4D scan - Would you cancel?

[Rachel]

I have my 4D scan booked for April and was really looking forward to it but me and OH split up last night and now he wants nothing to do with the baby his loss

If I still have my 4D scan now though it will mean going on my own because my Mum is away the weekend it's being done and I'd only go with my Mum or OH but mums away and OH want's nothing to do with baby now so I'd have to go on my own If it was you would you still just go on your own or cancel it?

I really want this scan but think I would feel abit stupid going on my own but don't want to miss out so I don't know what to do

 

[ASD123456]

Sorry to hear about you and OH

Could you maybe postpone the scan until your mother is back? If you think you would still enjoy it on your own I'd go for it. Personally I'd be quite comfortable doing this but it might be something you want to share.

Alex xxx

 

[Rachel]

Thanks

I would be happy having the actual scan on my own, think i'd prefer that but it's the waiting in the reception before the scan I don't want to do on my own really

Not sure if I would be able to put the scan back either Not sure how busy they get in there because I booked this scan weeks ago

 

[Chrissy1]

Sorry to hear about your OH but if I was you I'd just go on my own. Alternatively do you have a friend who could come with you to keep you company??

I know what you mean about waiting room though. I've only been for 1 early scan but everyone in there were couples so I can imagine it would feel a bit wierd on your own.

On the other hand I think that there must be ladies who have to attend on their own, either because they are single or their other halves can't attend due to work commitments etc so I'm sure the hospital will have seen it loads before.

Hey....if you were closer to me, I'd come with you

 

[ASD123456]

I went with a friend to my scan last Friday as Oh is working away, we had some funny looks, I think people thought she was my 'special' friend. There were a few girls on their own there though.

I think you should go for it if this is the oly chane you'll have for a 4D scan, it'll be a pretty special experience!

Alex xxx

 

[Small Flower]

If it were me - I'd defo go!

I'm desperate to go for a private scan - and managed to convince OH, but he's busy with work commitments for 2 wks - was really tempted to go on my own - but not really fair on him - I'd have no qualms otherwise!

I'm sure there'll be ladies on there own anyway - and there probbers isn't gonna be many woman in the waiting room. Besides, you don't know these people and they don't know your circumstances.

I'd also check that you won't get charged a fee for cancelling or re-scheduling.

Go for it I'd say - treat yourself, and enjoy your special experience.

 

[Rachel]

Thanks for your replies

Im going to go now, not missing out on this because of him and I have been looking forward to it since I booked it

Thanks again for your replies

 

[clairedoran]

Sorry to hear about you and oh. I would still go though, you will regret it otherwise i'm sure. Lots of woman go for these things on their own because of one reason or another. Post pics when you have it done, I love looking at the 4d scan pics xxx

 

[abcd1234]

i'm glad your still going, my "baby daddy" keeps walking in and out of mine nad babies life and i've spent the entire time planning for him not being around.
I've finally realised my life is better without him, all he ever brought me was sex, and a few childish laughs.
I fely so stupid at my 4D scan with me sat with my mum and him sat with his!! We must have looked so young lol.
We shoudltn let stupid blokes put us down, especially when we have little miracles inside us, i've never viewed this baby as his and i love her to bits, and if she never sees him then that prob just means he cant hurt her too

 

[Rachel]

Thanks

Im definately going to go now, going to get the full scan package aswell, DVD, CDRom, pics ect and make the most of it

Things between me and him haven't been that good for a while so im not suprised it has ended tbh. Im quite suprised he has said he dosen't want anything to do with baby though It's his loss though and we will be better off without him

 

[abcd1234]

thats good, go and enjoy it, as soon as they started my scan i forgot about everyone else in the room i was so amazed by seeing my baby.
Liek you say its only him thats missing out by not being around, although baby daddy says he cares when i went up the hospitla yesterday thinking hse wasnt ok i text him telling him and he jsut said thankx for lettingme know text me when your out, i havnt text him and it's been over 24 hours and he hasnt text to see if shes ok, my other friend was texting me constantly to check she was ok.

 

[HideiLu]

Aww glad you have decided to go! Once you seen baby up the screen you won't even be thinking about other people in the room! Plus if you're having the DVD you can share it with your Mum later and anyone else you feel comfortable showing! x

 

[Rachel]

I'll be sharing my pics and DVD with everyone who is interested

Can't wait to see my little boy again now, and im going to get them to confirm the sex

Clare - Sounds like you and your little girl are better off without him aswell

 

[Redshoes]

Rachel
I too think you should go and I also think you should give them a ring and see if they can alter the date, so your Mum can go with you, but if not, you'll have a brilliant time regardless I'm sure, very best wishes

 

[sarah2807]

Hi...I sort of know how you feel...not with the OH situation but with regards to going to your scan on your own.

i have just booked a 4d scan for next week...i was dead excited and when I told DH he said 'well....I won't be coming I'm working!!!!'

I am sooo upset and he isn't even bothered that he's missing out!!! I don't know whether to go on my own, ring my mum or cancel it. They only do them on a tues so it's getting too late to swap it to another day...plus i am cross cos he isn't even concerened about not being their ...so part of me thinks ..why should I try to move the appointment?

Think I'm gonna go on my own or take my mum along-I'm sure like people have said it'll be fab even if we do go on our own.

 

[roxanne080]

change the date and go with your mum..it will make you feel better and it will be lovely to see baby!

 

[dannii87]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry to hear he's done this to you and bubs...

Don't let that d*ck get in between your fantastic meeting with bubs!! You go hun, you deserve this chance and at least you'll have something to look forward to and if you cancel it, you might change your mind nearer the time.

Looking forward to seeing the pics! xx

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi Rachel,

Good on you, glad you've decided to go! I've never had a private scan but have had to attend scans on my own several times as my partner works a fair distance away, and it is not always easy for him to get time off as he'd have to take a whole day!

Sorry to hear about your OH - as you said though, if things haven't been right for a while then it's probably best to part company! He does sound a bit immature though, not wanting anything to do with his baby because you've split up - sounds like he's throwing a bit of a hissy fit and he'll probably change his tune later on!!! Hope he's going to contribute financially....afterall it shouldn't be something he can just walk away from just because things get tough - grrr, men, they make me mad!!!

 

[Rachel]

I was looking forward to seeing my baby again but wasn't sure about going on my own but after reading your replies and thinking about it im not going to let him ruin this for me so im definately going

Daisy rose - Im not sure what's going to happen with him now. I know that we won't be getting back together but I do want him there for baby and it will be his choice. Suppose that is all I can do really, just hope he changes his mind for the sake of his baby but if not then it really is his loss

Thanks for your replies, I really appreciate them

 

[Penstraze]

Glad your going to go any way, if its just the waiting in reception that your worried about can you not take a friend with you just to sit with you in reception if you dont want them in scan?