down a bit....but I must say that I never got that euphoria after birth or feelings of being complete.....I just felt totally traumatised and in pain and then too ill from the infection!! Things are improving now though, am feeding Asher a bit more and he seems more settled and cries less. He still only sleeps for 3 hours at a time though so I'm shattered! But I'm hoping we've turned a corner and am slowly getting to grips with life with a newborn....i love him to bits and am so thankful that it's been me that's been ill and not him....and am looking forward to things continuing to improve for both of us!
Have missed so much - congrats all the April mummies I missed and good luck to the rest of you May mummies!! xxx
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and everything crossed that you are on the mend and can really start to enjoy your wee man xx
so happy you are on the mend though and 
for you having such a bad time with the csection then the infection xxxxxxxx your little man has a fab mummy 
more for ya.
