Hayley1608
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So...
I had a c section last wednesday 24th aug. Our little girl is perfect and we both love her so so much. The recovery was a difficult time for me, i'd never been to hospital before... never even to a and e so going for such a big operation was a big deal. I was in for 3 nights and returned home on saturday.
My inlaws can be quite frankly pains in the ass sometimes. my dhs brother turned up to the hospital when we were bringing savannah home and was trying to make dh travel in his car! I know this is maybe not the biggest deal but it was important to me to have dh with me on her first journey home. This was the first thing that wound me up.
since that day he turned up every single day without fail, DH said that because he isnt usually here ( he lives about an hour and a half away from us) that he will be hanging around for the first few days. I understand this to a certain degree but i wanted us to have a bit of time to ourselves with our new baby.
DH had to go out on tuesday for the day and i was on my own with the baby. Because its difficult for me to get up and downstairs he brought everything upstairs so i didnt have to move too far (We are staying with my nan at the moment and she has dogs... i didnt want to stay down there all day with the baby and dogs on my own!) I had the steriliser bottles nappies and her moses basket all within a meter of me. Around half past 3 dh text to ask if his brother had turned up at the house. I said no but that i hoped he wouldn't just turn up as there was baby sick everywhere, i had just managed to settle savannah and i hadn't even had a shower yet. Dh then text to say that he told his brother now wasnt a good time so he wouldnt come.
Next thing i know he's on the drive with his wife and daughter. They came upstairs and asked to cuddle her even though i had just gotten her to go to sleep. his wife picked savannah up and woke her up again. after a short whle they left and i was again on my own with a screaming baby who i couldn't settle.
He rang my dh that night to tell him that he thinks i am postnatally depressed as i was rude to them when they arrived and seemed very withdrawn! I was so angry at this as even though i was fuming that they had just turned up unannounced i tried my hardest to smile and friendly despite the fact i was in agony and extremely hacked off.
Since this day my brother in law has also rang my mother in law and told her im depressed so she spent an hour yesterday questioning me about my feelings.
I'm so annoyed that they all think i cannot cope and that they are talking about me behind my back. The fact is i had just had an operation and looking after a newborn baby is difficult enough usually let alone when you can hardly move. Also this was my first day completley on my own with her and considering the circumstances i think i did quite well.
Sorry about the rant and congratulations if you managed to get to the end of it!
I'm just so annoyed about it all as at one point they even had me doubting myself as to whether i was coping or not
grrrr!
I had a c section last wednesday 24th aug. Our little girl is perfect and we both love her so so much. The recovery was a difficult time for me, i'd never been to hospital before... never even to a and e so going for such a big operation was a big deal. I was in for 3 nights and returned home on saturday.
My inlaws can be quite frankly pains in the ass sometimes. my dhs brother turned up to the hospital when we were bringing savannah home and was trying to make dh travel in his car! I know this is maybe not the biggest deal but it was important to me to have dh with me on her first journey home. This was the first thing that wound me up.
since that day he turned up every single day without fail, DH said that because he isnt usually here ( he lives about an hour and a half away from us) that he will be hanging around for the first few days. I understand this to a certain degree but i wanted us to have a bit of time to ourselves with our new baby.
DH had to go out on tuesday for the day and i was on my own with the baby. Because its difficult for me to get up and downstairs he brought everything upstairs so i didnt have to move too far (We are staying with my nan at the moment and she has dogs... i didnt want to stay down there all day with the baby and dogs on my own!) I had the steriliser bottles nappies and her moses basket all within a meter of me. Around half past 3 dh text to ask if his brother had turned up at the house. I said no but that i hoped he wouldn't just turn up as there was baby sick everywhere, i had just managed to settle savannah and i hadn't even had a shower yet. Dh then text to say that he told his brother now wasnt a good time so he wouldnt come.
Next thing i know he's on the drive with his wife and daughter. They came upstairs and asked to cuddle her even though i had just gotten her to go to sleep. his wife picked savannah up and woke her up again. after a short whle they left and i was again on my own with a screaming baby who i couldn't settle.
He rang my dh that night to tell him that he thinks i am postnatally depressed as i was rude to them when they arrived and seemed very withdrawn! I was so angry at this as even though i was fuming that they had just turned up unannounced i tried my hardest to smile and friendly despite the fact i was in agony and extremely hacked off.
Since this day my brother in law has also rang my mother in law and told her im depressed so she spent an hour yesterday questioning me about my feelings.
I'm so annoyed that they all think i cannot cope and that they are talking about me behind my back. The fact is i had just had an operation and looking after a newborn baby is difficult enough usually let alone when you can hardly move. Also this was my first day completley on my own with her and considering the circumstances i think i did quite well.
Sorry about the rant and congratulations if you managed to get to the end of it!
I'm just so annoyed about it all as at one point they even had me doubting myself as to whether i was coping or not
grrrr!