5 days to go & feeling soooo emotional & stressed!

[Sunnyb]

Sorry to have a moan folks, but I am getting soooo worried about everything.
My mum & dad go away on holiday for a week the same day I'm due with my auntie & uncle (booked before I got pregnant.) They would have had my son for me while I was in hospital. So I'm now stressing about who will have him if I go into labour whilst they're away. My hubby's parents & family live on the east coast, so are a good 2 hours away from us, our best man works shifts so it depends if he's at work or not. If Joseph is at school luckily his best friends mum says she'll pick him up & let him stay there, so has his teacher. But I'm concerned about middle of the night or weekend labour! On top of that I'm organising Joseph's birthday party - his birthday is 24th June, but booking his party for the week after & he also has his Taekwondo grading on the 25th June & he keeps asking me if I'll miss his birthday & grading. I'll feel awful if I miss these - but if I'm induced it's likely I will miss them!
This baby doesn't feel as if it'll make an early appearance & I'm concerned about being induced after my previous induction & labour.
I keep waking up in cold sweats & feel sick about the thought of giving birth again.
My head is a total shed & the lack of sleep just seems to be making me more emotional than ever!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Oh hun, sorry your feeling so crap
I am gonna be totally useless in any advice as i am terrified myself. You got through it once and the second time is meant to be easier isn't it? Would you not get an Epidural if it becomes too much? Hope baby comes before your mam and everyone goes away. xxx

 

[Sunnyb]

Thanks Shauna. The labour itself wasn't bad, I coped just on my Tens machine & gas & air. It was the episiotomy & ventouse that caused the major problems. I was really hoping to do things all by myself this time, but I guess it's out of my control. I think it's fear of the known rather than unknown this time. I still can't believe my pregnancy timing though - due same date I was with Joseph & falling pregnant & being due whilst my mum & dad are away! Really want this baby to arrive on a different date to Joseph's birthday too (don't want to take away from his special day!)
I could really kick myself!!!!!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Most babies don't arrive on their due date anyways. I am sure it will be better this time round for you after a hard time last time... not long to go hun and it will be over with. Well done on coping through the labour with just Gas&Air and a TENS machine... your a braver lady than me. xxx

 

[leibiloo87]

Aww hun I really feel for you its hard when you have other kids to consider we have 2 daughters and luckily my mum is coming here to look after them but if she was away on holiday I dont know what we would do coz we dont have anyone else for them! plus now my baby is breech to add to the stress and worry. Its the not knowing how long you will be in hospital for either depending on how the birth goes could be home same day or could be 4 days so making sure there is someone for your LO is a nightmare. My baby is also due around the same time as my youngest daughters birthday and id hate to miss it she would be upset and so would I, so know how you feel there too. Is there any way your sons friends mum could have you little one if you go into labour on a weekend? try not to worry too much hun x

 

[Sunnyb]

Unfortunately his friends mum has 2 children who are in all kinds of clubs etc. on a weekend, so it would be difficult to catch them in! Don't feel too comfortable about calling them at 2am in the morning either
Hopefully our best man will not be at work, so he can come over with his 2 boys & keep Joseph company. I feel bad about his birthday too, as he keeps asking me to promise not to miss his birthday, but I can't. If they keep me in hospital I'll be an emotional wreck, cos I know I'll miss him like mad!!!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[nmf1987]

ah sunny hope it all works out for the good. im sure it will. everything will fall into place im sure. xxx

 

[jodied]

I'm sure things will work out Hun and I'm sure someone will help out last minute for you if necessary! xx

 

[Sunnyb]

Thanks Jodied. I don't know anyone else that can help, that's why I'm stressed. One of my friends is away & my best friend lives in Reading. There's my uncle, but as much as I love him, he lives alone & has never had children, so no way would I leave Joseph with him as he's a bit clueless, lovely, but clueless
A girl from work volunteered, but Joseph has only met her once & I'd hate to leave him asleep to wake up with a stranger in the house. Whoever I leave him with or comes here needs to know Joseph & vice versa.
I have dug the garden over, put out my Summer plant pots, mowed the lawn, scrubbed the kitchen floor, cleaned my living room carpet & sofa's with the Vax machine in the hope it'll bring on early labour!!!! Let's wait & see what happens now.

Sunnyb xxx

 

[leibiloo87]

Just realised your in west yorkshire, im in Leeds where in west yorkshire r u? Ill come babysit for you do you maybe have a close neighbor who your son knows that you trust to look after him? ill keep my fingers crossed for you that it happens during the week and during school hours so your sons friends mum can look after him for you it is so hard when you have other kids adds so much worry to the equasion just not knowing when its going to happen x

 

[Sunnyb]

Awwwwww Leibiloo87 that's really kind of you x
I live in Huddersfield, so not too far from you. We live on a street with 3 neighbours. The man at number 1 is like a recluse, the people at number 3 we don't like as they are always shouting & swearing at each other & number 5 are newly weds, no kids & just moved in. The family who we know the best are on the street next to us at the other side (complicated but we live on a crossroads) & their house overlooks our drive. Joseph knows them well enough & they have 4 children (all 18+) & pets, so I'm sure he'd be happy there or one of them could come round to ours if we were really desperate. Just hope this baby is kind to us & arrives at a decent time, when there is someone we know can look after him.

Sunnyb xxx

 

[leibiloo87]

Im sure it wont happen too quickly and you will have a few hours to sort someone out for him hun even if you go into labour during the night its likely you wont go into hospital til the following morning anyway so try not to stress to much I know thats easier said than done coz id be the same if it was me x

 

[nmf1987]

you feeling any better today sunny. xxx

 

[Sunnyb]

I'm still a bit stressed, but I've got all our best mans shift patterns now & am thinking there's a good chance I'll go into labour during the week rather than a weekend & as Joseph was late & I've had no niggles I think this one will be late too (hopefully my mum & dad will be back by then!)
Just don't want to miss my son's birthday or Taekwondo grading - but I guess I can't have it all ways
Just have to face the fact that whatever is going to happen, will happen & it's not in my control.
Thank you so much for asking nmf1987 it means a lot x

Sunnyb xxx

 

[Kay1987]

Just don't want to miss my son's birthday or Taekwondo grading - but I guess I can't have it all ways
Just have to face the fact that whatever is going to happen, will happen & it's not in my control.

awww i feel for you here, im going in for a c-section on my sons birthday. iv got 2 b at the hospital at 6.45am so i wont get 2 see him, im going to do his birthday the day b4 but hes only 2 so luckily he wont know any different even tho i will! x

 

[Sunnyb]

Thanks Kay1987, I think it's because my son is old enough & keeps asking me if I'll miss things that makes me feel worse. I think we'll just have to do double celebrations if I miss his birthday!!!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[Kay1987]

I know it must be hard when they are aware of whats going on! i hope things work out how u want them 2. xxx