A bit of an embarrassing TMI question about my 10 year old...

[jojo_2012]

Well it seems since my 2nd baby has been born my 10 year old has turned into a stroppy teenager overnight. I've noticed lately that he's changing down there (I don't let him run around naked anymore but still bathtime etc). He's also been searching for rude things on the laptop, luckily I have parental controls set very strictly.

I'm curious now, I don't know much about boys and their goings on down there, wet dreams, fiddling etc etc, do I need to have a talk with him like mothers do with daughters about periods etc. Am I going to go to do the linen one day and find bedsheets covered in disgustingness. He's not very mature for his age at all because he has ADHD...

 

[jules84]

TBH the only thing I would talk about is the laptop. And all i would say regarding that is basically "no filth on the laptop or he loses the right to go on it"

He's at that age where hes bound to be curious, i wouldnt talk about masturbation with him, that would be mortifying! and yes u prob will get stale sheets! lol but im assuming all mums do of boys in their teens or am i silly? lol

BTW this isnt anything you should be embarrassed about, im pretty sure theres nothing wrong with it, id be more worried if he wasnt lol! xx

 

[BevG]

id man up and explain things to him and ask him if he has any questions. id explain about how its not good for him to search for things on the laptop and make sure he knows he could just ask you if he was curious about anything. my mum was very open with me about sex etc and i never felt i couldnt talk to her about it or anything and it wasnt embarrasing because she never made it feel like that.

 

[Hope81]

I would buy him a book destined for kids with human anatomy, talking about difference between sexes, sexual maturity etc. then let him read it and tell him that I'd he has questions you can go through the book together.
About the laptop I would explain that certain information is not only in appropriate but also dangerous so he can either ask you or search for whatever he wants while you are present.
I wouldn't properly talk about sex and masturbation yet to a 10 year old ifykwim. but a book may be a good solution as he will only ask you for things that he is really interested in and also get the idea that the whole discussion is not sth to be ashamed or look in secret on the Internet as you can find whatever you need in a book

 

[Lulabell]

id man up and explain things to him and ask him if he has any questions. id explain about how its not good for him to search for things on the laptop and make sure he knows he could just ask you if he was curious about anything. my mum was very open with me about sex etc and i never felt i couldnt talk to her about it or anything and it wasnt embarrasing because she never made it feel like that.

Same here. My mum was very open and honest about everything. It made me feel comfortable enough to talk to her about anything. And I think I had a healthy attitude towards sex as it wasn't some dirty little secret iykwim? Be open and honest with him and let him ask you the questions he wants to ask. Being embarrassed about something that could have consequences in the long run isn't worth it. Good luck Hun! I'm not looking forward to it with my ds but I know it has to be done at some point. And I'd rather my boy feel comfortable to talk to me rather then his mates who probably won't know what they are talking about.xx

 

[BabyBrain]

Thing is he is going to pick up things in the playground from his mates who have older siblings etc and its not always going to be right. Best to be honest and make sure he's not ashamed to talk about stuff or ask you questions, or be curious and look on the internet. Is there a man, his dad or your dad or someone that can talk to him about it from a man's point of view?

Albert won't need these convos cos he's being chained to the radiator until he's at least 50 lol

 

[katey123]

I agree with alot of the points above , but be aware ADHD does play a role in this , he is and will always want to push the boundaries ie if you open the lines of talking frankly about these things at home privately he is very likely to begin a very uncomfortable (for you) public discussion in the tesco's queue , or worst still in a classroom discussion with his teacher and peers. So you must impress upon him how important these things are and how private they should be.
I found using to correct words for things like penis a definite no no at first because he was like a dog with a new trick saying in every sentence to everyone , so I oppted to make our own private words at first and once that was old hat and of course he understood alittle more we moved to the correct proper names , I still warned friends and family in advance so he would not get the shock factor anymore so slightly took the wind out of his sails so to speak .
As I'm sure you already know children with ADHD need slow drip feeding of information and then it slowly seeps in . Good luck xx