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[Mayflower85]

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[Coletteypie]

Hia - my mum will be my birthing partner along with my husband. I am really close to my mum too, and she only lives 5 mins around the corner. If she lived 45 mins away then I reckon she would offer to stay with us for a few days too and I would probably have agreed and welcomed it. You will want some nice family alone time of course. But I think it can be a scary and traumatic time - so if you have that good relationship with your mum then it makes sense to use it. Plus she will enjoy being there for you.

 

[buttonbear]

I guess its personal preference, I personally know I just want OH and I time with our son and new addition, its a perfect quiet time for bonding and what not. Obviously both mum and MIL will be visiting a lot but at least the first night/day will just be our family of 4

Have you spoken with your OH is he happy with having her there for a few days at the start? She wont interfere/get in the way/annoy OH/take away his moment too? If she's a diamond/support for you both then I would especially being your first

Not much help probably lol

 

[littlemonkey]

I can't imagine anything worse! But my mum and I fight like cat and dog, we're both far too opinionated and stubborn as a pair of old mules. I know my mum would moan about us not doing things her way, I'd complain she didn't do what I wanted and poor OH would be stuck in the middle!

 

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[Cakey]

My mum and dad are both coming to stay for a few days tomorrow. My parents are both very easy going and I know they won't intrude and will only offer to help however they can/we want. It'll be nice for them too as they love a few hours away so it'll be nice for them to spend a good chunk of time with their grandson.
I think you should see how you feel closer to the time. I thought I wouldn't want to see anyone after giving birth but I felt up to seeing visitors the same day. You might not want to see anyone and you might feel really tired/sore/want your alone time. Don't feel any pressure, im sure your mum will understand whatever you choose xxx

 

[buttonbear]

She's offered to come once my OH goes back to work, and he's taking two weeks paternity leave. So we'll have the first two weeks at home as a family three, I am sure she will visit during that time which is fine.

Once he's back at work though I'll be on my own, which is why I think it might be nice to have the company.

Ahhhh i seeee, yes I would say it would be lovely to have extra help, you can rest etc and just some company really

 

[papella]

This would be my worst nightmare, I really don't get on with my mum, but I wouldn't want anyone coming to stay with us anyway and certainly never at the birth. But it's definitly personal preference

 

[kitten2014]

I'm with papella and littlemonkey on this one, unfortunately I didn't even get the chance to consider this before my mum assumed her place was here (she lives in France so wouldn't just be a few days either!) and had to quickly put her right! Like you littlemonkey both similar mindsets and really want OH and I to figure it out on our own, plus have a doula and two lovely midwives that can assist where needed and have next door neighbors baking a large chocolate cake for soon after! I'm saying no to visitors atm unless feel like it at the time so OH has strict orders to inform of her arrival then say we'll call when ready...

 

[Kiagirl]

Hell no! Couldn't think of anything worse lol. We moved 45 mins from both families so I know what you mean though. Mum came to the hospital the day she was born and the day after. The day we came home from hospital we went to mil for tea as we had nothing in and did a big shop on way home. I had a duvet day the next day as I had been in hosp for 5 days with 0 sleep then I went to mums for the afternoon the next day. I went out somewhere most days as it was July and glorious. Lucie was an easy baby though so I didn't need help if you know what I mean and I just visited mum or we would meet in town half way. She was always wanting to go out, she loved pushing the big pram and buying outfits. Company is always nice but I think if you meet/visit then it's your choice to leave/come home

 

[MrsS143]

I love my mam
I'd let her come and go whenever she wanted
She'd do anything i asked and would be nothing but help and company if i wanted it
She doesn't live far away but even if she wanted to stay i wouldn't mind. I like her staying once a week anyway even though shes only a few miles away and i see her daily lol
We're all we've got is each other except for my hubby
I couldn't imagine not having her there cos she'd be in babies life daily forever til she dies anyway! X

 

[GF91]

My mum was my both partner along with my OH and she was absoloutely fantastic! So much so the midwives told her she should train as a doula! She only lives 10'mins up the road but if I couldve persuaded her to stay with me then I would've done! My mums not intrusive so she never just turns up but she came round quite a lot in the first few days, then I didn't see her for a couple & I had major anxiety issues. It's completely personal preference, but there was no way I would've done it without her! Xxx

 

[Belfa]

I think I'd like help when my husband goes back to work and would like someone to offer to stay. My dad sort of has offered and I am a total daddy's girl and am not close to my mum but they would probably want to both stay (despite the fact they live 5 mins away!).

My MIL can wind me up but in some ways I am quite close to her so I would be happy for her to stay too although to avoid a war I'd have to have my parents stay first! x